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What is wrong with me? Why am I keep getting rejected?

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dhudjdj

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Imagine getting soft-rejected by 8 girls (online dating initiation) straight after the first date. How likely is it that picture expectations set the bar too high, and I was rejected purely because of my looks? Because for context: I am NOT socially retarded. I am able to hold eye contact and have comfortable conversations with women. Maybe I am not the most flirtatious and touchy person, but come on, it was the FIRST date, and I never met those girls before... And if my assumption is true, what can I do. I feel like every new rejection hit my confidence very hard. Ofc I can stop taking them personally but in the end they still reject me for a personal reason so it is very hard...
 
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dhudjdj said:
Imagine getting soft-rejected by 8 girls (online dating initiation) straight after the first date. How likely is it that picture expectations set the bar too high, and I was rejected purely because of my looks? Because for context: I am NOT socially retarded. I am able to hold eye contact and have comfortable conversations with women. Maybe I am not the most flirtatious and touchy person, but come on, it was the FIRST date, and I never met those girls before... And if my assumption is true, what can I do. I feel like every new rejection hit my confidence very hard. Ofc I can stop taking them personally but in the end they still reject me for a personal reason so it is very hard...
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indian or black ?
 
shestSEDEM said:
indian or black ?
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No, I am European. I would also consider myself average-looking face-wise. My only true weakness is that I am 128lb at 5'9. But besides that, I should be good. But even if i were indian or black, why would it matter if they see my pictures before, that doesn't make any sense.
 
dhudjdj said:
Imagine getting soft-rejected by 8 girls (online dating initiation) straight after the first date. How likely is it that picture expectations set the bar too high, and I was rejected purely because of my looks? Because for context: I am NOT socially retarded. I am able to hold eye contact and have comfortable conversations with women. Maybe I am not the most flirtatious and touchy person, but come on, it was the FIRST date, and I never met those girls before... And if my assumption is true, what can I do. I feel like every new rejection hit my confidence very hard. Ofc I can stop taking them personally but in the end they still reject me for a personal reason so it is very hard...
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what happened on the dates
 
pauseboicarti said:
so you are a 5'9 hltn in europe and wondering why u got rejected
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Yes, that's right. And the girls were very diverse. Some very short, some about the same height, some very pretty, some normies as well.
 
HairyCat said:
what happened on the dates
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Pretty diverse...Walk at the lake, bar, dinner, coffee shop, etc. At one date I had my arm around her, at other dates it was just a nice conversation...
 
Suomi Volksgrenadier said:
Post yourself here, for more objective explanation
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I am HLTN to LMTN so quite average and as I said average height but fairly skinny. Not sure how important that is if I am much taller than the girls I date. But I won't post any photos publicly... But I think that my rating is quite consistent with how I get treated. I get matches on the apps, soft rejections, etc.
 
dhudjdj said:
Imagine getting soft-rejected by 8 girls (online dating initiation) straight after the first date. How likely is it that picture expectations set the bar too high, and I was rejected purely because of my looks? Because for context: I am NOT socially retarded. I am able to hold eye contact and have comfortable conversations with women. Maybe I am not the most flirtatious and touchy person, but come on, it was the FIRST date, and I never met those girls before... And if my assumption is true, what can I do. I feel like every new rejection hit my confidence very hard. Ofc I can stop taking them personally but in the end they still reject me for a personal reason so it is very hard...
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dweeb
 
dhudjdj said:
Imagine getting soft-rejected by 8 girls (online dating initiation) straight after the first date. How likely is it that picture expectations set the bar too high, and I was rejected purely because of my looks? Because for context: I am NOT socially retarded. I am able to hold eye contact and have comfortable conversations with women. Maybe I am not the most flirtatious and touchy person, but come on, it was the FIRST date, and I never met those girls before... And if my assumption is true, what can I do. I feel like every new rejection hit my confidence very hard. Ofc I can stop taking them personally but in the end they still reject me for a personal reason so it is very hard...
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Maybe too much of a normie?
 
if you're getting desperate try lowering your standards (although not good in the long run)
 
u got the first date so either they think you’re better looking online, you’re hella weird in person, or they just wanted a free meal
 
TonyDr said:
Big mistake
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I know 😬 But especially the touch barrier is very hard to break on a first date. And it is probably also very risky because I don't know if that woman really likes me. And this was prob not the case if she didn't want a second date...
 
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