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[pompompurino]

whats something u pretend not to care ab/downplay, but secretly u hope for?

for me it’s partying
i say i hate parties but im just afraid of being too awkward and shit. in reality, i would love to party every weekend w my friends but i usually decline due to this fear and i regret it EVERYTIME

 

[David🦢]

I pretend that I don't need a gf

But deep down in my heart I need one.

 

[Prince]

Idk if this is the right context, but gym. I don't like it, but I need to go.

 

[bunny2]

i’d tell u but i need to stay non chalant n mysterious

 

[pompompurino]

i’d tell u but i need to stay non chalant n mysterious

open up bunny, this is a safe space
u don’t need to get too deep into it

 

[slopslinger]

fomo is good for you tbh I'd be a loser without it.

really I just care way too much about what ppl think of me. I get hurt easily, etc.

 

[let the light in]

My name is Miguel O’Hara. I’m this dimensions one and only Spider-man! At least I was…

 

[Prince]

really I just care way too much about what ppl think of me. I get hurt easily, etc.

Relatable

 

[Knight]

I pretend that I don’t care about what people say

 

[BlendedBlade🧿]

whats something u pretend not to care ab/downplay, but secretly u hope for?

for me it’s partying
i say i hate parties but im just afraid of being too awkward and shit. in reality, i would love to party every weekend w my friends but i usually decline due to this fear and i regret it EVERYTIME

Cant recall anything tbh

 

[pompompurino]

I pretend that I don't need a gf

But deep down in my heart I need one.

i find myself downplaying my craving for romantic connection too, it’s ok to want somebody to connect to

Idk if this is the right context, but gym. I don't like it, but I need to go.

this is so real somedays i rlly wanna go and somedays i would rather kms than go, what matters is u push urself no matter how shitty u feel

fomo is good for you tbh I'd be a loser without it.

really I just care way too much about what ppl think of me. I get hurt easily, etc.

i care a lot too, knowing how im perceived

 

[NewFuckingDay]

Killing people

 

[Randomized Shame]

Tough question.

I think I've gotten a lot better with these kinds of emotions as I've gotten older, and I assume that's the case for most people.

When I was younger I struggled to advocate for my needs, wants and desires, and so I felt a lot of regret and wished secretly for a different outcome even if it was my fault for how I ended up in a situation. I'm not sure if I would say I currently struggle with that as much as anymore.

 

[pompompurino]

Killing people

we got timmy tough knuckles over here @bunny

 

[NewFuckingDay]

we got timmy tough knuckles over here @bunny

ending the lives of others

 

[NewFuckingDay]

dissecting corpses

 

[NewFuckingDay]

eating people

 

[TonyDr]

whats something u pretend not to care ab/downplay, but secretly u hope for?

When my gf does my skincare
"GTFO with your aloe vera masks"

But lowkey :

 

[Randomized Shame]

When my gf does my skincare
"GTFO with your aloe vera masks"

But lowkey :
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Real.

 

[Decay]

Nothing, i don’t think.

 

[pompompurino]

When I was younger I struggled to advocate for my needs, wants and desires, and so I felt a lot of regret and wished secretly for a different outcome even if it was my fault for how I ended up in a situation. I'm not sure if I would say I currently struggle with that as much as anymore.

so u regret not advocating for urself and wished u had for a different outcome? honestly i can relate to that, sometimes u just wanna rewind time and handle things differently. it’s easy to get stuck blaming urself for it, but the fact u recognize and don’t struggle with it as much anymore shows a lot of growth

When my gf does my skincare
"GTFO with your aloe vera masks"

But lowkey :
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fuck u this is goals im jelly

 

[TonyDr]

fuck u this is goals im jelly

You'll find a guy dw about it
Tuff guys always have a soft side with the right girl

 

[Randomized Shame]

so u regret not advocating for urself and wished u had for a different outcome? honestly i can relate to that, sometimes u just wanna rewind time and handle things differently. it’s easy to get stuck blaming urself for it, but the fact u recognize and don’t struggle with it as much anymore shows a lot of growth

fuck u this is goals im jelly

It took time though and it took me realizing that advocating for myself was not selfish.

Refusing to advocate for yourself actually makes it more difficult on those around you - it does not make it easier for them or anything. In the instance of partying and stuff, you not only rob yourself the opportunity to experience something fun and enjoyable, but you rob your friends of that memory.

For me it was hard to make change solely for myself, so I had to understand how my behavior effected others before I realized I didn't want to keep doing that to them and that they deserved a different version of me than one that was focused on the wrong things.

Not sure if that helps you but it helped me.

 

[Darkeningstar]

I pretend I don't mind pretending, I'd rather not pretend


I pretend that others pretend that I don't pretend, but they don't do that


Additional:
I pretend not to be sensitive, but I am
Or I pretend to be sensitive, but I’m not and I regret not being sensitive

 

[Deleted Member 80115]

Just deflection, once you start adjusting to those things and playing them out well in your head instead of forming a skewed picture of it you won't hate it.

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

whats something u pretend not to care ab/downplay, but secretly u hope for?

for me it’s partying
i say i hate parties but im just afraid of being too awkward and shit. in reality, i would love to party every weekend w my friends but i usually decline due to this fear and i regret it EVERYTIME

Marriage tbh, but only in front of my IRLs and family I tell them all the time I don't want to I need to stay alone and whatever but they don't know that I'm lying

 

[Becky4L]

whats something u pretend not to care ab/downplay, but secretly u hope for?

for me it’s partying
i say i hate parties but im just afraid of being too awkward and shit. in reality, i would love to party every weekend w my friends but i usually decline due to this fear and i regret it EVERYTIME

Not drinking