Serious I want more friends who are girls

[Chifuyu]

if u see ppl as a friend only for long enough its hard to develop romantic attraction on the spot
maybe

Yeah that’s what I was. Thinking but let’s be honest if it was some hot guy they wouldn’t use that argument. That’s what the blackpill is about haha.

 

[junebug]

Can I ask why you rejected them? Not good-looking enough? Ik you said that you have affection problems. Are you volcel? Or Chad only? Or a mix?

that's honestly a good question, idek.
I guess volcel? I just have a very very hard time falling in love. I don't have much of a type either, I don't find a lot of people attractive (even "chads", like I see the appeal and good looks objectively but I don't get romantically stimulated from their faces (?)) but on the same end I'm not aromantic because I do get crushes.
My crushes have had virtually nothing in common, I've liked tall short skinny overweight etc etc the only constant has been intelligence. But it is also strange because I'm not automatically attracted to EVERY intelligent man.

Anyways tl;dr I am still trying to figure that out for myself but it's most likely volcel or just unknown mental issues

 

[junebug]

if u see ppl as a friend only for long enough its hard to develop romantic attraction on the spot
maybe

this too, I haven't developed crushes on friends since like 8th grade, if I find someone appealing I can't even bear to be just their friend.

 

[Chifuyu]

that's honestly a good question, idek.
I guess volcel? I just have a very very hard time falling in love. I don't have much of a type either, I don't find a lot of people attractive (even "chads", like I see the appeal and good looks objectively but I don't get romantically stimulated from their faces (?)) but on the same end I'm not aromantic because I do get crushes.
My crushes have had virtually nothing in common, I've liked tall short skinny overweight etc etc the only constant has been intelligence. But it is also strange because I'm not automatically attracted to EVERY intelligent man.

Anyways tl;dr I am still trying to figure that out for myself but it's most likely volcel or just unknown mental issues

Wow no kidding, you’re exactly like me how is that possible

I totally get it because I feel the same way. Can’t fall in love, not having a type, recognizing objective beauty but not personally being attracted to them

I feel like we are on the asexual spectrum, we can still develop tiny crushes but love/lust are entirely different and difficult to develop

My entire life I’ve had 2 oneitises but they had nothing in common. The only thing was that I liked them both for something completely unrelated to looks, but oneitis 2 experience was so brutal for me that I’ve been unable to like anyone else since & its been 5 years this year since then

 

[TonyDr]

should be a goal for college I think.

You should find some w/o problems normally

 

[submissivechud]

Wow no kidding, you’re exactly like me how is that possible

I totally get it because I feel the same way. Can’t fall in love, not having a type, recognizing objective beauty but not personally being attracted to them

I feel like we are on the asexual spectrum, we can still develop tiny crushes but love/lust are entirely different and difficult to develop

My entire life I’ve had 2 oneitises but they had nothing in common. The only thing was that I liked them both for something completely unrelated to looks, but oneitis 2 experience was so brutal for me that I’ve been unable to like anyone else since & its been 5 years this year since then

 

[submissivechud]

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did this make you feel better

 

[Chifuyu]

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JFL mogs me hard

 

[Chifuyu]

did this make you feel better

OP or me? If OP IDK, if me then I’m dead inside. I can still laugh and that’s what I did so ig that’s what you meant then yeah!

 

[submissivechud]

OP or me? If OP IDK, if me then I’m dead inside. I can still laugh and that’s what I did so ig that’s what you meant then yeah!

did this heal your inner child

 

[junebug]

Wow no kidding, you’re exactly like me how is that possible

I totally get it because I feel the same way. Can’t fall in love, not having a type, recognizing objective beauty but not personally being attracted to them

I feel like we are on the asexual spectrum, we can still develop tiny crushes but love/lust are entirely different and difficult to develop

My entire life I’ve had 2 oneitises but they had nothing in common. The only thing was that I liked them both for something completely unrelated to looks, but oneitis 2 experience was so brutal for me that I’ve been unable to like anyone else since & its been 5 years this year since then

oh wow, you're just like me! I wanted this guy so bad for the past two ish years and he treated me so horribly, refusing to date me but still not blocking me and continuing to message me and make fun of me, even going as far as to stalk me with his friends and take photos of me at school and make fake social medias to troll me. thankfully I've been over him for months, he was such a horrible guy.

I guess the asexual spectrum makes sense? I do want to experience...that. once I get married. but if the aversion bleeds over into romantic relationships that makes so much sense. I was genuinely considering whether or not I was schizoid for a while because I have such an aversion to making deep connections but looking back that might be a little overboard haha.

 

[junebug]

You should find some w/o problems normally

yes that's the goal haha

 

[Chifuyu]

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did this heal your inner child

JFL.

I was the most depressed I had ever been and two people unironically told I was the happiest person they knew lol. Shits crazy I should become an actor. lol.

 

[submissivechud]

JFL.

I was the most depressed I had ever been and two people unironically told I was the happiest person they knew lol. Shits crazy I should become an actor. lol.

its easier to suck up to ppl when your sad ig
i js do it for atttention so i can be happier

 

[junebug]

JFL.

I was the most depressed I had ever been and two people unironically told I was the happiest person they knew lol. Shits crazy I should become an actor. lol.

oh gosh that's so relatable lol

I try not to make my issues public to my friends because it's not anybody else's problem, they don't need to hear that and if anything they could use it against me.

 

[Chifuyu]

oh wow, you're just like me! I wanted this guy so bad for the past two ish years and he treated me so horribly, refusing to date me but still not blocking me and continuing to message me and make fun of me, even going as far as to stalk me with his friends and take photos of me at school and make fake social medias to troll me. thankfully I've been over him for months, he was such a horrible guy.

