Rage i hate getting attached so easily

[Monsieur Meow]

not really a rage post more like vent

I take everything personally I get attached to anybody. i always give people significance js for appearing into my life, cz fate or destiny put us together so it hast to be worth lasting forever and it could be anyone like anyone even if i havent personally interacted with them, sometimes might not even know me
i get sad if someone gets banned here if ive seen them post here before but never talked with them, even if they did smth bad to get banned it feels weird cz they were on the forum but now theyre not
i get sad if someone self bans like a few ppl did but they dont even know me
i get sad if a guy in my school that i once in a while see and admire suddenly gets a gf
i get sad if someone in my school/class changes schools, js last year when i started hs some ppl changed schools cz ib was too hard for them and i knew them for barely 2-3weeks and i told them not to leave or smth like try to work harder its not gonna be that js so they would still be my classmates cz i thought we started off together and we need to graduate together asw, but they js gave me awkward laughs
it was even worse when i was younger, i took pictures of any stranger that looked at me/smiled/said hi/etc bc i didnt want to forget them and move on they had to be somehow in my life even after that encounter
i get sad if a bad teacher at our school gets fired cz it doesnt feel the same without them even if it would be better

sometimes i meet ppl that i kinda get close with but theyre more important to me compared to how much i would be to them, i get clingy, bother them all the time, get anxious if they stop talking to me (even if its cz their busy or smth) and thats why if smth happens between us like nothing too srs/bad i will take it like a breakup meanwhile they wont care
same with online people i push them to where they block me and i go thru episodes of depression and then it all starts again

its happened enough many times that when i meet a new person irl or online ik when im starting to get attached to them but i still dont stop or like back off idk what to do ab it

 

[Anna]

real I used to get attached to people easily

 

[Monsieur Meow]

i accidentally posted it too early but i edited it now

 

[Monsieur Meow]

real I used to get attached to people easily

howd u stop

 

[Anna]

howd u stop

idk it sounds corny but i got led on by so many people i just stopped caring lol

 

[Monsieur Meow]

idk it sounds corny but i got led on by so many people i just stopped caring lol

i mean same for me it got too overwhelming so i stopped most of it but its still really bad

 

[Anna]

i mean same for me it got too overwhelming so i stopped most of it but its still really bad

I kinda just feel like nothing matters anymore tbh, I just go with the flow and try not to overthink stuff. That helps a lot

 

[Monsieur Meow]

I kinda just feel like nothing matters anymore tbh, I just go with the flow and try not to overthink stuff. That helps a lot

and if u js cantdo that

 

[Anna]

and if u js cantdo that

idk ngl but I am sure all will be well eventually

 

[Monsieur Meow]

bump

 

[Starlet]

you need to just recognize it and consciously talk yourself out of it to not get attached, and obviously being realistic and putting distance too. I’ve learned you can’t get through life by being sensitive. Also I don’t believe in fate or destiny either. everyone leaves it’s the one thing I haven’t learned to fully cope with either. it might never not hurt at all but you can get it to hurt less

 

[hazyfuture]

you need to just recognize it and consciously talk yourself out of it to not get attached, and obviously being realistic and putting distance too. I’ve learned you can’t get through life by being sensitive. Also I don’t believe in fate or destiny either. everyone leaves it’s the one thing I haven’t learned to fully cope with either. it might never not hurt at all but you can get it to hurt less

Clown react was an accident btw

 

[snoopy12]

not really a rage post more like vent

I take everything personally I get attached to anybody. i always give people significance js for appearing into my life, cz fate or destiny put us together so it hast to be worth lasting forever and it could be anyone like anyone even if i havent personally interacted with them, sometimes might not even know me
i get sad if someone gets banned here if ive seen them post here before but never talked with them, even if they did smth bad to get banned it feels weird cz they were on the forum but now theyre not
i get sad if someone self bans like a few ppl did but they dont even know me
i get sad if a guy in my school that i once in a while see and admire suddenly gets a gf
i get sad if someone in my school/class changes schools, js last year when i started hs some ppl changed schools cz ib was too hard for them and i knew them for barely 2-3weeks and i told them not to leave or smth like try to work harder its not gonna be that js so they would still be my classmates cz i thought we started off together and we need to graduate together asw, but they js gave me awkward laughs
it was even worse when i was younger, i took pictures of any stranger that looked at me/smiled/said hi/etc bc i didnt want to forget them and move on they had to be somehow in my life even after that encounter
i get sad if a bad teacher at our school gets fired cz it doesnt feel the same without them even if it would be better

sometimes i meet ppl that i kinda get close with but theyre more important to me compared to how much i would be to them, i get clingy, bother them all the time, get anxious if they stop talking to me (even if its cz their busy or smth) and thats why if smth happens between us like nothing too srs/bad i will take it like a breakup meanwhile they wont care
same with online people i push them to where they block me and i go thru episodes of depression and then it all starts again

its happened enough many times that when i meet a new person irl or online ik when im starting to get attached to them but i still dont stop or like back off idk what to do ab it

i used to be exactly like this i still kinda am but you have to realize that nobody cares that much about you
like it sucks but im serious focus on the people you’re actually close with and stop viewing people as friends unless you know them irl and talk to them every day

 

[mus]

it’s okay bby me too

 

[Starlet]

you need to just recognize it and consciously talk yourself out of it to not get attached, and obviously being realistic and putting distance too. I’ve learned you can’t get through life by being sensitive. Also I don’t believe in fate or destiny either. everyone leaves it’s the one thing I haven’t learned to fully cope with either. it might never not hurt at all but you can get it to hurt less

as an example, I force myself to not really make guy friends and to not get attached to them because in my experience it’s always the same cycle where they like you and then they drop you like nothing when you don’t give them what they want and it gets inconvenient for them

