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So, your a "homebody" and cant even see, either the point of going out because nothing ever happens when you do, or you feel too scared to meet new people and being judged by new people? That's exactly why I made this forum so read, learn, and use this to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Before we start we need to understand something, leaving the house can be very challenging for some people, and usually im a bitch on this forum but il be serious today. Mostly because I feel the same, and know how it feels completely.
The Two Main Reasons.
The two main reasons people don't want to leave their house is because of our functional isolation or psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion, making people rather stay inside and never communicate or be seen outside. What these two mean are similar in some aspects but different in others. Functional isolation is what is caused by our modern society, "why go outside a lot when I can just get my needs once and play for the rest of the month inside?" With things at our hands and easy to reach so often, our brain slowly builds this idea that is dopamine hungry. Wanting to only go outside for food, work/school, or medical reasons. The other reason, psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion, is because at home our environment is very predictable and a known thing that makes us feel safe. The noise, temperature, lighting, and social interactions with family are all things that are brain already understands and feels comfortable around. If you leave the area you love most, everything can seem different and be to much. Its easy to see how both these reasons are different. But where both these reasons connect like high-awareness and an introverted brain can make you also think that everyone is only putting on an act, only doing it for others and social norms, and im not here to tell you yes or no but to inform you of all the reasons on why you many not leave the house just like me.
"Okay xor, now that I know the reasons how do i fix my mindset and go outside??"
1. How To Fix Functional Isolation
To fix functional isolation you need to do these 3 things. Try to go out, to go out. What I mean by that is go outside to be with nature, society, or anything else other than necessities. When you only leave for necessities, your brain experiences high friction before going out because it expects a demanding task. You need to introduce micro-outings that have zero utility. Doing this more and more will relax your brain and allow it to understand going outside isn't a chore but something to do if your sad, angry, or just want to reconnect with society. The second thing to do is to shift your mindset from "consumption" to "observation". When you are functionally isolated, you stop paying attention to your surroundings because you are hyper-focused on your indoor routine. To change this, when going outside try to notice more things, or calculate more possibilities and make all these plans for simple things. Doing this will re-engage your brains curiosity and make it less focused on only the needs, but also on the other reasons to go outside. The third and final thing to do is time-block your outdoor windows, If you leave your schedule open-ended, the comfort of your house will always win. You must treat non-essential outdoor time like a need you have to do. To do this you need to pick a natural transition point in your day. If you go to school/work, watch any shows, or have any home work. Schedule your micro-outings right when your done or finish your specific routine. Going out for small increments will allow, like all these previous ones to change your mindset and see outside differently.
"And what about psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion?"
2. How To Fix Psychological Comfort and Emotional Exhaustion
To fix psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion you have to do these 3 small things. Forget the idea that you have to socialize when outside, emotional exhaustion usually comes from masking or managing social expectations. You can go outside without socializing. This is called passive co-existence being near people without interacting with them. Go somewhere where anonymity is the norm, listen to your favorite music while doing your favorite thing, the only change is that it will be in a public atmosphere, doing this will make your brain comfortable, because its doing what it likes, and happy to be in public, slowly changing what you think of the outside. Another thing to do is Transition from comfort to safety, when you are in your home it provides psychological comfort because it is 100% predictable like I talked about earlier. To go outside, you don't need to give up that comfort you just need to export a piece of it with you. This is the Portable Sanctuary Strategy, wearing your favorite clothes, eating your favorite food, and like I said earlier listening to your favorite songs allows you to still be comfortable outside. Also, while im writing/researching this I took a break to watch my favorite show, you should do the same with the outside. If your social battery is low, take a break and reconstruct that mindset that you can do it. The final thing to do is Deconstruct the mindset that always talks about the Worst Case and what could happen. Psychological comfort traps your brain into thinking, "If I go out, something exhausting or awkward will happen, and I won't be able to handle it." You need to logically challenge this loop before you open the door and step outside. Stop viewing the outside world as an aggressive entity demanding your attention. Reframe it as a neutral backdrop. The trees, the sky, and the sidewalks do not care that you are tired; they are just there. You can lean into that indifference and grow comfort or a connection with the outside.
Now, that is all on this thread. I hope at least one person was able to read all of this and understand something, and remember always do these things in small steps, doing them slowly and how you like helps best
that's all!
