Serious Should I go to a therapist?

[Cat]

Like I socialise just alright when needed but I never go out until my girlfriend begs me to. I basically do Work, School and then also Piano and sometimes gym thats it. I barely even talk to anyone at school even though people dont hate me like their always fine with me joining in going out and stuff.

 

[Cat]

Wtf why do I self sabotage

 

[drchad]

What would you need therapy for exactly? You based of this have enough social skills “when needed”, a gf, job you just seem to have a quiet simple life

 

[Cat]

What would you need therapy for exactly? You based of this you have enough social skills “when needed”, a gf, job you just seem to have a quiet simple life

You see I can be doing more with my time like I lack a stable social circle rn.

 

[drchad]

You see I can be doing more with my time like I lack a stable social circle rn.

A social circle isnt gonna come out of no where most of them where already built in middleschool and branch off into highschool , by sophmore year if your not already in a social circle then chances are you wont be until college

 

[Cat]

A social circle isnt gonna come out of no where most of them where already built in middleschool and branch off into highschool , by sophmore year if your not already in a social circle then chances are you wont be until college

I am in Uni right now. Should I be trying to make some friends? Cause people do talk to me but I always forget to ask for their ig or whatsapp so we can chat off campus

 

[Deleted Member 92677]

therapy is useless

 

[Cat]

therapy is useless

Over

 

[emeraldpill]

Never benefited from it personally but it works for some

Not worth discarding without trying I guess

 

[Deleted Member 92677]

Over

maybe if u find a good therapist it’s worth it but mine just repeats the exact same things every session it’s so annoying

 

[drchad]

I am in Uni right now. Should I be trying to make some friends? Cause people do talk to me but I always forget to ask for their ig or whatsapp so we can chat off campus

ah man this late into the year ? Its still possibe but itll be a little harder. Especially if your not naturally making these friends and kind of forcing it try being easy going

Honestly just make atleast one good friend and connection and try piggy backing off them to meet their friends and keep it going on

dont ask for whatsapp btw if your in america ive literally never heard someone ask that just stick to instagram make sure you have good social presence on insta with posts and shit

 

[Cat]

ah man this late into the year ? Its still possibe but itll be a little harder. Especially if your not naturally making these friends and kind of forcing it try being easy going

Honestly just make atleast one good friend and connection and try piggy backing off them to meet their friends and keep it going on

dont ask for whatsapp btw if your in america ive literally never heard someone ask that just stick to instagram make sure you have good social presence on insta with posts and shit

I have a somewhat decent social presence but thank you this is genuinely good advice imo. And also Im from Europe and not the US if that makes its better for my case.

 

[Anna]

do u spend time with ur family?

 

[Deleted Member 74605]

Im the same way not everyone can be extroverted unfortunately

 

[jkcwakcjw]

Im the same way not everyone can be extroverted unfortunately

i have interesting question: do u think if ppl didnt have bad past experiences then that person would be extroverted?

 

[chudlite67]

therapy cant hurt also it lowk might help with ur ascension you look different when ur happier

 

[Deleted Member 74605]

i have interesting question: do u think if ppl didnt have bad past experiences then that person would be extroverted?

I think you may be on to something actually, I was extroverted growing up

 

[scottmartin]

Like, I socialize just alright when needed, but I never go out unless my girlfriend begs me to. I basically just do work, school, piano, and sometimes the gym, and that’s pretty much it. I barely even talk to anyone at school, even though people don’t hate me or anything. They’re always cool with me joining them when they go out. I guess I’m just someone who prefers keeping a simple routine, and I don’t really feel the need to be out all the time. I’ve been helping out with behavioral health billing services lately, so that’s another thing that keeps me occupied.

That honestly sounds pretty normal. You seem more introverted and comfortable sticking to your routine rather than actively seeking people out. The fact that people at school are still friendly and invite you to things means they clearly don’t have a problem with you. You don’t need to force yourself to be extremely social. If you’re happy with your routine, there’s nothing wrong with it. But if you sometimes feel like you’re missing out, try accepting invitations a little more often. You might enjoy going out once you actually get there, even if you didn’t feel like going beforehand.