I wasted so much time trying to look good

[Ben07]

Pushed away friends, people i loved and my family to ”looksmax” train, dieting. Mood constantly shit bc of forcing diets on myself. Srsly wasted some of my best years

my personality is srsly shit bc of this, the way i view me and others, feeling sorry for myself its just bs lol, in the chase of trying to look good i destroyed what makes me happy

Idk might just be me

 

[Deleted member 77539]

I waste so much time

 

[Ben07]

I waste so much time

We all do

 

[SASALELE]

so you wasted time improving yourself
At least you didnt waste it scrolling or partying

 

[Ben07]

so you wasted time improving yourself
At least you didnt waste it scrolling or partying

I improved my looks everything else turned to shit.

I can look godly but that doesnt change the fact that i cant take to others like a normal person. Constantly scared of judgement

Sometimes I just feel like a shell of a being, the only living thing being my inner thoughts

 

[rand anon]

Same jfl, I wasted most of my college years self isolating and looksmaxxing. Looking back I had a way better social life when I looked like shiiiit

 

[Tear]

that sucks

 

[Ben07]

Same jfl, I wasted most of my college years self isolating and looksmaxxing. Looking back I had a way better social life when I looked like shiiiit

Ye i feel you

I used to be someshat extroverted then i just went into this whole rabbit hole and sence havnt been avle to connect w any1

 

[SASALELE]

I improved my looks everything else turned to shit.

I can look godly but that doesnt change the fact that i cant take to others like a normal person. Constantly scared of judgement

Sometimes I just feel like a shell of a being, the only living thing being my inner thoughts

So you are upset that you prioritised your looks over yourself, but youre doing the same thing by thinking its over.
Idk how old you are but you most likely have at least 50 more years to live. Why do you think theres no time to improve your personality or relationships? Is it because youre going to be older and worse looking?

You spent less than a decade on your looks. You have 50 years to spend on your personality.

 

[rand anon]

Ye i feel you

I used to be someshat extroverted then i just went into this whole rabbit hole and sence havnt been avle to connect w any1

I wouldn’t say I was ever an extrovert, but yeah pretty much same

Like when I first started college I was ugly as shit but still interacted with girls in my classes and turns out that few of them liked me jfl

After looksmaxxing, I get way more initial interest from the get go, can get some dates from apps, but have no clue how to talk to people, let alone women

 

[Ben07]

So you are upset that you prioritised your looks over yourself, but youre doing the same thing by thinking its over.
Idk how old you are but you most likely have at least 50 more years to live. Why do you think theres no time to improve your personality or relationships? Is it because youre going to be older and worse looking?

You spent less than a decade on your looks. You have 50 years to spend on your personality.

I dont think that i dont have time to change my personality, im actively trying 2. Im reflecting on what i did and how it was a waste of time sence it made me worse in alot of ways.

I didnt make this thread so that people felt bad for me I just wanted to say what was in my head and ive got nowhere else to talk

 

[Ben07]

I wouldn’t say I was ever an extrovert, but yeah pretty much same

Like when I first started college I was ugly as shit but still interacted with girls in my classes and turns out that few of them liked me jfl

After looksmaxxing, I get way more initial interest from the get go, can get some dates from apps, but have no clue how to talk to people, let alone women

Ye looksmaxxing is good in theory but the sites just rotted me. For some time i believed alot of what people had to say and it made me think that looks rly was everything but it isnt, sure its what will get you ”in the door” but after the first step, if u dont know the rest what can you do? Its just a boring and sad way to live

 

[SASALELE]

I didnt make this thread so that people felt bad for me

yes i understand I just didnt want you to think youll never be able to find yourself, but im glad that you dont.

 

[rand anon]

So you are upset that you prioritised your looks over yourself, but youre doing the same thing by thinking its over.
Idk how old you are but you most likely have at least 50 more years to live. Why do you think theres no time to improve your personality or relationships? Is it because youre going to be older and worse looking?

You spent less than a decade on your looks. You have 50 years to spend on your personality.

Formative yrs are everything though, u can’t get them back. It’s better to work on all facets of life in them, instead of just hyper fixating on looksmaxxing

 

[SASALELE]

Formative yrs are everything though, u can’t get them

you cant get any years back

It’s better to work on all facets of life in them, instead of just hyper fixating on looksmaxxing

The thing is that in this context those are the same things. If you value your early years more than the rest of your life just because youre young and beautiful, youre hyper fixating on “looksmaxxing” either way. Those other 50 years are worth just as much in the terms of development of character and happiness, when your number 1 goal isnt to look as good as possible.

 

[rand anon]

Ye looksmaxxing is good in theory but the sites just rotted me. For some time i believed alot of what people had to say and it made me think that looks rly was everything but it isnt, sure its what will get you ”in the door” but after the first step, if u dont know the rest what can you do? Its just a boring and sad way to live

Yeah looksmaxxing just made me realize how important being NT and hving a big social circle is, that’s how most normies and ugly men date

 

[TonyDr]

Pushed away friends, people i loved and my family to ”looksmax” train, dieting. Mood constantly shit bc of forcing diets on myself. Srsly wasted some of my best years

my personality is srsly shit bc of this, the way i view me and others, feeling sorry for myself its just bs lol, in the chase of trying to look good i destroyed what makes me happy

Idk might just be me

That's why i'm not a hardcore looksmaxxer and i rather lifemaxx

 

[rand anon]

you cant get any years back


The thing is that in this context those are the same things. If you value your early years more than the rest of your life just because youre young and beautiful, youre hyper fixating on “looksmaxxing” either way.

ig my point was that ur 30s, 40s, 50s are gonna be the same more or less, u rly can’t change much about yourself that late in life

and I never said that those early yrs are more valuable, just that they’re more important cause they shape the rest of your life

Those other 50 years are worth just as much in the terms of development of character and happiness, when your number 1 goal isnt to look as good as possible.

I disagree with part of that, I mean personality/character development is just gonna stagnate once u hit ur 20s, neuroplasticity declines