only results matter , girls dont give a fuck that you're "self improving" or that you're "working on yourself" 
, effortlessness will always be more valuable , if you have a nice physique , don't tell them you workout a lot and take supplements and all that shit , if you're doing great in school don't tell them you do a lot of school work , if you went through a huge glow up don't tell them you "looksmaxxed" , just let them believe every positive trait about you was god given