Discussion My former §exfriend re-contacted me and asked why i've chosen my current gf over her

[BRUCEWAYNE78]

Yes why not

bhai u want an invite to a .com/.org discord server? ill pm u

 

[James Othy]

For context, i've met my former §exfriend in 2022 in the stuck train. We talked, we laughed together, exchanged numbers and then later went to a date that goes very well.

Weeks later she explained that she wasn't ready for a relationship right now but we can remain §exfriends for the moment. It was my 1st §exfriend. I completlely detached myself from that girl but cannot just sent a message, knock at her door just to smash and go back home. So everytime we met we walked and ate at the park, cuddling at her house, staying the very next morning.

2 months after she admitted to have feelings for me and want to go further, being an exclusive relationship.

I refused and i ended this situationship if i can call that. She took it very badly, being mad at me that i've just used her for my needs etc

So now mid-November 2024 i'm with my current gf and everything goes well. But somehow my SF knows it and sent a message asking me why this girl and not her.

Honestly what can i do ?

Ignore her. Leave her on read. There's nothing you can really gain from responding or not responding, so you might as well not.

 

[d6rk.knight]

ignore her bhai

 

[TonyDr]

Update @RainbowDash @d6rk.knight @lemonpie

My gf sent her a message, told her to leave us alone, and not starting spreading lies and bullsh!t.

Personally i've sent her a message too, told her to move on and told her that she rejected me first 2 years ago, and i don't want to be exclusive with a girl who don't know what she want. I choose my gf because she knows what she wanted. Told her i never "used" her, because it's was her idea to put me on that situationship and accepted to not developping feelings.

She blocked me and my gf this morning without responding lmao

But yeah i've reassured my gf too who asked me if i still have feelings for this woman and if i don't use her too...

 

[BodieDysmorphia]

ok update i showed the message to my gf and explained the situation, the background, and she knows that girl, they know each other but she can't stand her, she told me she has some issues. BUT my gf was aware that she cried over a dude for a long time but didn't know it was me. I told my gf that i hope she didn't to sabotage our relationship with lies or bullshit. I told her all the story in details


Can't i be honest with this woman, explaining to her why i refused to be exclusive with her ? Or it makes things worse ? I promise i don't hmm you again sergeant


women and based chadlites only (@BodieDysmorphia included)

lesgo

 

[d6rk.knight]

w girl

 

[gaviniguess]

For context, i've met my former §exfriend in 2022 in the stuck train. We talked, we laughed together, exchanged numbers and then later went to a date that goes very well.

Weeks later she explained that she wasn't ready for a relationship right now but we can remain §exfriends for the moment. It was my 1st §exfriend. I completlely detached myself from that girl but cannot just sent a message, knock at her door just to smash and go back home. So everytime we met we walked and ate at the park, cuddling at her house, staying the very next morning.

2 months after she admitted to have feelings for me and want to go further, being an exclusive relationship.

I refused and i ended this situationship if i can call that. She took it very badly, being mad at me that i've just used her for my needs etc

So now mid-November 2024 i'm with my current gf and everything goes well. But somehow my SF knows it and sent a message asking me why this girl and not her.

Honestly what can i do ?

I sometimes feel like people want you to chase them and make them feel special. I had a gf 21 who would constantly say she wants to be friends yet act like she loved me N show me sexual things since this was online but if she said she wanted to be friends now I'd say fine I just don't want to talk anymore and she'd cry. I personally don't like being friends after breakup. But she ended up blocking me and admitting she just felt like it so I said ok and deattached and when I got a gf she got mad and blocked me again

 

[gaviniguess]

I sometimes feel like people want you to chase them and make them feel special. I had a gf 21 who would constantly say she wants to be friends yet act like she loved me N show me sexual things since this was online but if she said she wanted to be friends now I'd say fine I just don't want to talk anymore and she'd cry. I personally don't like being friends after breakup. But she ended up blocking me and admitting she just felt like it so I said ok and deattached and when I got a gf she got mad and blocked me again

This happens alot you talk to someone they show they aren't serious about you or aren't gonna be loyal then you get a gf and they'll message you I don't understand the logic at all

 

[TonyDr]

This happens alot you talk to someone they show they aren't serious about you or aren't gonna be loyal then you get a gf and they'll message you I don't understand the logic at all

an ego thing more than genuine feelings

 

[gaviniguess]

an ego thing more than genuine feelings

Yea it's so stupid

 

[nr4tt]

ignore the message

 

[Deleted Member 36944]

tldr?

 

[Deleted member 49549]

For context, i've met my former §exfriend in 2022 in the stuck train. We talked, we laughed together, exchanged numbers and then later went to a date that goes very well.

Weeks later she explained that she wasn't ready for a relationship right now but we can remain §exfriends for the moment. It was my 1st §exfriend. I completlely detached myself from that girl but cannot just sent a message, knock at her door just to smash and go back home. So everytime we met we walked and ate at the park, cuddling at her house, staying the very next morning.

2 months after she admitted to have feelings for me and want to go further, being an exclusive relationship.

I refused and i ended this situationship if i can call that. She took it very badly, being mad at me that i've just used her for my needs etc

So now mid-November 2024 i'm with my current gf and everything goes well. But somehow my SF knows it and sent a message asking me why this girl and not her.

Honestly what can i do ?

Chad problems

 

[TonyDr]

Chad problems

Say the Chad itself