 

[Monsieur Meow]

i used to be exactly like this i still kinda am but you have to realize that nobody cares that much about you
like it sucks but im serious focus on the people you’re actually close with and stop viewing people as friends unless you know them irl and talk to them every day

iknow like so many situations have shown me this but i js cant stop it
ik early on before im too attached and i could easily back off or js control myself but i cant i js keep letting myself get obsessed over them for no reason
sometimes theres ppl i dont like i probably hate them but i still am so glued to them i cant let go

 

[snoopy12]

iknow like so many situations have shown me this but i js cant stop it
ik early on before im too attached and i could easily back off or js control myself but i cant i js keep letting myself get obsessed over them for no reason
sometimes theres ppl i dont like i probably hate them but i still am so glued to them i cant let go

i understand baby don’t worry you’ll get there
what else do you care about? did you have any hobbies or sports or something you can focus on

 

[Monsieur Meow]

as an example, I force myself to not really make guy friends and to not get attached to them because in my experience it’s always the same cycle where they like you and then they drop you like nothing when you don’t give them what they want and it gets inconvenient for them

i dont have guy friends but i do have a few guy classmate that im close with or have known them for a long time and ive never looked at them romantically and they didnt to me either and one of my closest classmates known him for 11 years has had like 3 gfs whilewe talked and ididnt care
but then in other situation i get so mad when someone doesnt talk to me or says smth bad to me and thankfully ive learned to stop the "im sorry im so annoying" "u probably hate me" act bc its so fucking cringe but its still obvious that im mad or clingy and idont stop until they hate me

 

[kornfan]

i understand it sucks

 

[Starlet]

i dont have guy friends but i do have a few guy classmate that im close with or have known them for a long time and ive never looked at them romantically and they didnt to me either and one of my closest classmates known him for 11 years has had like 3 gfs whilewe talked and ididnt care
but then in other situation i get so mad when someone doesnt talk to me or says smth bad to me and thankfully ive learned to stop the "im sorry im so annoying" "u probably hate me" act bc its so fucking cringe but its still obvious that im mad or clingy and idont stop until they hate me

honestly don’t spam people and if someone isn’t reciprocating or doesn’t want you around then just leave, but obviously don’t end a relationship over just a single sentence either cause it’d most likely be an overreaction

 

[Monsieur Meow]

i understand baby don’t worry you’ll get there
what else do you care about? did you have any hobbies or sports or something you can focus on

i do have some hobbies like arts/crafts, reading, collecting stuff, researching underwater stuff and i had more before but i js lose motivation to do anything recently
my family is js not sane and i wont blame it js on them im also js lazy and keep procrastinating but they have a big influence on my life asw

i also have a problem of talking to myself which is so fucking embarassing but i cannot do anything ab it
i talk to imaginary ppl and they could be imaginary ppl or js someone in the real world and this whole thing js makes it worse
bc even if i dont talk to the said person that much i still talk to them imaginarily or wtv and that makes me more connected to them but they dont consider me as close of a friend
ive had this since childhood but back then it was me being part of peppa pigs family or lightning mcqueen had a crush on me or smth stupid like that but now its more "srs" so if im alone it doesnt matter what im doing ill js start talking to myself and someitmes it gets so intense i start doing gestures and walking around here and there

 

[Monsieur Meow]

i understand it sucks

theres someone on the forum that im kinda close with (probably js what i think) and im already so attached to them i think theyre starting to realise and will probably know im talking ab them

 

[Monsieur Meow]

honestly don’t spam people and if someone isn’t reciprocating or doesn’t want you around then just leave, but obviously don’t end a relationship over just a single sentence either cause it’d most likely be an overreaction

yeah thank you
sometimes its also like say its a guy im talking to, the way i act would make them think i like them romantically but i probably dont i js care ab them too much and bc they wouldnt like me back romantically (which in certain situations understandable bc we dont even know eachother well enough or its js not appropriate) but they either reject me ? or ghost me

 

[Starlet]

bc even if i dont talk to the said person that much i still talk to them imaginarily or wtv and that makes me more connected to them but they dont consider me as close of a friend

yeah you’re just falling in love and creating a fantasy of them atp and not their real selves and turning them into an idea of sort

 

[kornfan]

theres someone on the forum that im kinda close with (probably js what i think) and im already so attached to them i think theyre starting to realise and will probably know im talking ab them

i also got attached to someone on this forum and they helped me a lot

 

[Monsieur Meow]

yeah you’re just falling in love and creating a fantasy of them atp and not their real selves and turning them into an idea of sort

ive realized that but js cant stop it

 

[Starlet]

yeah thank you
sometimes its also like say its a guy im talking to, the way i act would make them think i like them romantically but i probably dont i js care ab them too much and bc they wouldnt like me back romantically (which in certain situations understandable bc we dont even know eachother well enough or its js not appropriate) but they either reject me ? or ghost me

really, you get rejected a lot?

 

[Monsieur Meow]

i also got attached to someone on this forum and they helped me a lot

theyre not here anymore?

 

[Monsieur Meow]

really, you get rejected a lot?

i never confess or make the first move with anyone im too scared
but ive gotten rejected a few times even tho i never liked the person in the first place but they thought i did bc how clingy i was
other times they js stop talking to me

 

[Monsieur Meow]

Clown react was an accident btw

i didnt even notice lmao its fine

 

[kornfan]

theyre not here anymore?

idk i don’t see them here but we talk on other platforms now