@Br4va @The Dark Passenger @klyro @Nobodyreallycares @Hypertrophy @Dearpleasehelpme @yyoloo @saccharinesaint @copevictim @gatetoheaven @be @widepalate
The Two Main Reasons.
The two main reasons people don't want to leave their house is because of our functional isolation or psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion, making people rather stay inside and never communicate or be seen outside. What these two mean are similar in some aspects but different in others. Functional isolation is what is caused by our modern society, "why go outside a lot when I can just get my needs once and play for the rest of the month inside?" With things at our hands and easy to reach so often, our brain slowly builds this idea that is dopamine hungry. Wanting to only go outside for food, work/school, or medical reasons. The other reason, psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion, is because at home our environment is very predictable and a known thing that makes us feel safe. The noise, temperature, lighting, and social interactions with family are all things that are brain already understands and feels comfortable around. If you leave the area you love most, everything can seem different and be to much. Its easy to see how both these reasons are different. But where both these reasons connect like high-awareness and an introverted brain can make you also think that everyone is only putting on an act, only doing it for others and social norms, and im not here to tell you yes or no but to inform you of all the reasons on why you many not leave the house just like me.
"Okay xor, now that I know the reasons how do i fix my mindset and go outside??"
1. How To Fix Functional Isolation
To fix functional isolation you need to do these 3 things. Try to go out, to go out. What I mean by that is go outside to be with nature, society, or anything else other than necessities. When you only leave for necessities, your brain experiences high friction before going out because it expects a demanding task. You need to introduce micro-outings that have zero utility. Doing this more and more will relax your brain and allow it to understand going outside isn't a chore but something to do if your sad, angry, or just want to reconnect with society. The second thing to do is to shift your mindset from "consumption" to "observation". When you are functionally isolated, you stop paying attention to your surroundings because you are hyper-focused on your indoor routine. To change this, when going outside try to notice more things, or calculate more possibilities and make all these plans for simple things. Doing this will re-engage your brains curiosity and make it less focused on only the needs, but also on the other reasons to go outside. The third and final thing to do is time-block your outdoor windows, If you leave your schedule open-ended, the comfort of your house will always win. You must treat non-essential outdoor time like a need you have to do. To do this you need to pick a natural transition point in your day. If you go to school/work, watch any shows, or have any home work. Schedule your micro-outings right when your done or finish your specific routine. Going out for small increments will allow, like all these previous ones to change your mindset and see outside differently.
"And what about psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion?"
2. How To Fix Psychological Comfort and Emotional Exhaustion
To fix psychological comfort and emotional exhaustion you have to do these 3 small things. Forget the idea that you have to socialize when outside, emotional exhaustion usually comes from masking or managing social expectations. You can go outside without socializing. This is called passive co-existence being near people without interacting with them. Go somewhere where anonymity is the norm, listen to your favorite music while doing your favorite thing, the only change is that it will be in a public atmosphere, doing this will make your brain comfortable, because its doing what it likes, and happy to be in public, slowly changing what you think of the outside. Another thing to do is Transition from comfort to safety, when you are in your home it provides psychological comfort because it is 100% predictable like I talked about earlier. To go outside, you don't need to give up that comfort you just need to export a piece of it with you. This is the Portable Sanctuary Strategy, wearing your favorite clothes, eating your favorite food, and like I said earlier listening to your favorite songs allows you to still be comfortable outside. Also, while im writing/researching this I took a break to watch my favorite show, you should do the same with the outside. If your social battery is low, take a break and reconstruct that mindset that you can do it. The final thing to do is Deconstruct the mindset that always talks about the Worst Case and what could happen. Psychological comfort traps your brain into thinking, "If I go out, something exhausting or awkward will happen, and I won't be able to handle it." You need to logically challenge this loop before you open the door and step outside. Stop viewing the outside world as an aggressive entity demanding your attention. Reframe it as a neutral backdrop. The trees, the sky, and the sidewalks do not care that you are tired; they are just there. You can lean into that indifference and grow comfort or a connection with the outside.
Now, that is all on this thread. I hope at least one person was able to read all of this and understand something, and remember always do these things in small steps, doing them slowly and how you like helps best
that's all!@Br4va @The Dark Passenger @klyro @Nobodyreallycares @Hypertrophy @Dearpleasehelpme @yyoloo @saccharinesaint @copevictim @gatetoheaven @be @widepalate
yeah np i remember last time i made a thread you said to tag you