My opinion on teen love

[Anna]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

 

[Newday]

I had my first girlfriend at 9 years old, I had multiple girls who liked and flirted with me onwards from age 15, I had a crush on a girl from age 13-16 She flirted with me a lot of times and ended up liking me back but I did not care.

I do not care about any of these people

 

[Randomized]

Teen love is very pure

I'm not sure I would say chemically / physically underdeveloped brains as being the same equivalent of "pure love". I would not say underbaked cookies are "pure" cookies. It's a silly way of viewing the human experience.

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

My argument has always been that teen love is just not as enjoyable as people think it is. Most of the aspects they associate with it, as you've explained it better than I could've, is just aspects of childhood in general. I didn't have the freedom to do what I wanted when I was dating, I couldn't spend money (like buying gifts or buying clothes I wanted to wear) or go on the dates I wanted to, I couldn't drive (and MOST teens won't learn to drive until late teens), I didn't own anything (I didn't have my own place or car), etc.

It was never about it being detrimental, because I've never advocated against bad experiences in my entire time on being these forums. If anything most of my posts are about doing the things that feels bad.

 

[Anna]

I had my first girlfriend at 9 years old, I had multiple girls who liked and flirted with me onwards from age 15, I had a crush on a girl from age 13-16 She flirted with me a lot of times and ended up liking me back but I did not care.

I do not care about any of these people

damn i feel differently abt people ive been with

maybe cos of sex as well but im not sure

 

[Shkypot]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

Will read later

 

[nullethos]

DNRD n***a no one reading this shit ai generated slop

 

[TonyDr]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

Teen love is a also a perception of someone you've put on a pedestal, that you still think about it because it ended suddenly. Like holidays love etc.
Few more years with him/her and you would have genuinely hated their gut because you grow-up and you find-out it was more or less toxic anyways and not-adapted to adult world when the concept of sex, offsprings/reproduction, finances and education/chores are on the line and test your relationship strength

 

[Anna]

I'm not sure I would say chemically / physically underdeveloped brains as being the same equivalent of "pure love". I would not say underbaked cookies are "pure" cookies. It's a silly way of viewing the human experience.

I guess so, but its still how we operate at the time so in my opinion it genuine as it is natural.

My argument has always been that teen love is just not as enjoyable as people think it is. Most of the aspects they associate with it, as you've explained it better than I could've, is just aspects of childhood in general. I didn't have the freedom to do what I wanted when I was dating, I couldn't spend money (like buying gifts or buying clothes I wanted to wear) or go on the dates I wanted to, I couldn't drive (and MOST teens won't learn to drive until late teens), I didn't own anything (I didn't have my own place or car), etc.

It was never about it being detrimental, because I've never advocated against bad experiences in my entire time on being these forums. If anything most of my posts are about doing the things that feels bad.

Well my apologies if I misunderstood what you initially meant. Your argument makes sense

 

[CopingManiac]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

DNR but im sure it's a good thread

 

[Anna]

DNR but im sure it's a good thread

at least gold rep then

 

[CopingManiac]

at least gold rep then

I don't take orders

 

[Anna]

I don't take orders

nazi btw

 

[Anna]

@draftLexy sign WE need to get together asap

 

[Randomized]

Teen love is a also a perception of someone you've put on a pedestal, that you still think about it because it ended suddenly. Like holidays love etc.
Few more years with him/her and you would have genuinely hated their gut because you grow-up and you find-out it was more or less toxic anyways and not-adapted to adult world when the concept of sex, offsprings/reproduction, finances and education/chores are on the line and test your relationship strength

Exactly. Most of these teens are dating in school and those relationships usually lasts like 2 grades or something, if even. People who marry young almost always regret it and it will almost always end up in divorce, because 1. you change as you get older and 2. you married before you actually knew or understood this person. The only situations I'm aware of that this doesn't happen is usually in religious cultures, like Muslims or Mormons, and it's heavily debated if these young marriages actually makes these couples feel happy long term or just trapped.

