Discussion I feel like the best relationships begin as

[Motivated Dandelions]

friends.

It is often reported that the most clutch athletes are the ones who think automatically, as where the least clutch ones overthink every mechanic. There is validity to this. So, how does this tie in to the topic?

When you find someone attractive and want to get to know them in order to date them one day, you begin a talking stage or hook up or whatever it may be. But, the issue with this is that you’re analyzing every small detail and rushing it. You’re not allowing yourself to truly know the person and give them opportunities to express their true selves.

However, when you’re just friends with someone, it’s pretty clear that it’s merely platonic and both sides aren’t afraid to be themselves. They also aren’t afraid to spend time apart, which is a key factor as well.

Over time, you may develop feelings for them. BUT THIS HAS TO HAPPEN BY DEFAULT. It’s not something you seek out; it just happens by default, as a result of you really liking their character and having that special connection and bond.

Talking stages and such will never workout, imo. Solely due to the fact that you’re seeking the negatives in the other party by default and you’re putting unreasonable expectations on them

 

[fordirelifesake]

friends.

It is often reported that the most clutch athletes are the ones who think automatically, as where the least clutch ones overthink every mechanic. There is validity to this. So, how does this tie in to the topic?

When you find someone attractive and want to get to know them in order to date them one day, you begin a talking stage or hook up or whatever it may be. But, the issue with this is that you’re analyzing every small detail and rushing it. You’re not allowing yourself to truly know the person and give them opportunities to express their true selves.

However, when you’re just friends with someone, it’s pretty clear that it’s merely platonic and both sides aren’t afraid to be themselves. They also aren’t afraid to spend time apart, which is a key factor as well.

Over time, you may develop feelings for them. BUT THIS HAS TO HAPPEN BY DEFAULT. It’s not something you seek out; it just happens by default, as a result of you really liking their character and having that special connection and bond.

Talking stages and such will never workout, imo. Solely due to the fact that you’re seeking the negatives in the other party by default and you’re putting unreasonable expectations on them

yea i agree. i feel like my talking stage sabotaged the actual relationship that ensued because it felt like we talked like we knew we were gonna date at some point. Then when she asked me out way too suddenly, i felt like the only possible choice was to say yes because 'why else did i talk to her every day'

 

[Motivated Dandelions]

yea i agree. i feel like my talking stage sabotaged the actual relationship that ensued because it felt like we talked like we knew we were gonna date at some point. Then when she asked me out way too suddenly, i felt like the only possible choice was to say yes because 'why else did i talk to her every day'

THANK YOU BROOO, that’s literally how I feel, you put my thoughts into word. Fakecel Chad rambles btw, DNR

 

[rand anon]

Yeah but then u also aren’t playing the numbersgame. There’s a good chance nothing ever happens with this approach, so u hve to be okay with that. Also, if u end up developing strong feelings that aren’t reciprocated, it hurts badly

 

[Motivated Dandelions]

Yeah but then u also aren’t playing the numbersgame. There’s a good chance nothing ever happens with this approach, so u hve to be okay with that. Also, if u end up developing strong feelings that aren’t reciprocated, it hurts badly

Brvtal Trvke… I still think it’s significantly better than hopping from talking stage to talking stage and fucking over your pair bonding abilities over 3 week failed talking stages with hypergamous foids