Serious Controversial Relationship Dynamic

[Aryy]

There’s over 40% possibility of getting cheated on in a relationship. Choosing anyone over yourself is retarded

i agree its too idealistic
but i guess i wont go into a relationship thinking about being cheated on

 

[Deleted Member 111926]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

no I lowkey like that just traditional

 

[hurricane]

There’s over 40% possibility of getting cheated on in a relationship. Choosing anyone over yourself is retarded

40%? What do you consider cheating

 

[Evilemofoid]

yeah i understand, but comfort is still always nice imo
no?

As a female
If radicalized or properly political at all
Knowing your worth more, and smart, and could be a doctor
Yk its nice to have the comfort, to be treated liek a kid again, to be babyed after being an adult since a kid.

But its sickening to have that attachment to a man and to give all that weakness to a man yk?
Ik I say yk alot lmao

 

[trvecel]

There’s over 40% possibility of getting cheated on in a relationship. Choosing anyone over yourself is retarded

Looksmaxxing forum moderators are starting to gain braincells fuck someone do something to stop ts

 

[trvecel]

but i guess i wont go into a relationship thinking about being cheated on

That's like laying down in the middle of the road and not expecting to be ran over

 

[Aryy]

That's like laying down in the middle of the road and not expecting to be ran over

isnt it kinda sad you have to expect being cheated on supposedly with someone whos supposed to be your life partner, everything etc

 

[thelavo]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

then after u get this u wan "Freedom"
oh no im being abused
njgga u deserve it

 

[trvecel]

isnt it kinda sad you have to expect being cheated on supposedly with someone whos supposed to be your life partner, everything etc

Yeah but its a realistic thing that'll likely hapoen

 

[hurricane]

likely

false

 

[Aryy]

Yeah but its a realistic thing that'll likely hapoen

sadly then marriages are too idealistic

 

[bleeder]

As a female
If radicalized or properly political at all
Knowing your worth more, and smart, and could be a doctor
Yk its nice to have the comfort, to be treated liek a kid again, to be babyed after being an adult since a kid.

But its sickening to have that attachment to a man and to give all that weakness to a man yk?
Ik I say yk alot lmao

yeah i agree with u tho, having comfort doesnt have to mean that ur being babyed, in this case it applies yeah.
but having comfort can also just mean just being accepted for me.
yeah

 

[trvecel]

false

You're telling me out of all relationships u had in your life 0 u broke up or got cheated on

 

[Huntergirl]

40%? What do you consider cheating

I consider any form of infidelity to be cheating and these stats only include people who admit it so that’s why I said “over”

 

[hurricane]

You're telling me out of all relationships u had in your life 0 u broke up or got cheated on

it happened, but breaking up is different

 

[hurricane]

I consider any form of infidelity to be cheating and these stats only include people who admit it so that’s why I said “over”

sorry but it’s too vague, that’s just edgy

 

[Aryy]

it happened, but breaking up is different

alot of marriages end up in divorce sadly

 

[trvecel]

it happened, but breaking up is different

Yeah but the initial argument is that aryy claimed to die for their partner, I said its retarded since it'll likely end up in a breakup

 

[Ghoultune]

Someone telling me what To Do? That’s a Death Wish.

 

[hurricane]

Yeah but the initial argument is that aryy claimed to die for their partner, I said its retarded since it'll likely end up in a breakup

fine, the comment you quoted was referring to cheating

 

[hurricane]

alot of marriages end up in divorce sadly

read above

 

[Currycelloser]

There’s over 40% possibility of getting cheated on in a relationship. Choosing anyone over yourself is retarded

actually based

 

[Currycelloser]

Are there men out here who actually think this way

plenty, u just gotta look for a man who has self respect, takes care of himself and is career oriented

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Idk how this is an excuse to act stupid and disabled

Dependence doesn’t equal incompetence

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

There’s over 40% possibility of getting cheated on in a relationship. Choosing anyone over yourself is retarded

True, love should be secondary in your life.

 

[Currycelloser]

True, love should be secondary in your life.

i would say

1. happiness
2.health
3.love

 

[paulyune]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

Feminism. Some women hold the ideology that you should be independent and shouldn’t need or rely on a man for anything. They believe that reliance creates a power dynamic that can lead to manipulation and control.

I think that is okay but it is also good to know things yourself in case something happens

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I personally prefer my woman when she can do her make-up and hair alone and wear whatever they want as long it's not whorish. I have my preferences in both of them but i can't tell her to always have the same hair the same clothes yk

Also yeah i prefer her to have an idea of what a healthy diet looks like, without ending-up with ED like starving or binge eating goy slop. I recognize i'm the one cooking in the relationship but she already knows what to buy for diet.

