You *likely* do not need a significant other/relationship. What you really need is

[Deleted Member 120131]

Purpose. A purpose in life. A lot of people on here believe their lives are miserable due to the fact that their dating life is subpar, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Most of us are pretty young on here. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but finding your true meaning in life as a kid is highly improbable. As you get older, you begin to experience more of the real world and appeal towards activities you enjoy engaging in. You will eventually find purpose in life and you will see you no longer need another person to fill your empty void.

That being said, having a relationship with a person you can trust and spend time with is definitely one of the best things a human can experience. Don’t seek it, rather let it come to you

 

[TechnoBoss]

Purpose. A purpose in life. A lot of people on here believe their lives are miserable due to the fact that their dating life is subpar, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Most of us are pretty young on here. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but finding your true meaning in life as a kid is highly improbable. As you get older, you begin to experience more of the real world and appeal towards activities you enjoy engaging in. You will eventually find purpose in life and you will see you no longer need another person to fill your empty void.

That being said, having a relationship with a person you can trust and spend time with is definitely one of the best things a human can experience. Don’t seek it, rather let it come to you

Nah they need a relationship bro. They want to feel desired.

 

[loyal]

Purpose. A purpose in life. A lot of people on here believe their lives are miserable due to the fact that their dating life is subpar, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Most of us are pretty young on here. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but finding your true meaning in life as a kid is highly improbable. As you get older, you begin to experience more of the real world and appeal towards activities you enjoy engaging in. You will eventually find purpose in life and you will see you no longer need another person to fill your empty void.

That being said, having a relationship with a person you can trust and spend time with is definitely one of the best things a human can experience. Don’t seek it, rather let it come to you

dnrd i feel good with porn

 

[LaWi]

I want both in life

 

[fen1wizard]

Nah they need a relationship bro. They want to feel desired.

won't fill the void or solve any of your internal problems

 

[houcine]

vocel propaganda

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

Nah they need a relationship bro. They want to feel desired.

In most cases, that simply is not it. Most of us here are deprived of social connection and believe a relationship is what can fix it. However, the reason we feel the way we do is because of our upbringing. We want to prove to oursleves we can ascend and get a SO. In reality
, we should be doing it for ourselves

 

[Deleted Member 114930]

very true, but sometimes it gets lonely

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

vocel propaganda

I have an HTN friend who’s blackpilled and feels the same way. He has close to 50 slays and had a really good LTR once with an attractive woman. Despite all that, he still feels dead inside. It won’t fix anything, I promise you

I want both in life

That’s the end goal

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

very true, but sometimes it gets lonely

Yes, I agree. You can still have an LTR or a roster, heck even a really good friend might be enough. Just keep in mind that it won’t fulfill you

 

[drchad]

there is no purpose to life

Humans are social animals even if you find a job you enjoy somehow (something most of us wont do) it wont fill the desire of being loved by others because ur sub5

 

[TechnoBoss]

That being said, having a relationship with a person you can trust and spend time with is definitely one of the best things a human can experience. Don’t seek it, rather let it come to you

Also, the entire post is kind of proven not true with this statement. It's one of the best feelings a person can ever feel, and a sizeable percentage of men are level locked out of experiencing it. If they "wait and let it come to them" it will never come.

won't fill the void or solve any of your internal problems

It will in a lot of people, actually.

In most cases, that simply is not it. Most of us here are deprived of social connection and believe a relationship is what can fix it. However, the reason we feel the way we do is because of our upbringing. We want to prove to oursleves we can ascend and get a SO. In reality
, we should be doing it for ourselves

A relationship is a social connection, so it addresses the lack of social connection. We can't heal our upbringing 100%, so trying to fix it with exposure therapy & introducing the things you missed out on as a child is the best bet. A therapist telling you "broo just accept it! Work on things you can fix!" won't cut it.

 

[icnone]

Purpose. A purpose in life. A lot of people on here believe their lives are miserable due to the fact that their dating life is subpar, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Most of us are pretty young on here. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but finding your true meaning in life as a kid is highly improbable. As you get older, you begin to experience more of the real world and appeal towards activities you enjoy engaging in. You will eventually find purpose in life and you will see you no longer need another person to fill your empty void.

