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been thinking about this because people constantly reduce inhibition to "confidence" and that's not really it
you can be confident and still be highly inhibited. you can know you're not ugly, not stupid, whatever, and still sit there filtering every fucking thing you do because you're too concerned with how it'll be perceived.
that's me rn basically
most of the time the problem isn't that you don't know what to do. you already know. you just keep putting a pause between the thought and actually doing it.
you wanna say something, then you think about whether you should say it. then how it'll sound. then what they'll think. then what happens if they disagree. then the moment is gone. fucking pointless.
you need to get that hesitation down.
just stop treating every tiny social action like it needs to be approved by your brain first.
same with being awkward. people are way too obsessed with never looking stupid. you're going to have awkward conversations. some jokes are gonna bomb. somebody is gonna reject you. sometimes you'll say something that comes out wrong.
the more you fail, the more you learn. and that is what lowers inhib
who cares at the end of the day, tryna be nonchalant has fried our generations brains.
if you're constantly trying to prevent those moments you're gonna become robotic and restrained as fuck. being able to tolerate looking stupid for 10 seconds is worth way more than trying to guarantee that you never do.
another big one is self-monitoring. constantly checking your posture, voice, expression, wording, eye contact, whether you're talking too much etc. just fucking stop. you're supposed to be in the interaction, not standing outside yourself reviewing it in real time.
if you don't say something because it's genuinely stupid, invasive or unnecessary, fine.
if you don't say it because "they might think i'm weird", that's not judgment. that's fear.
same thing with being direct. if you actually want something, say it. if you disagree, disagree. if you don't want to do something, say no. this doesn't mean acting like an obnoxious cunt. it just means there's less bullshit between what you actually think and what comes out.
the easiest way to train this is honestly just catching yourself doing the usual shit and interrupting it. you notice yourself hesitating over something completely harmless, and instead of sitting there thinking about it for another 30 seconds, you do it.
that's the rep.
eventually you stop needing to psych yourself up for basic shit because you've done it enough times that it isn't a big event anymore.
that's what i'd actually call lower inhibition.
not having no filter, not becoming some loud fake extrovert, not turning into a fucking r****d who acts on every impulse.
just having enough control over yourself that fear, self-consciousness and overthinking aren't automatically making every decision for you.
