i’m afraid to have kids and afraid not to have kids

[Majaslovenia]

On one hand, the world feels unstabl, financial pressure, mental health struggles, relationships not feeling guaranteed, getting cheated on, single motherhood etc. I worry I wouldn’t be able to give a child the life they deserve or that I’d lose myself completely in the process.

On the other hand, I’m also afraid of not having kids. What if I regret it later? What if I miss out on something meaningful, like family, connection, legacy, or just experiencing that kind of love?

Anyone who’s insane like me or is it just me?

 

[splanky]

On one hand, the world feels unstabl, financial pressure, mental health struggles, relationships not feeling guaranteed, getting cheated on, single motherhood etc. I worry I wouldn’t be able to give a child the life they deserve or that I’d lose myself completely in the process.

On the other hand, I’m also afraid of not having kids. What if I regret it later? What if I miss out on something meaningful, like family, connection, legacy, or just experiencing that kind of love?

Anyone who’s insane like me or is it just me?

same for me the way i feel about it always changes
rn i feel like if i don’t have a daughter when im older i need to kms

 

[Trevor]

If you got bad genetics don't reproduce

 

[Majaslovenia]

If you got bad genetics don't reproduce

I’m white

 

[Majaslovenia]

same for me the way i feel about it always changes
rn i feel like if i don’t have a daughter when im older i need to kms

Yes especially i fewl like i’m running out of time

 

[Trevor]

I’m white

You good then

 

[PeoplePleaser]

I’m white

nice larp. i can smell the 3% ashkenazi jewish in you

 

[fatfuckingchud]

have kids

 

[Majaslovenia]

nice larp. i can smell the 3% ashkenazi jewish in you

Hahahhaha n****r what

 

[Majaslovenia]

have kids

What age is tje best age to have them?

 

[fatfuckingchud]

What age is tje best age to have them?

probably 27 or 28 dont do over 35 because then theyll have more chance of being autistic or a downy

 

[jest]

On one hand, the world feels unstabl, financial pressure, mental health struggles, relationships not feeling guaranteed, getting cheated on, single motherhood etc. I worry I wouldn’t be able to give a child the life they deserve or that I’d lose myself completely in the process.

On the other hand, I’m also afraid of not having kids. What if I regret it later? What if I miss out on something meaningful, like family, connection, legacy, or just experiencing that kind of love?

Anyone who’s insane like me or is it just me?

this is how i feel! but also i dont think i ever ever want kids. pregnancy and birth are two horrifying nightmarish thoughts for me but then i feel like im living wrong if i dont end up having kids

 

[Majaslovenia]

probably 27 or 28 dont do over 35 because then theyll have more chance of being autistic or a downy

Yeah you’re right, my parents had me when they were 27, i’m 24 now just graduated. Is it too late?

 

[fatfuckingchud]

Yeah you’re right, my parents had me when they were 27, i’m 24 now just graduated. Is it too late?

no not at all do you have a partner

 

[Majaslovenia]

no not at all do you have a partner

Just ended my 4 year old relationship so no but even then, nowadays men dont want a woman thats not a virgin, even if my bodycount is low i wont get taken seriously i think

 

[fatfuckingchud]

Just ended my 4 year old relationship so no but even then, nowadays men dont want a woman thats not a virgin, even if my bodycount is low i wont get taken seriously i think

ah hope you're feeling okay loads of guys want a virgin seriously it's a big thing ive heard lots of ppl say they want one

 

[Majaslovenia]

ah hope you're feeling okay loads of guys want a virgin seriously it's a big thing ive heard lots of ppl say they want one

No i mean i’m NOT a virgin lmao

 

[Gargantuan]

Your body is literally built to reproduce. If you want to have sex (everyone does), you also want kids automatically.

Reproduction & raising your offspring isn't a lifestyle option, it's the literal core loop your system was built for.
You cannot outthink biology and your natural desires, you either align with it or spend years rationalising why you didn’t and live to regret it.

I would explode with happiness if I had a child rn, because I know my animal self wants it more than anything else.