I really need to get rid of my incel mentality.

[Chifuyu]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

 

[Deleted Member 51566]

I wonder if they think you're gay

 

[paulyune]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

hi ive never blatantly just thought out of nowhere that my teacher was ugly while talking to me

 

[Chifuyu]

I wonder if they think you're gay

None of the students think that.

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

I promise you nobody is sizing up the teacher based on sex appeal

 

[Nbernical]

Teenage boys are just easier to talk to, as a male teacher

 

[Chifuyu]

hi ive never blatantly just thought out of nowhere that my teacher was ugly while talking to me

Hi there, thank you for your input. But even if your teacher was an awful sight, would you hate having them say hi how are you, etc?

 

[Chifuyu]

I promise you nobody is sizing up the teacher based on sex appeal

I really hope so, but you’re a guy right? You wouldn’t know what female students think.

 

[paulyune]

Hi there, thank you for your input. But even if your teacher was an awful sight, would you hate having them say hi how are you, etc?

no unless they were mean

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

I really hope so, but you’re a guy right? You wouldn’t know what female students think.

FtM, so I sort of know

 

[Chifuyu]

Teenage boys are just easier to talk to, as a male teacher

I agree, it’s never weird (unless the teacher is openly gay). Though in America, I hear male teachers have to be extra careful, some get false allegations. That was another reason why I am more distant in general.

 

[hurricane]

Sounds good, I’m done with women.

 

[Notnotover0]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

Professionalism is your social armor literally do not care just do it stop thinking and just do what nessery and usually what I do is practice similar phases like "hows your day" "what are you doing right now" well in your case are you struggling in any topics just say similar phases and practice answers that's what I do

If you wanted to know I rather not do it but to part take in the norm it's nessery for social interaction

 

[Chifuyu]

no unless they were mean

Oh ok! Thanks for weighing in. And what exactly made (some?) teachers mean in your opinion?

 

[Chifuyu]

FtM, so I sort of know

Oh that’s cool, you got any pronouns you want me to use?

 

[Chifuyu]

Sounds good, I’m done with women.

Hahaha. Well, I have to deal with the students fair and square, regardless of gender.

 

[chudlite67]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

so what do u do if one of the girls asks u for help?

 

[Notnotover0]

I agree, it’s never weird (unless the teacher is openly gay). Though in America, I hear male teachers have to be extra careful, some get false allegations. That was another reason why I am more distant in general.

Well a good tip is never be alone with a female student

 

[Chifuyu]

Professionalism is your social armor literally do not care just do it stop thinking and just do what nessery and usually what I do is practice similar phases like "hows your day" "what are you doing right now" well in your case are you struggling in any topics just say similar phases and practice answers that's what I do

If you wanted to know I rather not do it but to part take in the norm it's nessery for social interaction

Thanks for the input! I don’t have a problem with socializing, but I always have this “I bet she doesn’t want this ugly male to talk to her” regardless of the circumstances. That’s my biggest problem.

 

[paulyune]

Oh ok! Thanks for weighing in. And what exactly made (some?) teachers mean in your opinion?

one legit called me a r****d and yelled at me I consider that mean

 

[Chifuyu]

so what do u do if one of the girls asks u for help?

I help them, but I mean with the boys I can say hey what’s up, but with the girls I think it’s probably weird and they don’t want it.

 

[Chifuyu]

Well a good tip is never be alone with a female student

My placement is always crowded, there’s no way you can be alone with any student. But yeah that’s a good tip, I see it online in teacher spaces as well. Or to have the door open at least. But I won’t have to worry about this stuff as a student teacher.

 

[Chifuyu]

one legit called me a r****d and yelled at me I consider that mean

That’s not only mean, that’s highly unprofessional. What a dickhead.

 

[chudlite67]

I help them, but I mean with the boys I can say hey what’s up, but with the girls I think it’s probably weird and they don’t want it.

oh good
you made it sound like you dont talk to them at all i thought wow this guy is beyond helping

 

[Notnotover0]

Thanks for the input! I don’t have a problem with socializing, but I always have this “I bet she doesn’t want this ugly male to talk to her” regardless of the circumstances. That’s my biggest problem.

Well maybe it's better to look at it as a job like it's a nessery to teach but don't interact at a personal level view it as a job you shouldn't care people are going to talk bad about a teacher no matter what for example if they got a bad grade guess who they are blaming first the not actractive teacher you got to accept it unfortunately wait what's a student teacher again

 

[Chifuyu]

oh good
you made it sound like you dont talk to them at all i thought wow this guy is beyond helping

Hahah that last sentence made me laugh. No I definitely help them but I never say hi how’s your day, etc. And building a social relationship with students is encouraged as part of my university’s requirements.

 

[Chifuyu]

Well maybe it's better to look at it as a job like it's a nessery to teach but don't interact at a personal level view it as a job you shouldn't care people are going to talk bad about a teacher no matter what for example if they got a bad grade guess who they are blaming first the not actractive teacher you got to accept it unfortunately wait what's a student teacher again

A student teacher is a teacher in training, someone who’s studying to become a teacher but doesn’t have a degree yet that allows them to do that. Teachers who are actually teaching are called licensed teachers. Anyway yeah, it’s kind of like a job.. but the university does require us to form social relationships with the students as well, so that’s why I’m posting this now. The mentor teacher will also see if I met the requirements and let my university know. So there’s no way around it for me.

