is it healthy parenting to assume its your childs fault all the time?

[32yearoldcel]

i know this is unrelated , but i come here for advice cause i have negative comment karma on reddit due to saying that i support russia in some post

so , whenever a problem occured , parents would always take the other partys side and assume its my fault and absolutely end up doing nothing other than a meaningless restriction like forcing to cut hair too short or no videogames

but like yk , they always made up their mind that i am wrong

rn im a father and i wanted to ask , is this any healthy? , is it natural to nitpick faults in your own kids cause you want them to improve? , like thats what they told me they cant change the other person and its only me who can become perfect and avoid any errors

or should i like whole heartedly support my children if they are more leaning towards the right side than the other person

 

[n9wiff]

It'a good to instill discipline, but don't go too far to the point when you just seem completely unfair.

They'll recognize that

 

[James Othy]

i know this is unrelated , but i come here for advice cause i have negative comment karma on reddit due to saying that i support russia in some post

so , whenever a problem occured , parents would always take the other partys side and assume its my fault and absolutely end up doing nothing other than a meaningless restriction like forcing to cut hair too short or no videogames

but like yk , they always made up their mind that i am wrong

rn im a father and i wanted to ask , is this any healthy? , is it natural to nitpick faults in your own kids cause you want them to improve? , like thats what they told me they cant change the other person and its only me who can become perfect and avoid any errors

or should i like whole heartedly support my children if they are more leaning towards the right side than the other person

I'd rather look like the worst parent in the world and be a good parent than look like a good parent and inadvertently be a bad one because of it.

 

[Tombradylover]

No it’s not healthy parenting to assume ur child is at fault all the time. What type of fucking question is that

 

[32yearoldcel]

No it’s not healthy parenting to assume ur child is at fault all the time. What type of fucking question is that

idk I went through it and I thought that it might be a parenting tactic that my parents used to make me a better person

I'd rather look like the worst parent in the world and be a good parent than look like a good parent and inadvertently be a bad one because of it.

see I agree about boundaries and some control on what my children do

but I don't want to be unreasonable to the point where they get confused and can't understand good or bad behavior so life becomes a game of chance / hit or miss to them like it feels to me

It'a good to instill discipline, but don't go too far to the point when you just seem completely unfair.

They'll recognize that

yup