why do girls like me more when i act like a dick

[Zygos]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

 

[Zygos]

@SkinnyDennis

 

[trenghost]

girls dont like nice guys they like confident guys even if theyre assholes

 

[Zygos]

girls dont like nice guys they like confident guys even if theyre assholes

ok yeah i see what you mean cause when i do try the “nice guy” persona i try less risky shit and am less forwards

 

[copevictim]

 

[trenghost]

ok yeah i see what you mean cause when i do try the “nice guy” persona i try less risky shit and am less forwards

man i need to stop being so fucking nice to those bitches

 

[Luffy]

They like bad boys

 

[pauseboicarti]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

as long as ur not boring and sub5psl girls will fw u

 

[Zygos]

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this was also part of what i was thinking. i imagine since im only 18 the girls i talk to are less secure on themselves and therefore do not expect the princess treatment or something

 

[trenghost]

They like bad boys

they take the thug with failing grades and who vapes and treats them like shit and abused their last 5 boyfriends over a nice guy any day of the week

 

[copevictim]

this was also part of what i was thinking. i imagine since im only 18 the girls i talk to are less secure on themselves and therefore do not expect the princess treatment or something

exactly that

 

[genio]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

n***a this is genuine water

 

[naomimisora]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

the thing is a lot of “nice guys” aren’t actually nice and they sort of put on that persona to get girls
a lot of girls see through that very easily so they avoid those types of guys and therefore appreciate you even if you’re acting like an asshole because it’s better than being an asshole and hiding it as “nice guy”

 

[Zygos]

they take the thug with failing grades and who vapes and treats them like shit and abused their last 5 boyfriends over a nice guy any day of the week

yeah i’ve known guys who were super nice and could get zero girls but then the hood n***a will take their oneitis by calling her a bitch and making them pay for their own meals

 

[Zygos]

the thing is a lot of “nice guys” aren’t actually nice and they sort of put on that persona to get girls
a lot of girls see through that very easily so they avoid those types of guys and therefore appreciate you even if you’re acting like an asshole because it’s better than being an asshole and hiding it as “nice guy”

yeah this is what i was talking about in the post i imagine it comes off as unnatural when i do it

 

[zef]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them.

no girl actually likes this unless they’re mentally ill

 

[naomimisora]

yeah this is what i was talking about in the post i imagine it comes off as unnatural when i do it

exactly so they can probably tell you’re good deep down and aren’t putting on a facade of being good

 

[copevictim]

no girl actually likes this unless they’re mentally ill

target audience

 

[trenghost]

yeah i’ve known guys who were super nice and could get zero girls but then the hood n***a will take their oneitis by calling her a bitch and making them pay for their own meals

deadass in my school the nice respectful guys get zero bitches and all the girls get with the thugs who deadass have failing grades, are just assholes in general and literally beated his past gfs
i shit you not this one mf from my school would beat his girl and still have bitches wanna get with him

 

[trenghost]

the thing is a lot of “nice guys” aren’t actually nice and they sort of put on that persona to get girls
a lot of girls see through that very easily so they avoid those types of guys and therefore appreciate you even if you’re acting like an asshole because it’s better than being an asshole and hiding it as “nice guy”

but how come when im genuinely being nice they dont care

 

[trenghost]

no girl actually likes this unless they’re mentally ill

then why does it happen so much irl

 

[Zygos]

no girl actually likes this unless they’re mentally ill

i wasn’t being a massive asshole here but this was a recent thing which prompted me to make the post

 

[Zygos]

then why does it happen so much irl

yeah for real like i was super nice to my ex and she dumped my ass lol

 

[naomimisora]

but how come when im genuinely being nice they dont care

it’s more than just being nice
you have to have charisma and connection
being nice isn’t the only thing that gets you girls
but yeah what i said is also part of it

 

[hyperion]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

Because if you treat them like some invaluable currency, they think you're of higher worth yourself.

 

[naomimisora]

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i wasn’t being a massive asshole here but this was a recent thing which prompted me to make the post

this is just how average guy talks ngl

 

[Zygos]

this is just how average guy talks ngl

ye it’s not a great example but i’m not gonna dig thru my dms lol like i said this was like yesterday which is why im using it

 

[trenghost]

you have to have charisma and connection

i lowk think i do at least

 

[Zygos]

Because if you treat them like some invaluable currency, they think you're of higher worth yourself.

interesting i hadn’t heard this perspective before

 

[copevictim]

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i wasn’t being a massive asshole here but this was a recent thing which prompted me to make the post

historically accurate tony stonem

 

[zef]

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i wasn’t being a massive asshole here but this was a recent thing which prompted me to make the post

after seeing your thread i remembered i always see a lot of people online talking about wanting the most rude and disrespectful men, i cannot understand the thought process behind it at all either

 

[Zygos]

historically accurate tony stonem

my alter ego

 

[naomimisora]

i lowk think i do at least

Also girlfriends are built after a while of being friends, flirting, etc. and you can’t make everyone like you

 