I can understand that. You mean a loving, caring gentleman.
I just hope you'll reciprocate the same way to him by being a loving, caring wife

Having your woman independent is important, even for a man, so you're more sure that she loves you for you, and not waiting and praying for your downfall to get any benefits after you die or y'all divorce

I wholeheartedly agree. I think people are misunderstanding me, most likely due to my choice of wording. I enjoy the sense of security and trust that comes from knowing I don’t always have to make decisions for myself. I want to trust that the person I love will make the right choices for me.

Of course, there are still decisions I must make independently. Just because I want someone to do these things for me doesn’t mean I’m incompetent/incapable of doing them myself. It’s a dynamic that goes both ways; I would expect this level of care from my husband, just as I would provide it for him.

When I talk about someone deciding what I wear or how I do my hair and makeup, I mean that I like the idea of someone sharing what they think makes me look good and encouraging me to lean into that style—not in a controlling way, like “Do this, you have no choice because I told you so” but in a supportive way. I have no desire to be completely dependent or to lose my individuality. I want to be independent and hold my own, while also building a level of trust so deep that I can comfortably rely on someone else to guide these choices

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

then after u get this u wan "Freedom"
oh no im being abused
njgga u deserve it

What the heck, why are you making assumptions about my character when you don’t know me. I wouldn’t have posted this if I didn’t want it.

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

isnt it kinda sad you have to expect being cheated on supposedly with someone whos supposed to be your life partner, everything etc

I’m starting to think love is fiction

 

[Currycelloser]

I’m starting to think love is fiction

yeah doesnt exist in this stupid world, thats why ur ideal relationship dynamics will be so hard to find cause most people are lustful and weirdos

 

[Aryy]

I’m starting to think love is fiction

sadly
i see no good real life examples its very rare

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

yeah doesnt exist in this stupid world, thats why ur ideal relationship dynamics will be so hard to find cause most people are lustful and weirdos

It makes me so sad, all I want is someone who accepts me and loves me for me & genuinely cares about what I have to say. I have so much love to give I swear.

 

[Huntergirl]

Dependence doesn’t equal incompetence

But you obviously want this relationship dynamic because of some unprocessed trauma and that’s unhealthy cause it can easily lead to codependency

 

[Currycelloser]

It makes me so sad, all I want is someone who accepts me and loves me for me & genuinely cares about what I have to say. I have so much love to give I swear.

same but sadly, especially since u are a women, most men would want u only for ur body or sex, nothing more

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

But you obviously want this relationship dynamic because of some unprocessed trauma and that’s unhealthy cause it can easily lead to codependency

I used to be really codependent in a past relationship because of my trauma, and I have made a lot of progress over the years. I do believe I’ve matured enough to be able to handle this dynamic, and still be independent.

 

[Aryy]

same but sadly, especially since u are a women, most men would want u only for ur body or sex, nothing more

thats what i worry about
in the end everyone will get old, then what?

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

same but sadly, especially since u are a women, most men would want u only for ur body or sex, nothing more

I thought I’d find true love if I ascended and guys would view me as more than just an object but I was wrong

 

[Currycelloser]

thats what i worry about
in the end everyone will get old, then what?

infidelity, thats why it happens, love isnt even worth it in this world, its so sad

I thought I’d find true love if I ascended and guys would view me as more than just an object but I was wrong

Understandable, not gonna lie, try not to obsess over love, first love yourself more, focus on your health, try having healthy social relationships, focus on your career. In this way u might find a guy who truly loves you for who u are

 

[paulyune]

I think love exists and that version of love exists, from past experiences

 

[Huntergirl]

I used to be really codependent in a past relationship because of my trauma, and I have made a lot of progress over the years. I do believe I’ve matured enough to be able to handle this dynamic, and still be independent.

I’d still say it’s weird to want that. You’re imagining something very unrealistic and chances are it could turn into a relationship with a big power imbalance and even abuse. You should get therapy or something instead

 

[paulyune]

I’d still say it’s weird to want that. You’re imagining something very unrealistic and chances are it could turn into a relationship with a big power imbalance and even abuse. You should get therapy or something instead

tbh I thought about that too, but its not wrong to expect things from your partner I think she just shouldn't rely on them so much

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I’d still say it’s weird to want that. You’re imagining something very unrealistic and chances are it could turn into a relationship with a big power imbalance and even abuse. You should get therapy or something instead

True, I understand where you’re coming from.