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It is a mutual thing, in a clubbing setting
For a woman: You are going to an area with intoxicated men willingly (which is inherently supposed to be unsafe) who have intentions of hooking up. You are then intoxicating yourself which then lowers your standards and gives these random men an easier time in taking you. It is an active form of self devaluation.
For men: You are going to the club so you have an easier time with women, you may struggle with women normally, or be too lazy to establish a basis of meaningful connection (hints to your hollowness) so you go clubbing to wait for women to be intoxicated so you can have an easier time trying to get them. It is quite a low thing to do.
Addition for the woman: A man who found you at a club and started dating you will 99% have the predisposed belief that you are not a long term material, and he may see you as replaceable. Remember, the only reason he went there was to find a physically attractive intoxicated girl. He is not going to take you as seriously as someone else. He is always going to know you willingly went there to get picked up on by random men while intoxicated, so the relationship basis has no chivalry to begin with.
Mutual: There is no relationship history in these settings, it is much different than drinking with a mixed gendered group you know (e.g a party with friends or just a hangout) as there is already a concrete interpersonal connection between you all.
For events though, there is a different main motive as to why people go there, it is for the event. My words are not applicable here at all, going to events are for limited time entertainment you may miss, it is very understandable, and being intoxicated can enhance the experience of the event.
Still, clubbing doesn’t ruin a person, people can be much deeper than just a blank judgement, but most people are also quite blank.
For a woman: You are going to an area with intoxicated men willingly (which is inherently supposed to be unsafe) who have intentions of hooking up. You are then intoxicating yourself which then lowers your standards and gives these random men an easier time in taking you. It is an active form of self devaluation.
For men: You are going to the club so you have an easier time with women, you may struggle with women normally, or be too lazy to establish a basis of meaningful connection (hints to your hollowness) so you go clubbing to wait for women to be intoxicated so you can have an easier time trying to get them. It is quite a low thing to do.
Addition for the woman: A man who found you at a club and started dating you will 99% have the predisposed belief that you are not a long term material, and he may see you as replaceable. Remember, the only reason he went there was to find a physically attractive intoxicated girl. He is not going to take you as seriously as someone else. He is always going to know you willingly went there to get picked up on by random men while intoxicated, so the relationship basis has no chivalry to begin with.
Mutual: There is no relationship history in these settings, it is much different than drinking with a mixed gendered group you know (e.g a party with friends or just a hangout) as there is already a concrete interpersonal connection between you all.
For events though, there is a different main motive as to why people go there, it is for the event. My words are not applicable here at all, going to events are for limited time entertainment you may miss, it is very understandable, and being intoxicated can enhance the experience of the event.
Still, clubbing doesn’t ruin a person, people can be much deeper than just a blank judgement, but most people are also quite blank.
