ripjfk
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I’ve never dated before, but if I ever did get a boyfriend, I think I would want and even encourage him to be with other girls.
This isn’t a cuckolding thing or a sexual thing (there’s nothing wrong with those). I would just feel guilty and overwhelmed if I were the only person he was expected to be with when I don’t think I look that good.
Expectations are one of my biggest fears. I know that in a relationship, your partner has expectations of you, and I feel like I just can’t be that person aesthetically. I also think I’d feel calmer if he told me about being with other girls because my mind would relax, knowing that need had been fulfilled for the time being and that I didn’t have to stress about it.
Is this a fear that other people share? I've talked to one friend about this before and she said it's unhealthy and I see why she would perceive it like that but in my opinion it's not unhealthy it's just how I would want things. Everyone has their own needs and wants and I respect it.
This isn’t a cuckolding thing or a sexual thing (there’s nothing wrong with those). I would just feel guilty and overwhelmed if I were the only person he was expected to be with when I don’t think I look that good.
Expectations are one of my biggest fears. I know that in a relationship, your partner has expectations of you, and I feel like I just can’t be that person aesthetically. I also think I’d feel calmer if he told me about being with other girls because my mind would relax, knowing that need had been fulfilled for the time being and that I didn’t have to stress about it.
Is this a fear that other people share? I've talked to one friend about this before and she said it's unhealthy and I see why she would perceive it like that but in my opinion it's not unhealthy it's just how I would want things. Everyone has their own needs and wants and I respect it.