That being said, having a relationship with a person you can trust and spend time with is definitely one of the best things a human can experience. Don’t seek it, rather let it come to you

Maslow's hierarchy of needs places self-actualization over love, belonging, and intimacy. You're proposing self-actualization without fulfilling those lower needs first.

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

there is no purpose to life

Humans are social animals even if you find a job you enjoy somehow (something most of us wont do) it wont fill the desire of being loved by others because ur sub5

Yes, you are right that we are strictly built off biology and evolution. Still, you can find something to please you in this life. Stop settling for mediocrity and misery when you can most definitely achieve great things with a lot of effort, belief, and time

 

[houcine]

I have an HTN friend who’s blackpilled and feels the same way. He has close to 50 slays and had a really good LTR once with an attractive woman. Despite all that, he still feels dead inside. It won’t fix anything, I promise you

gang because you wont feel good just because you have a person with a good looking vagina next to you
relationship is built upon mutual understanding and fulfilling one another. you can date a chopped girl but feel much happier with her

 

[drchad]

Yes, you are right that we are strictly built off biology and evolution. Still, you can find something to please you in this life. Stop settling for mediocrity and misery when you can most definitely achieve great things with a lot of effort, belief, and time

Ofcourse i agree on filling ur life with dopamine to distract ur self from it

 

[Deleted Member 114930]

Just keep in mind that it won’t fulfill you

what about jaw surgery
will I become the bro that got the jawline

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

Maslow's hierarchy of needs places self-actualization over love, belonging, and intimacy. You're proposing self-actualization without fulfilling those lower needs first.

You do need some form of social validation and external postive reinforcement to be content with yourself, but it is not what will cause you to feel happy within yourself. And you really do not need as much positive reinforcement as you most might think

Also, the entire post is kind of proven not true with this statement. It's one of the best feelings a person can ever feel, and a sizeable percentage of men are level locked out of experiencing it. If they "wait and let it come to them" it will never come.


It will in a lot of people, actually.


A relationship is a social connection, so it addresses the lack of social connection. We can't heal our upbringing 100%, so trying to fix it with exposure therapy & introducing the things you missed out on as a child is the best bet. A therapist telling you "broo just accept it! Work on things you can fix!" won't cut it.

Is it though? If you’ve seen how women talk about guys to their friends, you’d genuinely want to give up. You’re speaking in the sense that finding a good LTR is easy when it’s probably one of the hardest things you could do as a human who’s aware

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

what about jaw surgery
will I become the bro that got the jawline

Yes saar yes bhai

Ofcourse i agree on filling ur life with dopamine to distract ur self from it

Good point

gang because you wont feel good just because you have a person with a good looking vagina next to you
relationship is built upon mutual understanding and fulfilling one another. you can date a chopped girl but feel much happier with her

I agree

 

[icnone]

You do need some form of social validation and external postive reinforcement to be content with yourself, but it is not what will cause you to feel happy within yourself. And you really do not need as much positive reinforcement as you most might think

This varies from person to person, and even within a person it can vary between stages of their life. Some people are more dependent on social belonging than others,

I have an HTN friend who’s blackpilled and feels the same way. He has close to 50 slays and had a really good LTR once with an attractive woman. Despite all that, he still feels dead inside. It won’t fix anything, I promise you

I think your HTN friend is a good example of this. He may be lacking some other need or a relationship might not be as crucial to his needs than it is for others.

