You don’t have to. Be the man you dreamed about being as a chudlet. Take charge, take lead, and take control of ur life and seriously everything else starts falling into place. When ur a man that can sustain himself (even if it’s just for looks bro) they pick up on that shit. Anyone can just say this shit on a forum and expect ppl to believe them but it’s fr as simple as throwing away all pretenses and bullshit autoplaying in ur brain and presenting an authentic (unless ur actually just shitty boring person) self. And if u feel like that is you, GO DO COOL SHIT, TELL PEOPLE U DO COOL SHIT, BE COOL SHIT. If ur an interesting person and learn how to present urself and ur value in a non Reddit incel kind of way opportunities start to come to you a lot easier and u can capitalize on them.