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I regret treating my ex gf like sh*t as a dumper/dumpee
She was my type physically. I was her type. Everything clicked immediately. She said i was the man she wanted. She erased ALL men off of her social media bc i asked. Everything I said and she said just matched. Same sense of humor. Same pov on relationships. Very similar opinions. Except for one small thing I dint really paid attention. She told me "i just want to be a good woman with you". That was a red flag now that I think of, but I ignored (obviously) bc she was perfect (almost).
Anyways, i had a past bad experience with a girl in college, that left me borderline mysoginistic and well I started treating women like crap. And guess who i treated like crap (my ex gf). To not go into many details i talked to other girls (actually other girls texted me and i didnt ignored them) and i was petty enough to show my ex that, just cause i thougt it was fun. She told me it was very disrespectful (she still stayed). Then i use to get mad A LOT, egotistical and petty. Her on the other hand, almost never got mad, she always tried to calm me (until her ego i guess kicked in). But i just kept going treating her like crap. I ghosted her two times and blocked her 3 times. Last time i blocked her on facebook and she texted me on ig telling me "im here if you wanna talk, if not you can also block me here". I told her "why are you texting if i blocked? Dont you have a bit of self respect?". She told me "idk, i guess im trying to hard". I also made fun of her body by making fun of her insecurities. On the other hand she always tried to reassure me. Fats forward about a year later, we had a HUGE argument, where she sort of change on the spot and called me a prick and many other things. So i told her, "you dont have the ovaries to leave me". She told me "i dont wanna leave you but dont test me". I kept pushing and she told me "im not a game, bye". I fricked out (I was starting to be attached). I sort of begged her indirectly. She told me, "give me a few so i think about if i want to leave or not". So I did. She told me she couldnt leave, BUT, BUUUUUT, that "i lost a part of her". So I knew that shit was OVAAAAAAA.
For the next months, it all went downhill, less communication, more arguments, wasnt as horny as before, more argumentative. Until about almost a year later where she told me "let me leave". I told her "no". So she stayed, but it was a living hell. Barelly wanted to talk to me, EVERYTHING i did was bad. And then one day, she used an argument (of many) as an excuse to want it out. So i had no choice now but to let her go
Right now its a living hell my head, we are not blocked, we still have eachother on ig, fb, and cell number.
All i know is, she dont want SHIT to do with me now. Only positive is she went from, its over, to "youre not a never again". "Youre not a no". "We wont discard eachother for the future" (we are LDR since one year).
But she wont talk to me AT ALL. She only answer and takes my calls. But she wont initiate. Only thing is she told me, when ill go back we can try again if were both single (wich is bad, bc it means i have become an option).
She told me talking now (long distance) makes no more sense that irl we could try again. So im giving her the breakup. She dont want to block eachother neither. Im stuck in a limbo that is eating me from inside
How cooked am i?
She was my type physically. I was her type. Everything clicked immediately. She said i was the man she wanted. She erased ALL men off of her social media bc i asked. Everything I said and she said just matched. Same sense of humor. Same pov on relationships. Very similar opinions. Except for one small thing I dint really paid attention. She told me "i just want to be a good woman with you". That was a red flag now that I think of, but I ignored (obviously) bc she was perfect (almost).
Anyways, i had a past bad experience with a girl in college, that left me borderline mysoginistic and well I started treating women like crap. And guess who i treated like crap (my ex gf). To not go into many details i talked to other girls (actually other girls texted me and i didnt ignored them) and i was petty enough to show my ex that, just cause i thougt it was fun. She told me it was very disrespectful (she still stayed). Then i use to get mad A LOT, egotistical and petty. Her on the other hand, almost never got mad, she always tried to calm me (until her ego i guess kicked in). But i just kept going treating her like crap. I ghosted her two times and blocked her 3 times. Last time i blocked her on facebook and she texted me on ig telling me "im here if you wanna talk, if not you can also block me here". I told her "why are you texting if i blocked? Dont you have a bit of self respect?". She told me "idk, i guess im trying to hard". I also made fun of her body by making fun of her insecurities. On the other hand she always tried to reassure me. Fats forward about a year later, we had a HUGE argument, where she sort of change on the spot and called me a prick and many other things. So i told her, "you dont have the ovaries to leave me". She told me "i dont wanna leave you but dont test me". I kept pushing and she told me "im not a game, bye". I fricked out (I was starting to be attached). I sort of begged her indirectly. She told me, "give me a few so i think about if i want to leave or not". So I did. She told me she couldnt leave, BUT, BUUUUUT, that "i lost a part of her". So I knew that shit was OVAAAAAAA.
For the next months, it all went downhill, less communication, more arguments, wasnt as horny as before, more argumentative. Until about almost a year later where she told me "let me leave". I told her "no". So she stayed, but it was a living hell. Barelly wanted to talk to me, EVERYTHING i did was bad. And then one day, she used an argument (of many) as an excuse to want it out. So i had no choice now but to let her go
Right now its a living hell my head, we are not blocked, we still have eachother on ig, fb, and cell number.
All i know is, she dont want SHIT to do with me now. Only positive is she went from, its over, to "youre not a never again". "Youre not a no". "We wont discard eachother for the future" (we are LDR since one year).
But she wont talk to me AT ALL. She only answer and takes my calls. But she wont initiate. Only thing is she told me, when ill go back we can try again if were both single (wich is bad, bc it means i have become an option).
She told me talking now (long distance) makes no more sense that irl we could try again. So im giving her the breakup. She dont want to block eachother neither. Im stuck in a limbo that is eating me from inside
How cooked am i?