 

[CopingManiac]

nazi btw

no? im liberal

 

[Anna]

no? im liberal

fair enough

now gold rep for trans rights or something

 

[Newday]

damn i feel differently abt people ive been with

maybe cos of sex as well but im not sure

I am a strange selective person

 

[xy2m]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

im crine
day one or one day

 

[CopingManiac]

fair enough

now gold rep for trans rights or something

how many more reps do you want?
this the type of gluttony spoken of in the bible
ye ye the jfl react will be enough

 

[Anna]

im crine
day one or one day

 

[draftLexy]

@draftLexy sign WE need to get together asap

2ana you wanna have the teen romance with me? i think hex disappeared off everywhere anyways

 

[Anna]

2ana you wanna have the teen romance with me?

sure why not

 

[draftLexy]

sure why not

You should be screaming yes yes omg thank you lexy

 

[Anna]

You should be screaming yes yes omg thank you lexy

what are u trynna say

ur better than me or something

 

[draftLexy]

what are u trynna say

ur better than me or something

no that you should be happy to be with meshow your love and affection

 

[Anna]

no that you should be happy to be with meshow your love and affection

oh ok

yeah i love u so much

 

[Vergil444]

Spoiler: Song for thread

I have brought this topic up before on the discord and most users had opinions that relationships in your teen years aren't worth it. At the time it kinda swayed my views, but upon more thought into the matter I have changed my views back to the original, that teen love is a once in a lifetime experience that deserves to be cherished. I am not saying that I am right, but this is just my opinion on the matter

Argument 1

From ages around 13-16 your limbic system (where emotions are controlled) is much more developed than your prefrontal cortex. In other words, the reason teens "fall in love" so quickly is literally because of this. It takes less time because you aren't looking through a boring adult cynical viewpoint, even subconsciously.

Once you age there is literally no way to reverse this, you are missing out on some of the most genuine feelings connections you will feel in life.

You will most likely never feel the same about another partner after you break up. This is why people always say things like they are caught up on their first ex. There are people I know personally who are terrible people to each other and a bad match but yet they constantly go back and forth with dating eachother since they started dating at around 12. They are literally unable to form bonds with other people the same way they did with eachother which is why they are yo-yoing to and from eachother. Teen love is very pure

its a biological adaptation btw “Risky behavior, regardless of what the risk is, taps into the very same neural regions that process reward,” explained Galván. “So when you experience a risk in a positive way, the brain activation is the same as if you experienced a reward.”

Galván’s research has found that not only are teens more sensitive to rewards than adults, this makes them better learners.

“Compared to adults, adolescents have more [reward center] activation when they're learning a new task, and this greater activation helps them learn from the environment in a more adaptive and efficient way than the adults,” said Galván. “It's kind of a surprising result.” (https://www.universityofcalifornia.edu/news/evolutionary-advantage-teenage-brain )


Argument 2

If you are an adult and missed out on teen love, you may be still be subconsciously coping from it. Hence why I know people who missed out on teen love marrying the first person they ever dated. Or people who grew up with no relationships and feeble mindedly "slay" women all the time instead of looking for an ltr. You are just coping in my opinion.


Argument 3

A good point made by @Schizotypalcel and I think @Randomized Shame is that as a teenager you aren't mature enough and it might be more detrimental to yourself than beneficial. I see the logic but I think that after a certain point it doesnt matter, life is about learning and trying new things and in the grand scheme of your life a relationship won't have too bad of an effect unless its an extreme outlier

I think a lot of people will regret it if they pass up on teen love, and if you are incel I am sorry for you.

Most old people will say that most of your life seems like it happened before you reach 21

Spoiler

@kimothy @Newday @</3 @doll @emeraldpill @Recession @Shkypot @hazyfuture @Pento @TonyDr @nate @insomnia

I never had a girlfriend at 15-16, I tried my best but I was a tall, overweight guy who liked games and rarely exercised, At least, the bitter realization of all the bad experiences with love made me more handsome, but also emotionally resilient, and made me a smarter and better person. It was the worst phase of my life, But like a rough diamond, you will always be polished until you become a rare jewel.

 

[xy2m]

butt

 

[Anna]

butt

ohoh trynna do what lovers do

oooo oo oo trynna do what lovers

ooo ooo ooo ooo oo ooo trynna do what lovers do

 

[xy2m]

ohoh trynna do what lovers do

oooo oo oo trynna do what lovers

ooo ooo ooo ooo oo ooo trynna do what lovers do

Nyah ichi neee san

 

[Anna]

Nyah ichi neee san

now rep me