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What makes you happy

Spending time with family and friends

Gym progress

Fortnite wins

Head

Sonic games (yes I preordered the one that came out last year at my big age idgaf)

But tbh most of these (except for the family thing) is just cheap dopamine
 
Darkeningstar said:
First consideration: happiness is overrated

Second consideration: I can’t remember the last time I was happy


If I try to remember when I was happy I relate happiness to these three main factors:
- gratification
- serenity
- perception of the gratification in relation to that serenity

I define serenity as the mix of calmness and mental clarity


So my answer is: cycling (sometimes) cooking (rarely), eating (almost never), having more or less intimate moments with family or close friends (or girlfriend)
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how cute
 
Schizotypalcel said:
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in my experience happiness is an emotion with a high risk high reward payout. i don't really align with the societal definition of happiness by constantly chasing success or the typical self help books.

things that make me the happiest are the things that also end up upsetting me the most. it's like a weather pattern.

for example, I adore running and cycling. But I adore it after I do an extreme degree (20+ miles if cycling but much less if running) to get that "high". The fact that I have to work for my emotions to feel good might be part of it. The flip between the feeling of being weak and slow to getting stronger is amazing.

i constantly feel like my friends and loved ones hate me but when I can have that good day with them it almost makes me forget the sad moments. you can be grieving and still feel joy. seeing my grandma lose all of her memories isn't happy for me but i still find peace knowing that i can be there to comfort her even if she doesn't always remember who i am.

happiness is something that you can choose to notice. but hopefully ill notice it when im in love (if i ever get the opportunity)
 
prettybird said:
in my experience happiness is an emotion with a high risk high reward payout. i don't really align with the societal definition of happiness by constantly chasing success or the typical self help books.

things that make me the happiest are the things that also end up upsetting me the most. it's like a weather pattern.

for example, I adore running and cycling. But I adore it after I do an extreme degree (20+ miles if cycling but much less if running) to get that "high". The fact that I have to work for my emotions to feel good might be part of it. The flip between the feeling of being weak and slow to getting stronger is amazing.

i constantly feel like my friends and loved ones hate me but when I can have that good day with them it almost makes me forget the sad moments. you can be grieving and still feel joy. seeing my grandma lose all of her memories isn't happy for me but i still find peace knowing that i can be there to comfort her even if she doesn't always remember who i am.

happiness is something that you can choose to notice. but hopefully ill notice it when im in love (if i ever get the opportunity)
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yeah i get it. happiness usually comes with a cost, but that doesn’t make it less real. it’s messy, but still worth noticing. hope you get that kind of love too bud.
 
why do I call everybody unc and auntie
 
prettybird said:
in my experience happiness is an emotion with a high risk high reward payout. i don't really align with the societal definition of happiness by constantly chasing success or the typical self help books.

things that make me the happiest are the things that also end up upsetting me the most. it's like a weather pattern.

for example, I adore running and cycling. But I adore it after I do an extreme degree (20+ miles if cycling but much less if running) to get that "high". The fact that I have to work for my emotions to feel good might be part of it. The flip between the feeling of being weak and slow to getting stronger is amazing.

i constantly feel like my friends and loved ones hate me but when I can have that good day with them it almost makes me forget the sad moments. you can be grieving and still feel joy. seeing my grandma lose all of her memories isn't happy for me but i still find peace knowing that i can be there to comfort her even if she doesn't always remember who i am.

happiness is something that you can choose to notice. but hopefully ill notice it when im in love (if i ever get the opportunity)
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be careful not to frame happiness as untrustworthy. with the wording youre using, make sure you dont start associating joy with inevitable pain. it can lead to self sabotage. its okay to let good things be good even when fragile
prettybird said:
i constantly feel like my friends and loved ones hate me
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im glad that when you receive that reassurance you crave, it makes you happy. however, im sure you are aware this isnt good to have
 
Decay said:
That’s how you get walked over
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I think it's a great trait, i lack it so i wouldn't know. But i think if people channel it correctly they can be a weapon.
 
Schizotypalcel said:
yeah i get it. happiness usually comes with a cost, but that doesn’t make it less real. it’s messy, but still worth noticing. hope you get that kind of love too bud.
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maybe the fact that its so complicated and messy makes it worth it even more. thank you by the way. i hope you also find what you're searching for
 
Spuffy said:
be careful not to frame happiness as untrustworthy. with the wording youre using, make sure you dont start associating joy with inevitable pain. it can lead to self sabotage. its okay to let good things be good even when fragile

im glad that when you receive that reassurance you crave, it makes you happy. however, im sure you are aware this isnt good to have
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theres a lot of flaws in my thinking but the end result works out. i definitely have some mental work to do though. thank you spuff puff
 
Talking to ppl who make me laugh tbh
 
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