 

[fen1wizard]

It will in a lot of people, actually.

if your life is miserable a relationship won't save you and if you treat it like it will it just becomes a temporary escape from your problems

 

[TechnoBoss]

You do need some form of social validation and external postive reinforcement to be content with yourself, but it is not what will cause you to feel happy within yourself. And you really do not need as much positive reinforcement as you most might think

But what else is your proposed solution? A person can do your form of self-actualization AND have a girlfriend (and he will be infinitely happier for it)

Is it though? If you’ve seen how women talk about guys to their friends, you’d genuinely want to give up. You’re speaking in the sense that finding a good LTR is easy when it’s probably one of the hardest things you could do as a human who’s aware

I know how they talk about guys. Trust me, it's very hard to find a good LTR. I'm saying that if these guys find a GOOD LTR they'd be infinitely happier for having done so. However, I will admit, this doesn't stop guys from dragging their insecurities from an abused-dog childhood into their relationship and thus, sabotaging it. E.g wanting to look through her phone because of insecurity, wanting her to give her location & unfollow people on Instagram, etc.

 

[yourfavLTB]

I just need weed

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

But what else is your proposed solution? A person can do your form of self-actualization AND have a girlfriend (and he will be infinitely happier for it)


I know how they talk about guys. Trust me, it's very hard to find a good LTR. I'm saying that if these guys find a GOOD LTR they'd be infinitely happier for having done so. However, I will admit, this doesn't stop guys from dragging their insecurities from an abused-dog childhood into their relationship and thus, sabotaging it. E.g wanting to look through her phone because of insecurity, wanting her to give her location & unfollow people on Instagram, etc.

Yes, I agree that you can do both. I’m simply saying that putting all the emphasis on an LTR won’t fix whatever you may be feeling. This community has rotted peoples brains into thinking women are everything

The issue with that is that you won’t find a good LTR unless you have a reason to. In other words, you must build yourself up first. Dudes be pushing 30% body fat talking about slaying and LTRs, it’s astonishing to me

This varies from person to person, and even within a person it can vary between stages of their life. Some people are more dependent on social belonging than others,

I think your HTN friend is a good example of this. He may be lacking some other need or a relationship might not be as crucial to his needs than it is for others.

Yes, but even if you were an abused dog your entire life, a single year of getting good treatment from women or even just a decent LTR can vastly change that

That’s my point, him slaying foid after foid isn’t going to fill the empty void inside of him

 

[icnone]

1) Yes, but even if you were an abused dog your entire life, a single year of getting good treatment from women or even just a decent LTR can vastly change that

2) That’s my point, him slaying foid after foid isn’t going to fill the empty void inside of him

How does (2) follow from (1)?

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

How does (2) follow from (1)?

Elaborate

 

[icnone]

Elaborate

(1) implies that a LTR can make your life better, but then (2) says it's not making your friend's life better

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

(1) implies that a LTR can make your life better, but then (2) says it's not making your friend's life better

No, I’m saying you only need a certain amount of social reinforcement to feel content with yourself. After a certain point, it really has no use or effect on you mentally.

I’m battling the toxic mantra that’s so often spread in this space that you need to be a slayer to prove yourself and be happy. It’s just not true and a harmful ideology to live by

 

[icnone]

No, I’m saying you only need a certain amount of social reinforcement to feel content with yourself. After a certain point, it really has no use or effect on you mentally.

I don't think there is a hard cutoff point where social reinforcement helps. That being said, I will agree that there are diminishing returns as you get more of it, and where exactly those diminishing returns start depends on the person themselves.

I’m battling the toxic mantra that’s so often spread in this space that you need to be a slayer to prove yourself and be happy. It’s just not true and a harmful ideology to live by

It depends on what you mean by "slay." If you mean slaying multiple people, then yes that can lead to a hollow life style, but if you mean slaying out of your PSL class for a LTR, whether that's hollow depends on how emphasized that is.

 

[Deleted Member 120131]

I don't think there is a hard cutoff point where social reinforcement helps. That being said, I will agree that there are diminishing returns as you get more of it, and where exactly those diminishing returns start depends on the person themselves.

It depends on what you mean by "slay." If you mean slaying multiple people, then yes that can lead to a hollow life style, but if you mean slaying out of your PSL class for a LTR, whether that's hollow depends on how emphasized that is.

Very true, I just wish more people would focus on finding meaning for themselves instead of dictating their life based off what basement dwelling incels on org tell them. It’s not true, and it’s too harmful on these peoples minds