 

[Notnotover0]

A student teacher is a teacher in training, someone who’s studying to become a teacher but doesn’t have a degree yet that allows them to do that. Teachers who are actually teaching are called licensed teachers. Anyway yeah, it’s kind of like a job.. but the university does require us to form social relationships with the students as well, so that’s why I’m posting this now. The mentor teacher will also see if I met the requirements and let my university know. So there’s no way around it for me.

Good luck. maybe you can try benzos

 

[Chifuyu]

Good luck. maybe you can try benzos

Dude I’m not gonna do drugs. XD

 

[Notnotover0]

Dude I’m not gonna do drugs. XD

75 million Americans are on benzos XD it's pretty common

 

[Chifuyu]

75 million Americans are on benzos XD it's pretty common

No wonder there’s so many serial killers there. I mean I just like being sober anyway.

 

[Galvatron]

Bru same I’m playing ow with a girl and I can’t say what I want too

 

[Notnotover0]

75 million Americans are on benzos XD it's pretty common

My bad it's 30 million

 

[chudlite67]

Hahah that last sentence made me laugh.

nice

No I definitely help them but I never say hi how’s your day, etc. And building a social relationship with students is encouraged as part of my university’s requirements.

this kinda of suff in passing is ok totally not predatory
i once had a casual student teacher like you in his early 20s who was semi-attractive and was totally aware that many girls had a crush on him and i mean he wouldnt straight out flirt with them but lets just say it was pretty obvious he enjoyed the attention

 

[Deleted Member 111657]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

It’s good that you recognize it’s something to fix, I’m sure you’re being a lot more self deprecating than the way any of those girls are thinking

 

[Chifuyu]

Bru same I’m playing ow with a girl and I can’t say what I want too

How to get rid of our incel mindsets bhai?

 

[Notnotover0]

No wonder there’s so many serial killers there. I mean I just like being sober anyway.

Ok that makes sense

 

[Chifuyu]

My bad it's 30 million

Wow. The NL has 18 million people. That’s basically the entire country on drugs.

 

[knightmaxxer]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

i actually have a teacher at my school like this, people are probably calling you gay behind your back btw, just thought you should know

 

[Galvatron]

How to get rid of our incel mindsets bhai?

I mostly try and talk about the game and my if my friends did anything funny. You mostly just have to pretend there a guy which sounds gay but that’s what helped me

 

[Chifuyu]

nice

this kinda of suff in passing is ok totally not predatory
i once had a casual student teacher like you in his early 20s who was semi-attractive and was totally aware that many girls had a crush on him and i mean he wouldnt straight out flirt with them but lets just say it was pretty obvious he enjoyed the attention

Oh dude, good-looking teachers have it so good. Not because they have students crushing on them, but because they don’t need to learn classroom management. They never have to deal with a rowdy classroom and if they do, the female students will tell the male students to STFU. I had it happen when I was a student and our class was so annoying but as soon as we had a hot guy teacher, suddenly all the girls were paying attention and telling the boys to stfu. If this was the 2020s, they’d tell us to “sybau.” Luckily I won’t have to deal with what your student teacher dealt with since I’m ugly as fuck lol.

 

[Notnotover0]

Wow. The NL has 18 million people. That’s basically the entire country on drugs.

Yea hopefully I get something stronger soon but drugs are villainised in my opinion

 

[Chifuyu]

It’s good that you recognize it’s something to fix, I’m sure you’re being a lot more self deprecating than the way any of those girls are thinking

Thank you, I appreciate that! And maybe you’re right. How would you feel if the ugly male teacher asked you how your day went? It’s required of my teacher program to socialize with the students, forming a social relationship with them, that’s why I’m posting about this.

 

[Chifuyu]

i actually have a teacher at my school like this, people are probably calling you gay behind your back btw, just thought you should know

Nah, they’re definitely not. Trust me.

 

[Chifuyu]

I mostly try and talk about the game and my if my friends did anything funny. You mostly just have to pretend there a guy which sounds gay but that’s what helped me

That’s actually a really great tip. Thanks!

 

[Chifuyu]

Yea hopefully I get something stronger soon but drugs are villainised in my opinion

What kinda drugs do you wanna be on? I’ve got benzos at home btw, I just don’t use them.

 

[Chifuyu]

@pig you can’t just dislike this and not share your thoughts. What’s up?

 

[polgrev]

As many of you know, I’m a student teacher currently. However, I don’t socialize with any of the female students; only the male students. It’s a mix of wanting to be careful but mainly because I think they don’t want me to socialize with them. But I realize it’s not the right thing to do; I have to be completely neutral. What do you guys think? BTW, I don’t discriminate against the female students otherwise, just in socializing because my incel mindset thinks they don’t want the ugly male teacher to socialize with them even though it’s strictly professional.

n***a what

 

[Galvatron]

That’s actually a really great tip. Thanks!

Np. I actually need help talking to this girl rn

 

[Notnotover0]

What kinda drugs do you wanna be on? I’ve got benzos at home btw, I just don’t use them.

Well it wouldn't be for anxiety it be more used for ADHD dextroamphetamine even tho it's hard to get where I live