Info If a woman is actually interested in and attracted to you for a LTR

[emeraldpill]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

 

[Dollvitys]

This is real! When you fall in love with them as a human, actions that are usually off putting don’t seem to matter

 

[emeraldpill]

Why is there only foids here they already know this shiet

 

[emeraldpill]

This is real! When you fall in love with them as a human, actions that are usually off putting don’t seem to matter

Exactly

 

[angelpie]

This is real! When you fall in love with them as a human, actions that are usually off putting don’t seem to matter

I love love

 

[tonisworld]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

What if u is an autistic, racist, narcissistic dumbass

 

[emeraldpill]

What if u is an autistic, racist, narcissistic dumbass

I’m autistic and have mild npd, had a 2 year and 4 year LTR

Stop trying to make excuses for your failure as a person

 

[emeraldpill]

I’m autistic and have mild npd, had a 2 year and 4 year LTR

Stop trying to make excuses for your failure as a person

Didn’t mean to be rude at the end I thought you called me a dumbass not yourself

 

[tonisworld]

I’m autistic and have mild npd, had a 2 year and 4 year LTR

Stop trying to make excuses for your failure as a person

Im not saying im those things, maybe misunderstood sorry, ill give another example. If ur a shitty and judgemental person, rather than staying a shitty and judgemental person shouldn't u wanna change that instead of being urself as u said. The sentiment is sweet and makes sense if you have some flaws to embrace them like having autism but I meant more so behavior.

 

[TonyDr]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

Trvth Nvke, basically my fiancée.
Didn't have to do tons of efforts to date her

 

[emeraldpill]

Im not saying im those things, maybe misunderstood sorry, ill give another example. If ur a shitty and judgemental person, rather than staying a shitty and judgemental person shouldn't u wanna change that instead of being urself as u said. The sentiment is sweet and makes sense if you have some flaws to embrace them like having autism but I meant more so behavior.

Well yes of course you can’t be a completely shitty human being, but that’s sort of a given before being in the LTR in the first place

Those would typically need to be dealt with beforehand imo

 

[emeraldpill]

Trvth Nvke, basically my fiancée.
Didn't have to do tons of efforts to date her

Exactly. If it feels like you have to put in a ton of work and effort and tiptoe around them it’s worth A) rethinking if it’s the right person or B) do less of that and see what happens

I miss my ex

 

[tonisworld]

Well yes of course you can’t be a completely shitty human being, but that’s sort of a given before being in the LTR in the first place

Those would typically need to be dealt with beforehand imo

I agree, its spme people have the mindset (some of my exes just sn example and tbh also me in the past) of like if you dont like me for who I am just fuck off. And meanwhile who I was was a cunt so.

 

[TonyDr]

I miss my ex

May i ask why y'all broken up ?

 

[tonisworld]

Exactly. If it feels like you have to put in a ton of work and effort and tiptoe around them it’s worth A) rethinking if it’s the right person or B) do less of that and see what happens

I miss my ex

I agree, it should feel natural but some changes togetjer is good, after all I think we get in relationships to grow together not just remain the same person. Aw dont. Theres so many out there. Sometimes ill miss my ex then remember the plates flying my way lmao

 

[emeraldpill]

I agree, its spme people have the mindset (some of my exes just sn example and tbh also me in the past) of like if you dont like me for who I am just fuck off. And meanwhile who I was was a cunt so.

Yeah, I’m not saying everyone will get it right first time
It’s a process

 

[emeraldpill]

May i ask why y'all broken up ?

Various reasons, some of which are I was moving away, lost that ‘spark’ etc,

I wanted to try and make it work regardless, and I thought the spark was still there tbh, both of us had been away a lot in the time leading up to it just by coincidence so we only got to see each other irl a little bit for like a month - 2 months before breaking up
It’s not like we hated each other or anything, it just didn’t seem like it was going to go anywhere good so we agreed it best to do that

We still talked a lot after and it was going really well, maybe even more so than the end of our relationship and we actually went on holiday together, which we both loved and it felt like when we were both ‘young’ again if you know what I mean, rekindled is the word maybe, but soon after that is when I moved away, and she messaged me one day explaining how she felt etc

I don’t blame her, and there are other reasons from earlier in our relationship too, but that’s a different story

We don’t talk anymore, it’s really sad

Even outside of the girlfriend aspect,
She was my best friend

 

[TonyDr]

