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There are many issues with young men in this modern age. One of them is the lack of honour, shame, dignity, purpose and truth. All of them seek outlets instead of treating them as occasional mind relaxers. Such relaxes can be drinking, opening on up once in a rare while to someone you trust such as a brother, family member or trusted mentor, gaming, reading or anything that keeps your mind clear of the sick reality around you. Yet the main point of this guide is for you, to learn how to manage when to, how to and why to honour your emotions in a healthy fatherly manner.How can one control their emotions yet not repress them?
In regards to controlling your emotions, it is not a steady and easy pratice that is handed upon your lap. It is one that is earned over years of self improvement, understanding and critical evaluation. When you are in a side ways moment, say you are arguing with someone; you must be aware of your emotional state instantly. If not even in an arguement but in most moments when you are with another since the emotions of a man can easily be trigged, more at a more youthful state. Let us take this for example. We have John and Mark, Mark has began to insult John over being weak in a sport yet John gets instantly hurt by this. Now in most moments, men would lash right back at Mark instead of making the split action of understanding why you felt upset, how you felt upsets and how you react. The bad reaction would be John attacking Mark with something personal as Mark did him. Instead of doing that which would led into a worse arguement that would go no where, you should hold yourself, refresh the logic in your mind and quickly ask yourself. "Why is attacking me? Must I react harshly? Surely that would lend him the upper hand in the pointless squable. I shall retort with a fair reaction" which in logic to that, you would say something on the lines of "Does that really matter here? Why are we taking this so personally?" Or "Come on Mark, do we really need to go there? You are acting like I stabbed you" which would enforce guilt, second thought in Mark. Most men never think what their words would mean like women, yet once you trip them on their guilt. You already won and have set the motion for yourself to be the leader of the moment, not him. Guilt and time is your tool, do not waste it. It is not cruel to reason and lower your ally if they over stepped a boundry.
Remember the end goal young men, when you are arguing with a loved one; it is not the point to harm them or hurt them. The point is to set yourself as the commanding point of logic and to set them back one step for the sake of stability and basic respect. After all, must you take a step back for someone's offence? No. You are not meant too unless if you truly forced it out.
In regards to controlling your emotions, it is not a steady and easy pratice that is handed upon your lap. It is one that is earned over years of self improvement, understanding and critical evaluation. When you are in a side ways moment, say you are arguing with someone; you must be aware of your emotional state instantly. If not even in an arguement but in most moments when you are with another since the emotions of a man can easily be trigged, more at a more youthful state. Let us take this for example. We have John and Mark, Mark has began to insult John over being weak in a sport yet John gets instantly hurt by this. Now in most moments, men would lash right back at Mark instead of making the split action of understanding why you felt upset, how you felt upsets and how you react. The bad reaction would be John attacking Mark with something personal as Mark did him. Instead of doing that which would led into a worse arguement that would go no where, you should hold yourself, refresh the logic in your mind and quickly ask yourself. "Why is attacking me? Must I react harshly? Surely that would lend him the upper hand in the pointless squable. I shall retort with a fair reaction" which in logic to that, you would say something on the lines of "Does that really matter here? Why are we taking this so personally?" Or "Come on Mark, do we really need to go there? You are acting like I stabbed you" which would enforce guilt, second thought in Mark. Most men never think what their words would mean like women, yet once you trip them on their guilt. You already won and have set the motion for yourself to be the leader of the moment, not him. Guilt and time is your tool, do not waste it. It is not cruel to reason and lower your ally if they over stepped a boundry.
Remember the end goal young men, when you are arguing with a loved one; it is not the point to harm them or hurt them. The point is to set yourself as the commanding point of logic and to set them back one step for the sake of stability and basic respect. After all, must you take a step back for someone's offence? No. You are not meant too unless if you truly forced it out.
