What’s worse hookup or purity culture

[Chifuyu]

Are you aware that at our age, we will most likely only find women who dated, so why preserving yourself and not like experimenting having a girlfriend, having sex, at least to know. In your case it would just frustrates me

I’m very much aware of this, pretty much everyone else has a past. But that’s not the frustrating part for me. The frustrating part is that lying to your potential partner has become so normalized that they lack the decency to be honest about themselves. Thats why I unironically respect irreligious women more because at least they are honest, unlike so-called religious women.

 

[Chifuyu]

buy one that’s speaking ability is low , most parrots don’t speak to much , or more correctly mimic.

I’ll look into it, thanks! Do you have any pets yourself?

 

[Penalizer69]

Purity culture isn't misogynistic or it isn't purity culture

 

[rand anon]

I misunderstood it as well. Purity culture, in OP’s view, is seen as a culture where women are demonized for having sex, whereas the rule doesn’t apply to men. In hookup culture, women aren’t demonized for having sex. That’s why she thinks hookup culture is better and purity culture comes from misogyny. That’s what I concluded after speaking to her just now.

Yeah I think we just hve diff definitions of purity culture then

 

[Deleted Member 108588]

Purity culture isn't misogynistic or it isn't purity culture

 

[Garce]

I’ll look into it, thanks! Do you have any pets yourself?

I have 3 cute little doggies !! Love them very much.
I want a pet toucan when I will live separately from my mom.
A pet parrot is hard and noisy so just know it, if you need help with choosing the type I’m here , I have passion for birds and done a ton of research.

 

[Chifuyu]

Yeah I think we just hve diff definitions of purity culture then

Yeah, I think so too. What do you think though?

 

[Chifuyu]

Purity culture isn't misogynistic or it isn't purity culture

Yeah, I think (what purity culture should be) it applies to both genders. Otherwise it’s not purity culture, it’s just.. hypocrisy culture.

 

[r4ge]

hookup culture is worse

 

[Penalizer69]

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[Chifuyu]

I have 3 cute little doggies !! Love them very much.
I want a pet toucan when I will live separately from my mom.
A pet parrot is hard and noisy so just know it, if you need help with choosing the type I’m here , I have passion for birds and done a ton of research.

I love dogs so much and I’m starting to think they can sense that I do since they often walk up to me or try to, but unfortunately I have germophobia so I couldn’t keep one myself. I was initially thinking of adopting a mouse or a rat, I think they’re so cute, but they have incredibly short lifespans and I don’t want to be sad constantly from losing them. If parrots live long, then that’s a good thing but they shouldn’t live too long either, I don’t want to die before them, in case they get attached to me, you know?

 

[winterfoid]

hookup culture ez, purity culture doesn't always mean misogyny imo. at least in my community purity culture protects women from misogyny, i feel like hookup culture is more misogynistic

 

[Chifuyu]

hookup culture ez, purity culture doesn't always mean misogyny imo. at least in my community purity culture protects women from misogyny, i feel like hookup culture is more misogynistic

Good point. In hookup culture men start seeing women as objects that are to be discarded, no attachment to the women they’re sleeping with, etc.

 

[Garce]

I love dogs so much and I’m starting to think they can sense that I do since they often walk up to me or try to, but unfortunately I have germophobia so I couldn’t keep one myself. I was initially thinking of adopting a mouse or a rat, I think they’re so cute, but they have incredibly short lifespans and I don’t want to be sad constantly from losing them. If parrots live long, then that’s a good thing but they shouldn’t live too long either, I don’t want to die before them, in case they get attached to me, you know?

They get very attached to you , like a kid .
And you just need to choose the right parrot for you with not a super long lifespan and not too talkative. There’s parrots that live 30 years and parrots that live 90 years.
I say think about a toucan, it lives around 20-20 years , doesn’t mimic much and is not too dirty .
It’s not a parrot but its a bird

 

[winterfoid]

Good point. In hookup culture men start seeing women as objects that are to be discarded, no attachment to the women they’re sleeping with, etc.

also hookup culture gives women a false sense of empowerment by perverting being desirable into being as available as possible for the men around you. most women that engage in hookup culture view it as them being above men or subverting men when at the end of the day they're just giving them what they want most free of charge or responsibility

 

[TonyDr]

i feel like hookup culture is more misogynistic

Yeah it's taboo but hook-up culture just push men to think that women are just replaceable sexual objects to degrade and throw away, while it should be an entity to cherish and take care (imo).
Any woman who enters into hook-up culture just entertains, add fuel to the fire of that idea, even if she is consenting to it

