How can I be normal

[Nobodyreallycares]

I’m not just talking about social cues and how to interact with people but im asking what do normal people do. What hobbies do they participate in how interested are they in it. What do they do with freinds. How can they talk to people without any issues. I don’t just want to talk or act normal I want to be normal. Even if im faking my own hobbies and interests

 

[slenderpill]

I’m not just talking about social cues and how to interact with people but im asking what do normal people do. What hobbies do they participate in how interested are they in it. What do they do with freinds. How can they talk to people without any issues. I don’t just want to talk or act normal I want to be normal. Even if im faking my own hobbies and interests

theres no point in life a fake life. i know it sucks, ive had to live in solitude and isolation for months because i dont fit in with the norm, but its okay. protect you, because the further you go and try to fit in, the more you lose yourself and forget who you really are. youll find people eventually that will be there for you

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

theres no point in life a fake life. i know it sucks, ive had to live in solitude and isolation for months because i dont fit in with the norm, but its okay. protect you, because the further you go and try to fit in, the more you lose yourself and forget who you really are. youll find people eventually that will be there for you

I don’t plan on living a fake life forever I just want to live a normal one for my years in highschool so my parents don’t feel worried about me not having friends

 

[M1A2 Abrams]

First look into why you want to be normal.
Weigh the pros and cons and if you still want to be normal then make a fresh tiktok account and see what's trending.
But u don't really gotta be. If you want to be "normal" don't fake your interests.
What are you actually interested in?
Are you ND? Cuz I am and I relate. I tried for a while but I'm tryna lower my inhib

 

[slenderpill]

I don’t plan on living a fake life forever I just want to live a normal one for my years in highschool so my parents don’t feel worried about me not having friends

fuck your parents. mine do the same about instead they use it against me, listen if you really cant find nobody being yourself then nobdoy deserves you. you can always make friends later its a long life

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

First look into why you want to be normal.
Weigh the pros and cons and if you still want to be normal then make a fresh tiktok account and see what's trending.
But u don't really gotta be. If you want to be "normal" don't fake your interests.
What are you actually interested in?
Are you ND? Cuz I am and I relate. I tried for a while but I'm tryna lower my inhib

Well im interested in a lot of things but i want to fake a interest or hobby so i can make freinds even if i dont really like the people

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

fuck your parents. mine do the same about instead they use it against me, listen if you really cant find nobody being yourself then nobdoy deserves you. you can always make friends later its a long life

Yeah hopefully I’ll find friends

 

[M1A2 Abrams]

Well im interested in a lot of things but i want to fake a interest or hobby so i can make freinds even if i dont really like the people

Most "normal" people don't got hobbies or interests besides going to concerts, volleyball/soccer/basketball, or shopping.
Hobbies aren't the reason you don't make friends currently.
Probably joining one of these activities will put you in their proximity, and as time goes on you will naturally aclimate to them and they to you.
But tell me, why do you want to be normal
and why don't you like people?

I don't find friends in the typical "normal" group as well, but I've found people that fit my niche and are less judging. They are usually ND or have had that typical "emo, ugly, or poor" phase.

Is it because you prefer solitude? Is it because you think you have different thinking style? Do you live in a homogenous community in the US? (like utah) or do you live in a big city

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

Most "normal" people don't got hobbies or interests besides going to concerts, volleyball/soccer/basketball, or shopping.
Hobbies aren't the reason you don't make friends currently.
Probably joining one of these activities will put you in their proximity, and as time goes on you will naturally aclimate to them and they to you.
But tell me, why do you want to be normal
and why don't you like people?
Is it because you prefer solitude? Is it because you think you have different thinking style? Do you live in a homogenous community in the US? (like utah) or do you live in a big city

It’s not that I don’t like people it’s just that it’s hard for me to actually feel some type of connection with people. Talking to normal people feels like talking to a robot also I do like being alone but I also do want to experience friendship

 

[M1A2 Abrams]

It’s not that I don’t like people it’s just that it’s hard for me to actually feel some type of connection with people. Talking to normal people feels like talking to a robot also I do like being alone but I also do want to experience friendship

Realest shit ever bro. I like the idea of having friends until I actually do.
I enjoy solitude but feel lonely.
It's literally a dialogue choice game for me, I have to track my eye movement, eye contact, remember to nod, smile, ask about them, talk about me. I want a best friend but I don't actually enjoy it irl.
It's the blind leading the blind rn.

A lot of people try to be friends with me, saying hi randomly and I find this nice at first but then it's a doging game eventually.

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

Realest shit ever bro. I like the idea of having friends until I actually do.
I enjoy solitude but feel lonely.
It's literally a dialogue choice game for me, I have to track my eye movement, eye contact, remember to nod, smile, ask about them, talk about me. I want a best friend but I don't actually enjoy it irl.
It's the blind leading the blind rn.

A lot of people try to be friends with me, saying hi randomly and I find this nice at first but then it's a doging game eventually.

Yes i wish people just understood me it would make interactions with others so much more seamless if they were nd or something because I wouldn’t worry about social cues

 

[M1A2 Abrams]

Yes i wish people just understood me it would make interactions with others so much more seamless if they were nd or something because I wouldn’t worry about social cues

Yes bro, but sometimes even that doesnt work out.
I see so many ND people with tons of friends but I guess there is a difference between ADHD inattentive/hyperactive and autism.
I'm inattentive so I'm really inward looking but I see so many of my hyperactive friends seamlessly blend in.