I guess the asexual spectrum makes sense? I do want to experience...that. once I get married. but if the aversion bleeds over into romantic relationships that makes so much sense. I was genuinely considering whether or not I was schizoid for a while because I have such an aversion to making deep connections but looking back that might be a little overboard haha.

That sounds absolutely horrible wtf, I’d get turned off immediately by such a person, was he good looking though? Sucks to hear he treated you horribly, I’ve been treated horribly but in a different way

Yeah I would think so, I also have an aversion to relationships but maybe that’s because I’m used to being alone that I can’t give them what they want, like constant attention, affection, etc. I’m not like that at all, I want alone time everyday. I’d have made an exception for my oneitis because I liked her that much but I don’t think I’ll love someone like that again

You’re not a schizo at all, people like you are just so uncommon that you start to believe something is wrong with you but there’s nothing wrong with us. I actually feel there’s something wrong with them instead lol. So yeah definitely overboard if you thought you were schizo over this JFL

 

[Chifuyu]

yeah whenever im in depressive stages people like me the most
its easier to suck up to ppl when your sad ig
i js did it for atttention so i could be happier

Aw I’m sorry to hear you go through it as well
In my case it’s cuz I’m always laughing and smiling so that’s why
I’m just that way naturally so it’s not like I did that for any reason

 

[Chifuyu]

oh gosh that's so relatable lol

I try not to make my issues public to my friends because it's not anybody else's problem, they don't need to hear that and if anything they could use it against me.

Exactly!! Haha I’m really good at hiding it
Meanwhile I help all my friends if they’re depressed. I was LARPing so much that I feigned ignorance as to how depression felt because I didn’t want them to know about me lolol
But yeah like you say, people might even use it against you, esp if you tell a male friend, dude could try to exploit it (yes ppl are shitty like that, they can stoop so low)

 

[submissivechud]

Aw I’m sorry to hear you go through it as well
In my case it’s cuz I’m always laughing and smiling so that’s why
I’m just that way naturally so it’s not like I did that for any reason

 

[junebug]

That sounds absolutely horrible wtf, I’d get turned off immediately by such a person, was he good looking though? Sucks to hear he treated you horribly, I’ve been treated horribly but in a different way

He was cute to me in the moment. probably hltn. love truly is blind.

Yeah I would think so, I also have an aversion to relationships but maybe that’s because I’m used to being alone that I can’t give them what they want, like constant attention, affection, etc. I’m not like that at all, I want alone time everyday. I’d have made an exception for my oneitis because I liked her that much but I don’t think I’ll love someone like that again

same, I feel like bursts of obsession are the only way I'll find love.

You’re not a schizo at all, people like you are just so uncommon that you start to believe something is wrong with you but there’s nothing wrong with us. I actually feel there’s something wrong with them instead lol. So yeah definitely overboard if you thought you were schizo over this JFL

idk if this makes a difference but I meant schizoid, which is specifically the "social withdrawal" schizo. I put a definition here for u.

 

[junebug]

Exactly!! Haha I’m really good at hiding it
Meanwhile I help all my friends if they’re depressed. I was LARPing so much that I feigned ignorance as to how depression felt because I didn’t want them to know about me lolol
But yeah like you say, people might even use it against you, esp if you tell a male friend, dude could try to exploit it (yes ppl are shitty like that, they can stoop so low)

hey same! I'm very good at comforting others in the moment and after the fact. If I had a nickel for every time I stopped someone from attempting I'd have...more than one nickel. I try not to let others be subjected to my anguish though, I let it slip a lot more here than with my close friends.

 

[Chifuyu]

hey same! I'm very good at comforting others in the moment and after the fact. If I had a nickel for every time I stopped someone from attempting I'd have...more than one nickel. I try not to let others be subjected to my anguish though, I let it slip a lot more here than with my close friends.

Very relatable! But you’re also better than me for actually opening up to a degree to your close friends. Since I’m you but 12 years older? Try to find someone at some point and don’t wait too long. Otherwise you’ll end up like me. You don’t want that!

 

[junebug]

Very relatable! But you’re also better than me for actually opening up to a degree to your close friends. Since I’m you but 12 years older? Try to find someone at some point and don’t wait too long. Otherwise you’ll end up like me. You don’t want that!

I'll try! But you don't lose hope either. Statistically you're not even halfway through your natural life. You can do it.

 

[Chifuyu]

I'll try! But you don't lose hope either. Statistically you're not even halfway through your natural life. You can do it.

Depends what you mean! Like I don’t think I’ll ever love someone again but if you mean finding a partner? I’m not worried about that part. But you can do both. I can only do one (the latter).

 

[junebug]

Depends what you mean! Like I don’t think I’ll ever love someone again but if you mean finding a partner? I’m not worried about that part. But you can do both. I can only do one (the latter).

Regardless I hope you are able to heal and live a satisfying life.

 

[Chifuyu]

Regardless I hope you are able to heal and live a satisfying life.

Thanks, same to you! you don’t wanna end up like this, trust me. I wish someone had told me, when I was your age. So at least I can do that now haha.

 

[junebug]

Thanks, same to you! you don’t wanna end up like this, trust me. I wish someone had told me, when I was your age. So at least I can do that now haha.

I appreciate you looking out for me and I'm so glad I could find solidarity here, thank you!

 

[Chifuyu]

I appreciate you looking out for me and I'm so glad I could find solidarity here, thank you!