please help me resolve this (preferably foids, but moid gurus are free to chime in too)

[Deleted Member 81037]

a couple of days ago, i spent an entire day at work with a colleague

among other non-work related convos, she brought up how she's been eating too much during breaks and said: "if i continue like this, i'll reach 100 kg in no time". i barely responded, only giving her a borderline unintelligible "heh". she obv wasn't satisfied with that, so she repeated it 30 seconds later in the same convo. i completely ignored it (just felt commenting it would be unnecessary). 3-4 minutes later, she brought it up again. said the same line with the same tone.

please tell me i'm not being a sperg for thinking it was her way of fishing for compliments/sexually charged comments from me.

for context: i'm a rich high status chadlite+ and she is like 50-55 and a reputable judge, so it's not that i m talking about a high functioning r****d who forgets what they said in a minute. she is like 165 cm and 55 kg, not some borderline whale with perpetual weight related issues. phenotypically, she really doesn't look like she's been fat when she was younger, so i'd rule that out too

obviously i m not asking this because i plan to ask her out or because i need more validation, lmao; i m just being curious and want a confirmation that i have at least some social intelligence

 

[Deleted Member 76281]

she either has body dysmorphia or is seeking validation. you really need to decipher which one it is, because if it’s the former, you need to be supportive. if it’s the latter, continue to ignore her.

 

[r4ge]

yeah sounds like she was insecure and looking for a compliment, but she might've also been looking for advice.

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

she either has body dysmorphia or is seeking validation. you really need to decipher which one it is, because if it’s the former, you need to be supportive. if it’s the latter, continue to ignore her.

it doesnt matter "what happens next"; i m not gonna be seeing her nor do i think about approaching her, i was just curious from a sociological POV.

but i think she s had some body dysmorphia type issue in the past, tbh. in other convos, she kept praising me for "being healthy", not smoking etc. she also kept giving me health and nutrition related advice without me asking

p.s. considering my looks and the way she commented our cooperation (those "non-looks related" compliments that you know you are getting because you are hot), there was obviously a lot of her thirsting for my cock involved, but her repeating that particular line somehow stuck with me. like she desperately wanted to hear reassurance about how she is slim enough

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

nvm
yh her saying it twice def means she cares abt YOUR opinion on her weight/eating habits or whatever.
which is a bonus

 

[Deleted Member 76281]

could've said something better than 'heh'
that right there was an opportunity to see how she feels abt u

could've flirted right there, subtle.
acting cold towards a woman works counterproductive

could you elaborate? what would one say in this situatuon in order to figure out how she feels about you?

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

nvm
yh her saying it twice def means she cares abt YOUR opinion on her weight/eating habits or whatever.
which is a bonus

3 times, the same exact line. and a couple more times where she worded it differently

but yeah, i think my assessment of her "pheno" might be wrong, she was maybe fat when she was younger. it's just that she doesnt look like one of those people who look like they are 3 cheat days away from morbid obesity. petite body, low e proportions, no unfortunate facial fat storage genetics

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

could you elaborate? what would one say in this situatuon in order to figure out how she feels about you?

Simple compliment would suffice. "I can't see u ever reaching that weight. We all got to eat, though right?"

tbh doesn't rlly doesn't matter what u say. Her reaction is more important.

The eyes never lie. Her mood might get better, she might become more chatty or smiley towards u afterwards which are both positive.
I learned to observe women's body language and actions more than anything.

It tells so much more than words.

 

[Deleted Member 76281]

Simple compliment would suffice. "I can't see u ever reaching that weight. We all got to eat, though right?"

tbh doesn't rlly doesn't matter what u say. Her reaction is more important.

The eyes never lie. Her mood might get better, she might become more chatty or smiley towards u afterwards which are both positive.
I learned to observe women's body language and actions more than anything.

It tells so much more than words.

so does this apply to any situation or does it have to be specific?

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

Simple compliment would suffice. "I can't see u ever reaching that weight. We all got to eat, though right?"

tbh doesn't rlly doesn't matter what u say. Her reaction is more important.

The eyes never lie. Her mood might get better, she might become more chatty or smiley towards u afterwards which are both positive.
I learned to observe women's body language and actions more than anything.

It tells so much more than words.

should be water, but so many guys (who, ironically, think they are some sociosexual dynamics experts) are failing (or refusing) to realise this. i cringe so hard when i see or read about some clown literally interviewing women about what they find attractive in men. that's not how anything works, and i dont mean it in a denigrating "women are unaware of themselves" way

 

[adore]

She wants you to tell her she looks fine

"You look fine as is, don't worry"

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

She wants you to tell her she looks fine

"You look fine as is, don't worry"

i ve given her the validation i thought she deserved throughout the day, tbh. her fixation seemed to be on weight specifically. will ask some older colleagues if she's been fat before, but i just can't see it

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

so does this apply to any situation or does it have to be specific?

A lot of situations tbh. Observing how she is around you is key.
Same way you can tell when a girl is into someone else, you observe her body language around that person.
Does she give other guys the same treatment? This one is very telling.

Takes a bit of practice though.