Various reasons, some of which are I was moving away, lost that ‘spark’ etc,

I wanted to try and make it work regardless, and I thought the spark was still there tbh, both of us had been away a lot in the time leading up to it just by coincidence so we only got to see each other irl a little bit for like a month - 2 months before breaking up
It’s not like we hated each other or anything, it just didn’t seem like it was going to go anywhere good so we agreed it best to do that

We still talked a lot after and it was going really well, maybe even more so than the end of our relationship and we actually went on holiday together, which we both loved and it felt like when we were both ‘young’ again if you know what I mean, rekindled is the word maybe, but soon after that is when I moved away, and she messaged me one day explaining how she felt etc

I don’t blame her, and there are other reasons from earlier in our relationship too, but that’s a different story

We don’t talk anymore, it’s really sad

Even outside of the girlfriend aspect,
She was my best friend

You'll find a new girl dw bro

 

[rickydickydoodahgrimes]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

literally like if i want a specific guy and have been talking to him for a while and mean to date him then honestly yeah not much puts me off unless hes like utterly outrageous in behaviour towards me then its a no

 

[emeraldpill]

literally like if i want a specific guy and have been talking to him for a while and mean to date him then honestly yeah not much puts me off unless hes like utterly outrageous in behaviour towards me then its a no

Yeah, and I feel like most people can normally tell a persons character fairly well just from getting to know them before dating

 

[arzzey]

What if u is an autistic, racist, narcissistic dumbass

I'm narcissistic and I'm single since 2017

pretty sure its not cuz of that tho, for sure

 

[SASALELE]

I love love

what do yk about it

 

[Deleted Member 44008]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

I seem to be the face of offputting brodie so idk

 

[emeraldpill]

I seem to be the face of offputting brodie so idk

In what way

 

[emeraldpill]

what do yk about it

He has a gf

 

[SASALELE]

He has a gf

and he also has dating apps

 

[Deleted Member 44008]

In what way

Like social media way its hard for me and then irl its not so bad but I rarley approach nobody anyway yk unc gotta be careful.

 

[emeraldpill]

Like social media way its hard for me and then irl its not so bad but I rarley approach nobody anyway yk unc gotta be careful.

I more mean once you already know each other, but yeah

 

[SILVER]

False.

 

[emeraldpill]

False.

How

 

[SILVER]

How

standards must be upheld

 

[emeraldpill]

standards must be upheld

Elaborate

This is more toward the people who stress about the way they portray themselves to their partner or how they talk act etc. I don’t mean just be a knob and expect them to be fine with it

 

[SILVER]

Elaborate

This is more toward the people who stress about the way they portray themselves to their partner or how they talk act etc. I don’t mean just be a knob and expect them to be fine with it

They would be saddened by who they fell in love with changing, the relationship would continue only because it has been a long time

 

[emeraldpill]

They would be saddened by who they fell in love with changing, the relationship would continue only because it has been a long time

Well, people change, that can’t be helped that easily but it’s unfortunate if it causes them to grow apart

I am talking about the present, it should be easy to be with them, shouldn’t feel like you have to put in lots of effort to present yourself a certain way or act a certain way to them

If they aren’t into you for what you really are, why bother, and why put yourself through doing that long term

 

[SILVER]

Well, people change, that can’t be helped that easily but it’s unfortunate if it causes them to grow apart

I am talking about the present, it should be easy to be with them, shouldn’t feel like you have to put in lots of effort to present yourself a certain way or act a certain way to them

If they aren’t into you for what you really are, why bother, and why put yourself through doing that long term

Tbh I'd try to become a better person and put more effort in the way I present myself for someone if I really loved them, its like trying to improve for someone

 

[emeraldpill]

Tbh I'd try to become a better person and put more effort in the way I present myself for someone if I really loved them, its like trying to improve for someone

Yeah

That’s not quite what I’m trying to say idk how to explain it

 

[emeraldpill]

I agree with that though

 

[Sammy]

ok but what if u want a cute boy but hes only into girls

 

[emeraldpill]

ok but what if u want a cute boy but hes only into girls

Over before it began I suppose

Unfortunate

 

[Telynn]

There’s not much that will actually put them off

Some of u worry too much about acting correctly, just be you

Legit just be yourself, I cant genuinely like someone if they are putting on a act and a lot of people do. Ive only dated one person and it was cause they where actually vulnerable enough to be unfiltered and themselves. He had aspergers.