my friends do not listen to what i have to say

[junebug]

every time i try to talk to them it's an exasperated "whaaaattt" or they just look at me like I asked the most stupid question known to man. it's funny the first time, ok? not the millionth time.

I know they don't like me, but I can't fathom why. am I annoying? do I overshare? am I just perhaps ugly?

 

[Deleted Member 118059]

every time i try to talk to them it's an exasperated "whaaaattt" or they just look at me like I asked the most stupid question known to man. it's funny the first time, ok? not the millionth time.

I know they don't like me, but I can't fathom why. am I annoying? do I overshare? am I just perhaps ugly?

give an example so I can gauge what you mean (im tryna give genuine advice here]

 

[junebug]

give an example so I can gauge what you mean (im tryna give genuine advice here]

I turn to my friend at lunch, he's not talking to anyone else, just on his phone scrolling. I say "hey" or something along the lines trying to make conversation. he looks up at me like it's the 1950s and I, his bitch wife, just served him ice cold meth laced meatloaf.

I get that I say stupid things sometimes but yo LET ME TALK FIRST BEFORE YOU DECIDE I'M SOME NUISANCE

 

[Deleted Member 118059]

I turn to my friend at lunch, he's not talking to anyone else, just on his phone scrolling. I say "hey" or something along the lines trying to make conversation. he looks up at me like it's the 1950s and I, his bitch wife, just served him ice cold meth laced meatloaf.

I get that I say stupid things sometimes but yo LET ME TALK FIRST BEFORE YOU DECIDE I'M SOME NUISANCE

not tryna be rude or anything but he prob just doesn't wanna talk to you

(this is assuming your description of the event is accurate, which I have good reason to doubt, since people reguarly misread the intentions and behaviours of other people)

 

[junebug]

not tryna be rude or anything but he prob just doesn't wanna talk to you

(this is assuming your description of the event is accurate, which I have good reason to doubt, since people reguarly misread the intentions and behaviours of other people)

yeah honestly sounds accurate. I'm disappointed.
this happens with a lot of my friends, I'm like the court jester of the group, I'm always the one that gets ragged on for dumb shit. I need to stop laughing at myself and demand to be of value

 

[junebug]

not tryna be rude or anything but he prob just doesn't wanna talk to you

(this is assuming your description of the event is accurate, which I have good reason to doubt, since people reguarly misread the intentions and behaviours of other people)

could also be misreading

 

[Deleted Member 118059]

could also be misreading

yeah you shouldn't assume much from a single action someone does, but from the general way they treat you

 

[Deleted Member 118059]

yeah honestly sounds accurate. I'm disappointed.
this happens with a lot of my friends, I'm like the court jester of the group, I'm always the one that gets ragged on for dumb shit. I need to stop laughing at myself and demand to be of value

hope it gets better bhai

 

[lowtiersubhuman]

every time i try to talk to them it's an exasperated "whaaaattt" or they just look at me like I asked the most stupid question known to man. it's funny the first time, ok? not the millionth time.

I know they don't like me, but I can't fathom why. am I annoying? do I overshare? am I just perhaps ugly?

What are you trying to tell them about

 

[junebug]

What are you trying to tell them about

mostly just stories about my day or something I've been thinking about, nothing special

 

[virgile]

yeah honestly sounds accurate. I'm disappointed.
this happens with a lot of my friends, I'm like the court jester of the group, I'm always the one that gets ragged on for dumb shit. I need to stop laughing at myself and demand to be of value

do they ever initiate conversations / interactions or are you always the igniter ?

 

[junebug]

do they ever initiate conversations / interactions or are you always the igniter ?

I'd say I initiate more

 

[virgile]

I'd say I initiate more

do you feel like your energy is reciprocated ?

 

[knightmaxxer]

this happens when you make friends with normies

 

[junebug]

do you feel like your energy is reciprocated ?

I feel like they tease me a lot more than match my energy but we have serious conversations sometimes and they seem to care so idk. they've been vulnerable with me before so I know they trust me to some extent

 

[junebug]

this happens when you make friends with normies

truth supernova

 

[virgile]

I feel like they tease me a lot more than match my energy but we have serious conversations sometimes and they seem to care so idk. they've been vulnerable with me before so I know they trust me to some extent

doesnt seem completely one sided then , sometimes people just arent in the mood for conversations and you got to accept it , now if its beehaviour thats constantly repeated you're in the right to ask yourself questions , but don't overthink it if it's something that happens from time to time , we're all humans we arent in the best mood all the day you know , but never be scared to be vocal about your boundaries if the teasing bothers you

 

[junebug]

doesnt seem completely one sided then , sometimes people just arent in the mood for conversations and you got to accept it , now if its beehaviour thats constantly repeated you're in the right to ask yourself questions , but don't overthink it if it's something that happens from time to time ,

it's p constant tbh

we're all humans we arent in the best mood all the day you know , but never be scared to be vocal about your boundaries if the teasing bothers you

yeaahahhhhh I'm way too scared of being dubbed 'too sensitive' or something

 

[virgile]

yeaahahhhhh I'm way too scared of being dubbed 'too sensitive' or something

if they dont respect this they aren't your friends , and i mean that

 

[junebug]

if they dont respect this they aren't your friends , and i mean that

I know, I graduate in a month or so and that's that

 

[virgile]

I know, I graduate in a month or so and that's that

good opportunity for a fresh start