 

[Patrickbatman]

a couple of days ago, i spent an entire day at work with a colleague

among other non-work related convos, she brought up how she's been eating too much during breaks and said: "if i continue like this, i'll reach 100 kg in no time". i barely responded, only giving her a borderline unintelligible "heh". she obv wasn't satisfied with that, so she repeated it 30 seconds later in the same convo. i completely ignored it (just felt commenting it would be unnecessary). 3-4 minutes later, she brought it up again. said the same line with the same tone.

please tell me i'm not being a sperg for thinking it was her way of fishing for compliments/sexually charged comments from me.

for context: i'm a rich high status chadlite+ and she is like 50-55 and a reputable judge, so it's not that i m talking about a high functioning r****d who forgets what they said in a minute. she is like 165 cm and 55 kg, not some borderline whale with perpetual weight related issues. phenotypically, she really doesn't look like she's been fat when she was younger, so i'd rule that out too

obviously i m not asking this because i plan to ask her out or because i need more validation, lmao; i m just being curious and want a confirmation that i have at least some social intelligence

I would never believe that you are a judge. It is almost impossible for a judge to share such a post on this forum. Due to their job, they would not have much time to visit the forum.

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

I would never believe that you are a judge. It is almost impossible for a judge to share such a post on this forum. Due to their job, they would not have much time to visit the forum.

i m not a judge, they just count as colleagues to lawyers.

you couldnt be more wrong about the time (they work from like 9:40 to 12:50 on average), but you won't be able to google them or see them publish anything online, yeah. too strict ethical codexes

 

[Patrickbatman]

i m not a judge, they just count as colleagues to lawyers.

you couldnt be more wrong about the time (they work from like 9:40 to 12:50 on average), but you won't be able to google them or see them publish anything online, yeah. too strict ethical codexes

I don't think a judge would be interested in Looksmax, so I don't believe they would ever visit the Looksmax forums. They probably don't even know what Looksmax is; they are more concerned with their work.

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

I don't think a judge would be interested in Looksmax, so I don't believe they would ever visit the Looksmax forums. They probably don't even know what Looksmax is; they are more concerned with their work.

most of them are natural born shitposters, bro

 

[Deleted Member 74518]

a couple of days ago, i spent an entire day at work with a colleague

among other non-work related convos, she brought up how she's been eating too much during breaks and said: "if i continue like this, i'll reach 100 kg in no time". i barely responded, only giving her a borderline unintelligible "heh". she obv wasn't satisfied with that, so she repeated it 30 seconds later in the same convo. i completely ignored it (just felt commenting it would be unnecessary). 3-4 minutes later, she brought it up again. said the same line with the same tone.

please tell me i'm not being a sperg for thinking it was her way of fishing for compliments/sexually charged comments from me.

for context: i'm a rich high status chadlite+ and she is like 50-55 and a reputable judge, so it's not that i m talking about a high functioning r****d who forgets what they said in a minute. she is like 165 cm and 55 kg, not some borderline whale with perpetual weight related issues. phenotypically, she really doesn't look like she's been fat when she was younger, so i'd rule that out too

obviously i m not asking this because i plan to ask her out or because i need more validation, lmao; i m just being curious and want a confirmation that i have at least some social intelligence

she wants validation

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

she wants validation

now that i think of it, it could have been age related too. as i said, she is 50+ and age hurts women much more. possibly just wanted the confirmation she can still be viewed as a sextoy

 

[Deleted Member 74518]

now that i think of it, it could have been age related too. as i said, she is 50+ and age hurts women much more. possibly just wanted the confirmation she can still be viewed as a sextoy

tbh maybe it was not SEXUAL, but she wanted compliments, specifically if you are considered a good looking man IRL

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

now that i think of it, it could have been age related too. as i said, she is 50+ and age hurts women much more. possibly just wanted the confirmation she can still be viewed as a sextoy

aint no way I thought u meant as in 50+ kg
u rlly writing threads abt a 50 yr old woman?

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

aint no way I thought u meant as in 50+ kg
u rlly writing threads abt a 50 yr old woman?

yeah, tbh. i m not a touch deprived incel suffering from the missing out on teen love syndrome, though, so that might be the problem

p.s. work on your reading comprehension. this thread really wasn't complicated to read

 

[Genetics]

I absolutely despise these "social games". Absolutely draining. Much less draining to challenge yourself with sum math problem or literally anything else. Thank god I live in self-isolation. You just reminded me of the disgusting world that I hate.

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

I absolutely despise these "social games". Absolutely draining. Much less draining to challenge yourself with sum math problem or literally anything else. Thank god I live in self-isolation. You just reminded me of the disgusting world that I hate.

legit, tbh

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

yeah, tbh. i m not a touch deprived incel suffering from the missing out on teen love syndrome, though, so that might be the problem

p.s. work on your reading comprehension. this thread really wasn't complicated to read

u felt the need to add in your stats tho supposed "rich chadlite etc etc".
yeah right

..why does this matter exactly in this context?

 

[YourFavouriteUser]

You fucking r****d! She thinks you're so briandead you randomly blanking out is a normal occasion

Also mirin extreme passiveness wallflower nigguh
Keep stressing over perfect words for utter roasties who can be my mom as I run 0 cortisol 0 effort whip out game on jb's
We are not the same

PS. They never let fat disgusting OP leave psych ward

 

[Deleted Member 81037]

You fucking r****d! She thinks you're so briandead you randomly blanking out is a normal occasion

Also mirin extreme passiveness wallflower nigguh
Keep stressing over perfect words for utter roasties who can be my mom as I run 0 cortisol 0 effort whip out game on jb's
We are not the same

PS. They never let fat disgusting OP leave psych ward

10/10 post, tbh