i wish i wasnt so idealistic about being married

[Aryy]

i cannot talk to someone in a like a talking stage or smth
unless theres a chance i know we can be married
its stupid that its the first thing on my mind

i couldnt fantasize or anything about someone because if i try to
i just dint what does it matter we wont be married like wtf

this bothers me because i know ur supposed to like date and see where it goes

 

[Anna]

idk if i wanna get married

 

[avzrael]

Whats the point in dating if ur not gonna marry though

 

[Aryy]

idk if i wanna get married

why so

 

[Aryy]

Whats the point in dating if ur not gonna marry though

idk people say for fun

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

i cannot talk to someone in a like a talking stage or smth
unless theres a chance i know we can be married
its stupid that its the first thing on my mind

i couldnt fantasize or anything about someone because if i try to
i just dint what does it matter we wont be married like wtf

this bothers me because i know ur supposed to like date and see where it goes

That's alright, but just don't already plan all of it ahead since you are most likely a teenager. And besides, mentality is the first step, just try and begin with the talking stage with the idea of marrying him if that helps you

 

[BigDihDiddy ⚦]

I mean that’s probably for the best considering most women who don’t care about marriage when they are young end up angry at 30

The pattern is real

 

[Deleted member 77539]

Muh marriage

 

[Aryy]

That's alright, but just don't already plan all of it ahead since you are most likely a teenager. And besides, mentality is the first step, just try and begin with the talking stage with the idea of marrying him if that helps you

yeah i know but i really dont see a point in dating if ur not married
thats why i dont wanna date till college

 

[TonyDr]

this bothers me because i know ur supposed to like date and see where it goes

This is the only way to see if the man you'll date is husband-material. Marriage is outdated in todays dating world so if you want to get married, get married with a proper man who act like a husband to you, but also choose a man you're attracted to

 

[Aryy]

This is the only way to see if the man you'll date is husband-material. Marriage is outdated in todays dating world so if you want to get married, get married with a proper man who act like a husband to you, but also choose a man you're attracted to

its hard tho
most people even if they want a ltr wont get serious early on

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

yeah i know but i really dont see a point in dating if ur not married
thats why i dont wanna date till college

But what if you find love before it? You can't really predict future nor set up conditions for love or finding the "one", finding someone might just be as casual as being put in the same group as him in a school project (unrealistic, but it's an example to show you), altough if you yourself don't feel ready at all for relationships or feel like it's going to set you back in the academic studies ground for you, that's totally fine. Take time for yourself to build your future, finding a partner to love isn't necessarily the priority at your age.

 

[gimp]

you're most likely a whore just like every foid piece of shit

 

[Aryy]

But what if you find love before it? You can't really predict future nor set up conditions for love or finding the "one", finding someone might just be as casual as being put in the same group as him in a school project (unrealistic, but it's an example to show you), altough if you yourself don't feel ready at all for relationships or feel like it's going to set you back in the academic studies ground for you, that's totally fine. Take time for yourself to build your future, finding a partner to love isn't necessarily the priority at your age.

ive thought about this
thats why most tell me to see where it goes,
but i just feel its not for me to date without being sure its likely ull be married
but it probably ruined some chances for me

 

[Penalizer69]

It's normal people just rush things these days

 

[Anna]

why so

i don’t like the idea of it

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

ive thought about this
thats why most tell me to see where it goes,
but i just feel its not for me to date without being sure its likely ull be married
but it probably ruined some chances for me

That's the point,

You are holding yourself back man, if you have chemistry with a man and he's serious about it go for it, if you are just gonna wait you are gonna be left waiting

 

[Superior]

you're most likely a whore just like every foid piece of shit

he came back

 

[gimp]

he came back

it's schizo
no such thing as a loyal foid/slut/whore in 2026

 

[Deleted Member 85516]

i cannot talk to someone in a like a talking stage or smth
unless theres a chance i know we can be married
its stupid that its the first thing on my mind

i couldnt fantasize or anything about someone because if i try to
i just dint what does it matter we wont be married like wtf

this bothers me because i know ur supposed to like date and see where it goes

keep this mindset

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

That's the point,

You are holding yourself back man, if you have chemistry with a man and he's serious about it go for it, if you are just gonna wait you are gonna be left waiting

What i'm trying to say is: if you already feel ready to try and search for a partner to marry then look for the one, don't be stuck with the "but whe will never marry anyway so what's the point" shenanigans, because if you want to find him you have to start with the priority of actually finding him, or else it will be perhaps pointless. A fisherman doesn't go and catch fish with the thought of not finding any fish

 

[Aryy]

That's the point,

You are holding yourself back man, if you have chemistry with a man and he's serious about it go for it, if you are just gonna wait you are gonna be left waiting

What i'm trying to say is: if you already feel ready to try and search for a partner to marry then look for the one, don't be stuck with the "but whe will never marry anyway so what's the point" shenanigans, because if you want to find him you have to start with the priority of actually finding him, or else it will per perhaps pointless. A fisherman doesn't go and catch fish with the thought of not finding any fish

that is true
its just hard for me to do anything without being sure about it
thats why i wish i kinda wasnt like this and was more flexible with stuff

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

that is true
its just hard for me to do anything without being sure about it
thats why i wish i kinda wasnt like this and was more flexible with stuff

So little things in life are sure, i think you got to work on that because it will just get harder for you to find a spouse;

Being a teenager is also the perfect time to explore your sexuality, what being in a relationship mean and its responsibilities and all that stuff, take the occasion to discover more about yourself and maybe work on that mental block with actually trying to initiate a relationship with someone (idk if i am clear)

 

[Aryy]

So little things in life are sure, i think you got to work on that because it will just get harder for you to find a spouse;

Being a teenager is also the perfect time to explore your sexuality, what being in a relationship mean and its responsibilities and all that stuff, take the occasion to discover more about yourself and maybe work on that mental block with actually trying to initiate a relationship with someone (idk if i am clear)

yeah i know it is
sadly i wanna get married earlier and stuff
but it probably wont be a good decision if i do it like that i guess

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

yeah i know it is
sadly i wanna get married earlier and stuff
but it probably wont be a good decision if i do it like that i guess

It's up to you but

I advise you to first build yourself a future, since making a family young will most likely destroy any academical and professional dreams you have, this is the same instance that happened to my mom so trust me, take your time to marry someone after you made a name for yourself

 

[Aryy]

It's up to you but

I advise you to first build yourself a future, since making a family young will most likely destroy any academical and professional dreams you have, this is the same instance that happened to my mom so trust me, take your time to marry someone after you made a name for yourself

appreciate it and yeah

 

[Spongebob CirclePants]

appreciate it and yeah

You're welcome bhai

 

[Deleted Member 74605]

idk if i wanna get married

i cannot talk to someone in a like a talking stage or smth
unless theres a chance i know we can be married
its stupid that its the first thing on my mind

i couldnt fantasize or anything about someone because if i try to
i just dint what does it matter we wont be married like wtf

this bothers me because i know ur supposed to like date and see where it goes

Don’t do it it’s a trap and will be a nightmare later on when you try to get out of it

 

[Aryy]

Don’t do it it’s a trap and will be a nightmare later on when you try to get out of it

yeah i have heard that from alot of people

i barely see happy marriages

 

[trvecel]

i barely see happy marriages

TRVKE