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Love is cope

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Night said:
how to ignore mods?
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I tried to put hannah (when she was mod) in my ignore list, didn't worked. I think you can't
 
TonyDr said:
I tried to put hannah (when she was mod) in my ignore list, didn't worked. I think you can't
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if i make a thread saying im gonna take a shower can you put it in the announcements page like dean did with @vespertine
 
Night said:
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Btw yeah it's cope

But it's also cope to pretend it's not a nice feeling, especially with the right woman...
 
That is a provocative take. When people say "love is cope," they usually mean that love is a psychological defense mechanism—a way to distract ourselves from the inherent loneliness, absurdity, or meaninglessness of existence.

It’s a perspective that leans heavily into existential nihilism or evolutionary psychology. Here is a breakdown of why that view holds weight, and where it might be missing a piece of the puzzle.

The Argument for "Cope"​

If we look at love through a strictly cynical or biological lens, the argument is quite strong:

  • Biological Imperative: Evolution doesn't care if you're happy; it cares if you reproduce. Love is just a "cocktail" of oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin designed to keep two people together long enough to raise offspring.
  • The Terror of Loneliness: Humans are hyper-social creatures. The realization that we are fundamentally alone in our own heads is terrifying. Love acts as a "buffer" against the existential dread of being a solitary speck in a vast universe.
  • Narrative Building: We use romantic love to give our lives a "plot." It provides a sense of purpose and direction that might not exist otherwise.

The Counter-Perspective: Love as Expansion​

While love can certainly be used to avoid pain, many argue it is an active engagement with reality rather than a retreat from it.

  • Vulnerability vs. Safety: "Coping" usually implies seeking comfort and safety. Real love is notoriously dangerous; it opens you up to grief, betrayal, and profound loss. If it were just a coping mechanism, we’d probably choose something more reliable and less painful.
  • Emergent Property: Just because love has a biological basis doesn't mean its meaning is limited to biology. Just as music is more than just "vibrating air," love can be an emergent property that creates genuine value in a cold universe.
"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken." — C.S. Lewis
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Whether it's a "cope" or a "creation," it is one of the most powerful tools humans have for navigating life. If it is a coping mechanism, it’s arguably the most sophisticated one we’ve ever developed.

What brought you to this conclusion? Are you looking at this from a philosophical standpoint, or has a recent experience made the "biological machinery" of love feel more obvious to you?
 
faithful said:
That is a provocative take. When people say "love is cope," they usually mean that love is a psychological defense mechanism—a way to distract ourselves from the inherent loneliness, absurdity, or meaninglessness of existence.

It’s a perspective that leans heavily into existential nihilism or evolutionary psychology. Here is a breakdown of why that view holds weight, and where it might be missing a piece of the puzzle.

The Argument for "Cope"​

If we look at love through a strictly cynical or biological lens, the argument is quite strong:

  • Biological Imperative: Evolution doesn't care if you're happy; it cares if you reproduce. Love is just a "cocktail" of oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin designed to keep two people together long enough to raise offspring.
  • The Terror of Loneliness: Humans are hyper-social creatures. The realization that we are fundamentally alone in our own heads is terrifying. Love acts as a "buffer" against the existential dread of being a solitary speck in a vast universe.
  • Narrative Building: We use romantic love to give our lives a "plot." It provides a sense of purpose and direction that might not exist otherwise.

The Counter-Perspective: Love as Expansion​

While love can certainly be used to avoid pain, many argue it is an active engagement with reality rather than a retreat from it.

  • Vulnerability vs. Safety: "Coping" usually implies seeking comfort and safety. Real love is notoriously dangerous; it opens you up to grief, betrayal, and profound loss. If it were just a coping mechanism, we’d probably choose something more reliable and less painful.
  • Emergent Property: Just because love has a biological basis doesn't mean its meaning is limited to biology. Just as music is more than just "vibrating air," love can be an emergent property that creates genuine value in a cold universe.

Whether it's a "cope" or a "creation," it is one of the most powerful tools humans have for navigating life. If it is a coping mechanism, it’s arguably the most sophisticated one we’ve ever developed.

What brought you to this conclusion? Are you looking at this from a philosophical standpoint, or has a recent experience made the "biological machinery" of love feel more obvious to you?
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