 

[Garce]

also hookup culture gives women a false sense of empowerment by perverting being desirable into being as available as possible for the men around you. most women that engage in hookup culture view it as them being above men or subverting men when at the end of the day they're just giving them what they want most free of charge or responsibility

You got a great argument honestly

 

[TonyDr]

at the end of the day they're just giving them what they want most free of charge or responsibility

This

 

[Newday]

hookup bro this is fucking easy

how is it misogyny for wanting people to not be whores

 

[Chifuyu]

They get very attached to you , like a kid .
And you just need to choose the right parrot for you with not a super long lifespan and not too talkative. There’s parrots that live 30 years and parrots that live 90 years.
I say think about a toucan, it lives around 20-20 years , doesn’t mimic much and is not too dirty .
It’s not a parrot but its a bird

Woah I didn’t know that they get that attached. I’ll start looking into a toucan, I’ll do some research on them. You say they’re not too dirty; does that mean parrots are dirty? If so, in what way? Otherwise I can just google in case I’m bombarding you with questions.

 

[Chifuyu]

also hookup culture gives women a false sense of empowerment by perverting being desirable into being as available as possible for the men around you. most women that engage in hookup culture view it as them being above men or subverting men when at the end of the day they're just giving them what they want most free of charge or responsibility

Yeah, it basically comes to mental gymnastics at that point. If they really want to be above men or subvert them, then they should do the opposite of what they’re doing (that is, not giving them what they want). Mirin your logic (unironically).

 

[Chifuyu]

Yeah it's taboo but hook-up culture just push men to think that women are just replaceable sexual objects to degrade and throw away, while it should be an entity to cherish and take care (imo).
Any woman who enters into hook-up culture just entertains, add fuel to the fire of that idea, even if she is consenting to it

Well said. Though I should say at the end of the day I don’t care what anyone else does. As long as I’m doing what I believe in.

 

[Garce]

Woah I didn’t know that they get that attached. I’ll start looking into a toucan, I’ll do some research on them. You say they’re not too dirty; does that mean parrots are dirty? If so, in what way? Otherwise I can just google in case I’m bombarding you with questions.

Parrots have feather dust , toucans don’t.
It’s to keep their feathers waterproof but to us just looks like dust.
Oh and they poop quite frequently.
And if it’s a big parrot it can chew on wood , it’s not a problem if you have enrichment for it

 

[Chifuyu]

Parrots have feather dust , toucans don’t.
It’s to keep their feathers waterproof but to us just looks like dust.
Oh and they poop quite frequently.
And if it’s a big parrot it can chew on wood , it’s not a problem if you have enrichment for it

Do they ever fly out of their cage and just go outside to chill or…? The reason I couldn’t adopt a dog is because they walk on all fours outside, plus they sniff and lick everything on the ground. Btw, what breeds are your dogs?

 

[Garce]

Do they ever fly out of their cage and just go outside to chill or…? The reason I couldn’t adopt a dog is because they walk on all fours outside, plus they sniff and lick everything on the ground. Btw, what breeds are your dogs?

I have 3 chihuahuas but I have a big garden so they can walk outside.
You should let the birds fly out of their cage but before taking a pet bird you should do a ton of research honestly

 

[rand anon]

Yeah, I think so too. What do you think though?

Yeah, I think (what purity culture should be) it applies to both genders. Otherwise it’s not purity culture, it’s just.. hypocrisy culture.

 

[Starlet]

I’ve gotten into arguments w dudes online even in religious circles because they somehow think it’s only bad when women have premarital sex. They’re so hypocritical. They have premarital sex themselves but demonize women for doing the same thing.

Exactly I think we should bring back whore shaming but make it equal. Even things like having a different terminology (adding manwhore instead of just whore) perpetuates it. It’s a complete dealbreaker imo

 

[Starlet]

The frustrating part is that lying to your potential partner has become so normalized that they lack the decency to be honest about themselves. Thats why I unironically respect irreligious women more because at least they are honest, unlike so-called religious women.

Also I’ve noticed this and hate this so much to you. I believe you can’t build a relationship on a foundation of lies nor can you truly grow and become better unless you’re honest and admit to your mistakes in the past. being honest and straightforward is much more respectable and the person will actually love you for you than the person finding out on their own years later