socializing tips?

[Dearpleasehelpme]

Anyone got any tips on how to socialize, actually advice, going to 10th grade and im a bit scared since i transfered schools. In my old hs i had a small friend group i got out off since they called me horrendous looking, ugly, and would overall make me lose confidence. hoping this school years a bit different but im still bad looking and i lack social skills. Any tips?

 

[Zygos]

i had a small friend group i got out off since they called me horrendous looking, ugly

 

[Dearpleasehelpme]

thing idk if im ugly or slightly below average, it makes me so fucking and fags make it worse by making me lose confused.

 

[MLBU]

Ngl I was really in a similar boat as you in high school. It probably feels like everything you are experiencing right now matters so much but if you ask anyone after they graduate you really realize how insignificant a lot of stuff was then. I used to deal with so much fear and anxiety of being seen as weird or different and it was a whole lot of the spotlight effect thinking people are paying more attention to yourself than the reality. Everyone is just focused on themselves, if you emabarsss yourself it doesn’t matter nobody gonna remember. Don’t let your past experiences get to you. This is a clean slate so do it how you want to this time.

 

[Dearpleasehelpme]

Ngl I was really in a similar boat as you in high school. It probably feels like everything you are experiencing right now matters so much but if you ask anyone after they graduate you really realize how insignificant a lot of stuff was then. I used to deal with so much fear and anxiety of being seen as weird or different and it was a whole lot of the spotlight effect thinking people are paying more attention to yourself than the reality. Everyone is just focused on themselves, if you emabarsss yourself it doesn’t matter nobody gonna remember. Don’t let your past experiences get to you. This is a clean slate so do it how you want to this time.

I mean thing is, it’s a new school, don’t rlly know anyone. Scared imma get bullied again n shi those were the worst points in my life. Js don’t want that shi to happen again.

 

[MLBU]

Well that’s my point. Since it’s a new school it’s a new opportunity to present yourself differently. I was the most awkward anxious kid in high school and chose to attend a large university in order to completely reinvent myself. It’s a clean slate take advantage of it. By constantly thinking you are gonna get bullied you are mentally manifesting it. Shift your perspective from I’m worried I’m gonna get bullied again to this is a clean slate to make a change for myself.

 

[Dearpleasehelpme]

Well that’s my point. Since it’s a new school it’s a new opportunity to present yourself differently. I was the most awkward anxious kid in high school and chose to attend a large university in order to completely reinvent myself. It’s a clean slate take advantage of it. By constantly thinking you are gonna get bullied you are mentally manifesting it. Shift your perspective from I’m worried I’m gonna get bullied again to this is a clean slate to make a change for myself.

Shi u right ngl imma lwk just try talking to everyone n see who fw me or not

 

[MLBU]

Shi u right ngl imma lwk just try talking to everyone n see who fw me or not

Honestly that’s how it is. I straight larped confidence and convinced myself I was confident and social (when I really wasn’t) to the point where it became my reality. I almost looked at it in a I’m gonna act / pretend to be a version of me that doesn’t fear social rejection. You got this man don’t be so hard on yourself. High school and shit can be rough times but you’ll make it through. It’s in your hands to change your mindset and reality.