Discussion What do you want out of your future partner?

[holalola]

And just because a man doesn't respond to your emotions the way you want him to doesn't mean he's ignorant.

You act like emotional detachment doesn’t exist :/ the guys where I live will kill themselves before talking about how they feel or acknowledging anyone’s feelings

Lol, translation:

"I want a guy who puts up with my bullshit and who I can manipulate by shedding a few tears."

Idk I just someone that’ll make me a better person obviously I’m working on it too but it’d be nice to have someone by my side

 

[James Othy]

You act like emotional detachment doesn’t exist :/ the guys where I live will kill themselves before talking about how they feel or acknowledging anyone’s feelings

Have you ever thought that maybe talking about how they feel isn't something they value? That it doesn't make them feel any better? You know men are wired different than women in that regard right? It doesn't mean we're detached.

Lol, I don't not talk about my feelings because I'm ashamed to do so. I simply don't get much out of it.

And there's a difference between acknowledging someone's feelings, which is what you mentioned, and agreeing that those feelings are rational to have. Are you sure that you don't just mean the latter? I mean, if a girl's getting emotional over something stupid I'll acknowledge it and be gentle but I'm not gonna support that.

 

[James Othy]

Idk I just someone that’ll make me a better person obviously I’m working on it too but it’d be nice to have someone by my side

Someone who will make you better is someone who's emotionally stable, and has the ability to tell you "no" when you're being anything but. And I doubt you could genuinely feel attracted towards a man who would allow you to waste his time.

 

[holalola]

Someone who will make you better is someone who's emotionally stable, and has the ability to tell you "no" when you're being anything but. And I doubt you could genuinely feel attracted towards a man who would allow you to waste his time.

I don’t know what made you think that I wouldn’t be okay with being told no . And I wouldn’t call having a real connection and love for a person a “waste of time”. I would 100% be into him if it meant that he would free his time for me / our relationship. And yeah I guess you’re right I do want someone that is more emotionally stable than I am.

Have you ever thought that maybe talking about how they feel isn't something they value? That it doesn't make them feel any better? You know men are wired different than women in that regard right? It doesn't mean we're detached.

Lol, I don't not talk about my feelings because I'm ashamed to do so. I simply don't get much out of it.

And there's a difference between acknowledging someone's feelings, which is what you mentioned, and agreeing that those feelings are rational to have. Are you sure that you don't just mean the latter? I mean, if a girl's getting emotional over something stupid I'll acknowledge it and be gentle but I'm not gonna support that.

I’ve met a couple of guys that were patient and emotionally stable, but I won’t lie I did fumble bad cuz I think I don’t deserve it. Also I’m pretty sure that acknowledging someone’s feelings and agreeing that those feelings r rational to have is the same thing and in no way did I say I want a guy to support my emotional outbursts

I js meant that I want a level headed patient guy that’d guide me through my mood swings n wtv

 

[James Othy]

I don’t know what made you think that I wouldn’t be okay with being told no . And I wouldn’t call having a real connection and love for a person a “waste of time”. I would 100% be into him if it meant that he would free his time for me / our relationship. And yeah I guess you’re right I do want someone that is more emotionally stable than I am.

I’ve met a couple of guys that were patient and emotionally stable, but I won’t lie I did fumble bad cuz I think I don’t deserve it. Also I’m pretty sure that acknowledging someone’s feelings and agreeing that those feelings r rational to have is the same thing and in no way did I say I want a guy to support my emotional outbursts

I js meant that I want a level headed patient guy that’d guide me through my mood swings n wtv

Acknowledging someone's feelings is not the same thing as agreeing they're rational. It's simply letting someone know you understand how they feel, but not necessarily agreeing that they should be feeling that way.

I never said I thought you wouldn't be ok with being told no.

I mentioned waste of time in regards to "patience". What do you mean by a man who's patient? Cause a man shouldn't put up with a woman rescheduling dates at the last second or taking time to make a decision on the progression of the relationship.

 

[holalola]

Acknowledging someone's feelings is not the same thing as agreeing they're rational. It's simply letting someone know you understand how they feel, but not necessarily agreeing that they should be feeling that way.

I never said I thought you wouldn't be ok with being told no.

I mentioned waste of time in regards to "patience". What do you mean by a man who's patient? Cause a man shouldn't put up with a woman rescheduling dates at the last second or to make a decision on the progression of the relationship.

I meant patient as in providing emotional support and space because I have a hard time with communication and not patient as in progression of the relationship and wtv cuz I get if a guy decides he doesn’t want the girl if she’s pulling last minute shit like that

 

[James Othy]

I meant patient as in providing emotional support and space because I have a hard time with communication and not patient as in progression of the relationship and wtv cuz I get if a guy decides he doesn’t want the girl if she’s pulling last minute shit like that

A man simply being a man and providing stability should be all the emotional support a woman needs from him.

 

[Wilk]

You act like emotional detachment doesn’t exist :/ the guys where I live will kill themselves before talking about how they feel or acknowledging anyone’s feelings

Idk I just someone that’ll make me a better person obviously I’m working on it too but it’d be nice to have someone by my side

TALKING ABOUT YOU AND HOW YOU FEEL IS RETARDED. THE MORE PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT YOU, THE MORE WEAPONS THEY HAVE TO MANIPULATE AND HURT YOU. WOMEN THROW THE MOST MALICIOUS MANIPULATIVE MOVES AGAINST THE MEN WHO "OPEN THEMSELFS" TO THEM IN THEIR WEAK MOMENTS. FUCK YOU

 

[holalola]

TALKING ABOUT YOU AND HOW YOU FEEL IS RETARDED. THE MORE PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT YOU, THE MORE WEAPONS THEY HAVE TO MANIPULATE AND HURT YOU. WOMEN THROW THE MOST MALICIOUS MANIPULATIVE MOVES AGAINST THE MEN WHO "OPEN THEMSELFS" TO THEM IN THEIR WEAK MOMENTS. FUCK YOU

Never done that in my life and never will