Experience I'm tired

[LostCause]

I've been trying to socialize so hard for the past two months, made one good friend and a few friendish-acquaitances and i've been trying to consolidate myself into a friendgroup and things were looking great for the first part but now i find myself in a stalemate, and i feel physically drained for forcing myself to talk to other people so much, AND my phone is malfunctioning

Deadass just to think i have to go through lenghts so big just to make a few more friends while others do it naturally, its over

I'm maybe even seen as weird by half the people in that group that are yet to know me, I just want to make three/four good friends by may so i won't necessarily spend summer all alone again,

is it somewhat worth it? Yes

Would i stop two-faced attention begging like this if i could? Absolutely

@The Dark Passenger

 

[LostCause]

B

 

[Rololongs]

I've been trying to socialize so hard for the past two months, made one good friend and a few friendish-acquaitances and i've been trying to consolidate myself into a friendgroup and things were looking great for the first part but now i find myself in a stalemate, and i feel physically drained for forcing myself to talk to other people so much, AND my phone is malfunctioning

Deadass just to think i have to go through lenghts so big just to make a few more friends while others do it naturally, its over

I'm maybe even seen as weird by half the people in that group that are yet to know me, I just want to make three/four good friends by may so i won't necessarily spend summer all alone again,

is it somewhat worth it? Yes

Would i stop two-faced attention begging like this if i could? Absolutely

@The Dark Passenger

 

[Molotongo]

I've been trying to socialize so hard for the past two months, made one good friend and a few friendish-acquaitances and i've been trying to consolidate myself into a friendgroup and things were looking great for the first part but now i find myself in a stalemate, and i feel physically drained for forcing myself to talk to other people so much, AND my phone is malfunctioning

Deadass just to think i have to go through lenghts so big just to make a few more friends while others do it naturally, its over

I'm maybe even seen as weird by half the people in that group that are yet to know me, I just want to make three/four good friends by may so i won't necessarily spend summer all alone again,

is it somewhat worth it? Yes

Would i stop two-faced attention begging like this if i could? Absolutely

@The Dark Passenger

I hear you brother
could you maybe elaborate on why you want friends but it's draining to talk to them? Because I'm not sure if what you mean is what I think you mean but you seen to want friends that's why I'm thinking. sorry if I come across confused.

I felt a similar way, I've always wanted friends but it became draining to talk to them. I'm autistic, it fucking sucks, I always wished for friendship but the people I met always were just draining to talk to.
at some point I just gave up because it was too draining, even online people are exhausting to me often.

I met one guy online and I was on call with him and then tho I'm autistic the talk went so smooth and we talked for 5 hours straight lol.
he's autistic himself, he's the only person that seems to understand me, idk why I can just talk to him tho. it's shame I can't see him irl, tho what I was trying to say is that I hope you find a friend like this too, preferably someone irl. as I don't know your situation tho I can't tell if it's the same way, if you really want friends tho don't give up man, even if you think it will be draining with everyone just keep going, maybe if you get used to your people it will be less draining, again as I don't know your situation I can't really give the best advice but I wish you only the best, much love
feel free to shoot me a PM if you wanna talk about it

 

[LostCause]

I hear you brother
could you maybe elaborate on why you want friends but it's draining to talk to them? Because I'm not sure if what you mean is what I think you mean but you seen to want friends that's why I'm thinking. sorry if I come across confused.

I felt a similar way, I've always wanted friends but it became draining to talk to them. I'm autistic, it fucking sucks, I always wished for friendship but the people I met always were just draining to talk to.
at some point I just gave up because it was too draining, even online people are exhausting to me often.

I met one guy online and I was on call with him and then tho I'm autistic the talk went so smooth and we talked for 5 hours straight lol.
he's autistic himself, he's the only person that seems to understand me, idk why I can just talk to him tho. it's shame I can't see him irl, tho what I was trying to say is that I hope you find a friend like this too, preferably someone irl. as I don't know your situation tho I can't tell if it's the same way, if you really want friends tho don't give up man, even if you think it will be draining with everyone just keep going, maybe if you get used to your people it will be less draining, again as I don't know your situation I can't really give the best advice but I wish you only the best, much love
feel free to shoot me a PM if you wanna talk about it

Thank you so much actually dude, ive been trying to make new friends this school year since ive spent most of 20w6 basically alone and isolated in my room, though it's a burden for me to try and talk to other people most of the time, i feel physically unable to start a conversation and am extremely high inhib

Ive reconmected with dome childhood friends, and since we share this one friend (which also happens to be my classmate) we got alot closer, he is gery similar to me in those regards so i kinda get why i get along so much better with him

