Serious Understanding

[BradyT]

I always try to understand why someone does something, when someone acts like for a example a bully at school I always try to understand why they do this, it could be childhood trauma or something of the sort like when a person is so focused on wanting attention they start doing acts that are harmful. I always do this even when getting into an argument with another person. I value my mindset but at the same time it has made me feel like i’m easy to walk over, easy for someone to disregard/not respect. What should I do to avoid this feeling I have?

 

[Aryy]

I always try to understand why someone does something, when someone acts like for a example a bully at school I always try to understand why they do this, it could be childhood trauma or something of the sort like when a person is so focused on wanting attention they start doing acts that are harmful. I always do this even when getting into an argument with another person. I value my mindset but at the same time it has made me feel like i’m easy to walk over, easy for someone to disregard/not respect. What should I do to avoid this feeling I have?

same i think everyone is a human and makes mistakes

 

[Xx_Sh4tteredHe4rt_xX]

I always try to understand why someone does something, when someone acts like for a example a bully at school I always try to understand why they do this, it could be childhood trauma or something of the sort like when a person is so focused on wanting attention they start doing acts that are harmful. I always do this even when getting into an argument with another person. I value my mindset but at the same time it has made me feel like i’m easy to walk over, easy for someone to disregard/not respect. What should I do to avoid this feeling I have?

I do this a lot too, I think what helps is recognizing that cause doesn't = excuse. Just because someone might be having a bad day doesn't mean they should be allowed to beat some random up on the side of the street.

 

[BradyT]

same i think everyone is a human and makes mistakes

that’s my exact mindset I love all humans and don’t like the idea of someone disliking me or the idea of me disliking someone.

 

[HeavyMetal]

People act like bullies at school because their father left to get milk

 

[BradyT]

I do this a lot too, I think what helps is recognizing that cause doesn't = excuse. Just because someone might be having a bad day doesn't mean they should be allowed to beat some random up on the side of the street.

This was insightful, we all go through hardships but how you respond to facing that hardship says a lot about the person.

 

[Aryy]

someone disliking me

im okay with it cuz everyone is a human and its natural

 

[BradyT]

People act like bullies at school because their father left to get milk

Possibly, but my father is not as active in my life and I would never bully another person I believe bullying stems from children basically getting bullied by others as a child like a sibling or parent.

 

[BradyT]

im okay with it cuz everyone is a human and its natural

I think that’s my problem I hate the idea of someone not liking me

 

[Aryy]

I think that’s my problem I hate the idea of someone not liking me

why?

 

[BradyT]

why?

I don’t like making other people angry or upset, I prefer everyone to be happy and when someone dislikes me I assume it is my fault.

 

[Aryy]

I don’t like making other people angry or upset, I prefer everyone to be happy and when someone dislikes me I assume it is my fault.

same but i dont think they are upset over disliking me i just think this is how i am, if someone doesnt like me its not unnatural i just wont bother them

 

[BradyT]

same but i dont think they are upset over disliking me i just think this is how i am, if someone doesnt like me its not unnatural i just wont bother them

this is a mindset I wish to achieve