[naomimisora]

after seeing your thread i remembered i always see a lot of people online talking about wanting the most rude and disrespectful men, i cannot understand the thought process behind it at all either

i mean i currently have a best friend who’s boyfriend is insanely evil and cruel to everyone else but her and she romanticizes it like crazy even if everyone despises her bf she doesn’t care

 

[Zygos]

Also girlfriends are built after a while of being friends, flirting, etc. and you can’t make everyone like you

yeah normally when i am rude etc it’s more for short term type of relationships but i haven’t really been looking for anything long term but i can imagine that it wouldn’t work out for me with this approach as it would become toxic or something

 

[Zygos]

i mean i currently have a best friend who’s boyfriend is insanely evil and cruel to everyone else but her and she romanticizes it like crazy even if everyone despises her bf she doesn’t care

yeah this, girls like it a lot when i have like “moments of tenderness” (idk what else to call it but that just sounds weird but i digress) and they think they are seeing the real me or something but it’s more like i just be emotional sometimes

 

[copevictim]

i mean i currently have a best friend who’s boyfriend is insanely evil and cruel to everyone else but her and she romanticizes it like crazy even if everyone despises her bf she doesn’t care

real asf my best friends ex was the devil reincarnated and she waited to be broken up with because she thought he would change eventually

 

[xoxo]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

I actually absolutely hate it when guys are mean
Immediate turn of tbh

 

[naomimisora]

yeah this, girls like it a lot when i have like “moments of tenderness” (idk what else to call it but that just sounds weird but i digress) and they think they are seeing the real me or something but it’s more like i just be emotional sometimes

oml they think it’s some sort of enemies to lovers romance
cuz that moments of tenderness thing happens in romance books and movies and it’s very romanticized

 

[Zygos]

I actually absolutely hated when guys are mean
Immediate turn of tbh

thats how i would expect it to turn out but it almost never does, there’s been times where it’s not received well but it’s like 10:1

 

[zef]

but i haven’t really been looking for anything long term but i can imagine that it wouldn’t work out for me with this approach as it would become toxic or something

definitely not, if my boyfriend acted that way i wouldn’t think as highly as i do of him but at the same time you do have those tiktok dark romance girls who want some disrespectful abusive relationship because of all the slop content they consume pushing this

 

[naomimisora]

I actually absolutely hate it when guys are mean
Immediate turn of tbh

yeah same, in order for me to like a guy he has to be kind to me and other people as well, especially women
i’m not insecure to the point where i want him to be mean to other women so i know “he’s not cheating on me” when in reality he’s just being an asshole

 

[Zygos]

definitely not, if my boyfriend acted that way i wouldn’t think as highly as i do of him but at the same time you do have those tiktok dark romance girls who want some disrespectful abusive relationship because of all the slop content they consume pushing this

idk like i said i would never go into a real relationship like this, i don’t want to be seen as some evil emotionally abusive bf yk :/

 

[xoxo]

thats how i would expect it to turn out but it almost never does, there’s been times where it’s not received well but it’s like 10:1

Just be yourself it’s weird anyway if a girl is into this abusive bs

 

[copevictim]

definitely not, if my boyfriend acted that way i wouldn’t think as highly as i do of him but at the same time you do have those tiktok dark romance girls who want some disrespectful abusive relationship because of all the slop content they consume pushing this

deep rooted self loathing probably just manifested into wanting a horrible relationship because they think it’s all they deserve

 

[arisu]

every single time i’ve gotten a girl it’s cause i was basically being an asshole and treating them terribly and talking badly to them. this is super confusing to me as when i actually like a girl i try be the traditionally romantic nice guy and it always blows up in my face.

maybe it’s just against my nature and they can tell it’s forced. but even if that’s the case it doesn’t make sense that i get good responses from being a dick

any women here can weigh in on this?

@esoteric @junebug @Angel

women love the chase, although most won’t admit it
since most women can easily have men gravitating towards them, they will want the one they can’t have
for me personally, i’d probably rather date a men who knows how to put me in my place(in a loving respectful way ofc) than a simp

 

[Angel]

being a dick is kinda hot, but only if they're nice to you

 

[Zygos]

Just be yourself it’s weird anyway if a girl is into this abusive bs

yeah ik but in past relationships every time i’ve been myself it’s ended badly for me which has unfortunately changed me in a way i don’t really have control over, it’s just like a defense mechanism or something as i don’t really let people get close to me anyway so it’s kinda the same for romantic relationships now

 

[naomimisora]

being a dick is kinda hot, but only if they're nice to you

i mean i currently have a best friend who’s boyfriend is insanely evil and cruel to everyone else but her and she romanticizes it like crazy even if everyone despises her bf she doesn’t care

exactly my point

 

[Zygos]

women love the chase, although most won’t admit it
since most women can easily have men gravitating towards them, they will want the one they can’t have
for me personally, i’d probably rather date a men who knows how to put me in my place(in a loving respectful way ofc) than a simp

yeah that’s pretty understandable