The matter is though i haven't talked to those friends in years and their friends are probably bothered by my presence whenever I come by to try and talk to them, i'm trying the hardest to make some friends but its really hard

Though I can't complain, but its just so tiring

 

[Molotongo]

Thank you so much actually dude, ive been trying to make new friends this school year since ive spent most of 20w6 basically alone and isolated in my room, though it's a burden for me to try and talk to other people most of the time, i feel physically unable to start a conversation and am extremely high inhib

Ive reconmected with dome childhood friends, and since we share this one friend (which also happens to be my classmate) we got alot closer, he is gery similar to me in those regards so i kinda get why i get along so much better with him

The matter is though i haven't talked to those friends in years and their friends are probably bothered by my presence whenever I come by to try and talk to them, i'm trying the hardest to make some friends but its really hard

Though I can't complain, but its just so tiring

I understand that a lot brother, talking to people is even harder when you didn't do it in a long time, thinking that their friends don't want to have you there can make this even harder.
you should try meeting up with the guy you get along better with alone, you guys could meet up and do something together, maybe if you do that a few times you will adapt a little.
sure that won't completely fix that you're high inhib but especially if you have been isolated for a long time it could be helpful to slowly get used to it, being in a group of people makes this even harder, especially if you feel like your presence is not something they enjoy

 

[LostCause]

I understand that a lot brother, talking to people is even harder when you didn't do it in a long time, thinking that their friends don't want to have you there can make this even harder.
you should try meeting up with the guy you get along better with alone, you guys could meet up and do something together, maybe if you do that a few times you will adapt a little.
sure that won't completely fix that you're high inhib but especially if you have been isolated for a long time it could be helpful to slowly get used to it, being in a group of people makes this even harder, especially if you feel like your presence is not something they enjoy

Thanks alot for the advice man

I'll maybe go running with him this weekemd so i'll try

 

[Molotongo]

Thanks alot for the advice man

I'll maybe go running with him this weekemd so i'll try

no problem and have fun when you meet up with him brother

 

[Destined to be forgotten]

I've been trying to socialize so hard for the past two months, made one good friend and a few friendish-acquaitances and i've been trying to consolidate myself into a friendgroup and things were looking great for the first part but now i find myself in a stalemate, and i feel physically drained for forcing myself to talk to other people so much, AND my phone is malfunctioning

Deadass just to think i have to go through lenghts so big just to make a few more friends while others do it naturally, its over

I'm maybe even seen as weird by half the people in that group that are yet to know me, I just want to make three/four good friends by may so i won't necessarily spend summer all alone again,

is it somewhat worth it? Yes

Would i stop two-faced attention begging like this if i could? Absolutely

@The Dark Passenger

Hey bro thanks for tagging me.

 

[Destined to be forgotten]

Hey bro thanks for tagging me.

I'm just as lost as you so I cannot help but I do wish you well I'm your journey socializing.

 

[sinning]

I've been trying to socialize so hard for the past two months, made one good friend and a few friendish-acquaitances and i've been trying to consolidate myself into a friendgroup and things were looking great for the first part but now i find myself in a stalemate, and i feel physically drained for forcing myself to talk to other people so much, AND my phone is malfunctioning

Deadass just to think i have to go through lenghts so big just to make a few more friends while others do it naturally, its over

I'm maybe even seen as weird by half the people in that group that are yet to know me, I just want to make three/four good friends by may so i won't necessarily spend summer all alone again,

is it somewhat worth it? Yes

Would i stop two-faced attention begging like this if i could? Absolutely

@The Dark Passenger

Hmm assuming you’re an introvert, what stops you from socialising? Fear or embarrassment?
Just think, ur most likely not going to see half these people after 10 yrs, plus think of embarrassment being a social construct made to stop u from doing things.
Larp confidence till u start doing it naturally

 

[LostCause]

Larp confidence till u start doing it naturally

O guess the more you act the less you do

Hmm assuming you’re an introvert, what stops you from socialising? Fear or embarrassment?

Mostly that kills me

 

[Destined to be forgotten]

You are so cute man (no homo)

 

[sinning]

You are so cute man (no homo)

ur gay shut up

 

[sinning]

Mostly that kills me

Wym kills u

 

[LostCause]

You are so cute man (no homo)

Wym kills u

I mean it's one of the main causes of my introvertedness

 

[Destined to be forgotten]

I mean it's one of the main causes of my introvertedness

Don't be shy

 

[sinning]

I mean it's one of the main causes of my introvertedness

Think about the future maybe, like force ur self to do something, maybe try counting down, people don’t care as much as u think. Say hi to someone whose part of a friend group u wanna be in, speak to each of them separately at different times and slowly integrate yourself into the friend group, if u make them laugh a couple times ur in