I love my bf but maybe I should leave him

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

i feel like ill probably end up ruining his life or making him uncomfortable

 

[submissivechud]

thats a self destructive belief system
communicate your feelings w him

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

thats a self destructive belief system
communicate your feelings w him

I cant just tell someone who's a normie that Im a psychopath who wanted to kill people and was into tcc and joined a furry belly cult when I was 12 without ruining my entire life

 

[submissivechud]

I cant just tell someone who's a normie that Im a psychopath who wanted to kill people and was into tcc and joined a furry belly cult when I was 12 without ruining my entire life

then you'll never have a truly healthy relationship
if someone loves you they wouldn't leave you for your past

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

then you'll never have a truly healthy relationship
if someone loves you they wouldn't leave you for your past

My past is introducing my Discord ex to my groomer friends and e cheating, this shit is NOT forgivable

 

[submissivechud]

My past is introducing my Discord ex to my groomer friends and e cheating, this shit is NOT forgivable

the past is the past
again
if someone loves you for who you are that wouldn't change their love for you
you don't have to tell him the bad stuff if u don't feel comfortable
but you need to communicate your feelings

 

[TonyDr]

i feel like ill probably end up ruining his life or making him uncomfortable

You have a bf now ?

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

You have a bf now ?

Yeah, I basically managed to make the impossible possible

 

[TonyDr]

Yeah, I basically managed to make the impossible possible

Don't fuck-up things

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

the past is the past
again
if someone loves you for who you are that wouldn't change their love for you
you don't have to tell him the bad stuff if u don't feel comfortable
but you need to communicate your feelings

There's also all the crazy shit I do even without the past, like the fact that I threatened to shoot someone over some petty bullshit I don't remember

 

[submissivechud]

There's also all the crazy shit I do even without the past, like the fact that I threatened to shoot someone over some petty bullshit I don't remember

n***a u don't gotta communicate that shit
js tell him how I feel and why

 

[victorique]

i feel like ill probably end up ruining his life or making him uncomfortable

Leave him if you feel like this

 

[slim_jim001]

I had a bf at one point and even my mom agreed I was corrupting him, just get with someone evil and it will be balanced out

 

[Trevor]

Just have a positive mindset it'll work out. No need to be so negative all the time brah

 

[Deleted Member 117603]

i feel like ill probably end up ruining his life or making him uncomfortable

age is a massive factor here - and i will try and generalize info to be more open.

most of your expression is likely due to attention seeking tendencies - a need to feel like youre being heard because you dont feel this enough in your won life. This is a terrible trait to leave unnoticed and should be immediately addressed - ideally before getting a partner.

people are exactly how they act without fail - if you get along dont think into it too much.

thats a self destructive belief system
communicate your feelings w him

i disagree. this is more of an internal thing of the person themself, rather then an issue that should be offloaded onto someone else. If you dont have the facilities to address youre own insecurities - dont offload them onto someone else and rob yourself the opportunity to learn how to cope in future.

 

[submissivechud]

age is a massive factor here - and i will try and generalize info to be more open.

most of your expression is likely due to attention seeking tendencies - a need to feel like youre being heard because you dont feel this enough in your won life. This is a terrible trait to leave unnoticed and should be immediately addressed - ideally before getting a partner.

people are exactly how they act without fail - if you get along dont think into it too much.

i disagree. this is more of an internal thing of the person themself, rather then an issue that should be offloaded onto someone else. If you dont have the facilities to address youre own insecurities - dont offload them onto someone else and rob yourself the opportunity to learn how to cope in future.

this isn't a self growth experience this is a relationship
she obviously cant cope with this
its better for her to learn how to communicate with partners then ruin her relationship and become even sadder

 

[Deleted Member 117603]

Just have a positive mindset it'll work out. No need to be so negative all the time brah

coping mechanisms are only good to an extent - i dont feel this is the time for a coping mechanism and should actually be addressed.

Leave him if you feel like this

people are just like you, read your own initial reaction to a situation - prolonged internal conflict will only delay a decision youve already concluded.

 

[Deleted Member 117603]

this isn't a self growth experience this is a relationship
she obviously cant cope with this
its better for her to learn how to communicate with partners then ruin her relationship and become even sadder

before you reply, please read what i say so i dont have to repeat myself.

this isnt a peer things, this is a personal thing that will continue even after this partner, into the next.
having a partner doesnt make you a more functional and complete person - fix yourself beforehand.

 

[victorique]

people are just like you, read your own initial reaction to a situation - prolonged internal conflict will only delay a decision youve already concluded.

Feels like it a barnum statement

 

[Deleted Member 117603]

Feels like it a barnum statement

unfortunately "barnum" didnt say it, i did.

 

[victorique]

unfortunately "barnum" didnt say it, i did.

I wasn't referring to barnum himself but rather the concept of barnum effect

 

[Deleted Member 117603]

I wasn't referring to barnum himself but rather the concept of barnum effect

if you need some other person to tell you how you feel - thats a problem itself.

you should already know how you feel about something - and that underlying feeling on something will not change with justifications in ur own head.

learn to just trust your own initial feelings on shit

 

[victorique]

i actually hate pretending to be a pretentious 15 year old sometimes, because my genuine advice gets r***d to death by actually stupid people on this fucking website.

if you need some other person to tell you how you feel - thats a problem itself.

you should already know how you feel about something - and that underlying feeling on something will not change with justifications in ur own head.

learn to just trust your own initial feelings on shit

@SevenColorCrystalBall