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i cant like a guy who likes me

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i simply cant,
its like something idk i only like someone if i think they like me but its not sure
but if its sure they like me i dont like them (for long)
i wonder why
 
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aryy said:
i simply cant,
its like something idk i only like someone if i think they like me but its not sure
but if its sure they like me i dont like them (for long)
i wonder why
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idk if you've been thru any past relationships but stuff like this stems from unhealthy relationships/unfair treatment in general. it's also hard for me to accept someone genuinely likes me after all the shit that's happened to me

the guy that likes you (or guys in general) do you know them well? cus I can understand being confused with the fact someone likes you when you barely know them and they barely know you
 
Grilldaddy❤️ said:
no girl has ever liked me tbh
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nomi said:
idk if you've been thru any past relationships but stuff like this stems from unhealthy relationships/unfair treatment in general. it's also hard for me to accept someone genuinely likes me after all the shit that's happened to me

the guy that likes you (or guys in general) do you know them well? cus I can understand being confused with the fact someone likes you when you barely know them and they barely know you
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this has always been the case for me tbh,
i only liked my first ex after he confessed (i rejected) so he distanced himself so i started liking him
its just, i find it so hard to show affection
i remember with my ex i couldnt even say i love you it was so hard for me

maybe the fact that i need to show affection becomes too much for me
 
aryy said:
this has always been the case for me tbh,
i only liked my first ex after he confessed (i rejected) so he distanced himself so i started liking him
its just, i find it so hard to show affection
i remember with my ex i couldnt even say i love you it was so hard for me

maybe the fact that i need to show affection becomes too much for me
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why is it hard for you to show affection? maybe that's something you need to work on before thinking about guys and relationships, all that's gonna do is make you overthink and wonder "what's wrong with me?" if you cant show affection rn try to understand yourself as in acknowledging things in the past that could've made you like that.

I hope things get better for u bby 🥺
 
nomi said:
why is it hard for you to show affection? maybe that's something you need to work on before thinking about guys and relationships, all that's gonna do is make you overthink and wonder "what's wrong with me?" if you cant show affection rn try to understand yourself as in acknowledging things in the past that could've made you like that.

I hope things get better for u bby 🥺
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i wish i knew why i cant,
im too shy i always hide my feelings or atleast try to
its really bad it has always affected my friendships and relationships even family
 
aryy said:
i wish i knew why i cant,
im too shy i always hide my feelings or atleast try to
its really bad it has always affected my friendships and relationships even family
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try to open up more little by little, you're a nice person imo so being more engaged with family and friends (if you're on good terms with them) will help out a lot. you don't have to be loud or try making jokes all the time but simply talking and hanging out with them can be considered as affection. im shy too whenever I'm around people I don't rlly know like that but just enjoy the moment ^^
 
nomi said:
try to open up more little by little, you're a nice person imo so being more engaged with family and friends (if you're on good terms with them) will help out a lot. you don't have to be loud or try making jokes all the time but simply talking and hanging out with them can be considered as affection. im shy too whenever I'm around people I don't rlly know like that but just enjoy the moment ^^
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even with friends i cant show affection,
even with my bestfriend i cant
i cant hang out with people too much, i always end up going quiet i like being alone.
i just feel like im doomed to be like forever, and i wouldnt even mind it but its not normal i think
i also feel like because this no one should actually like me in the sense they see a future with me,
id probably be horrible
 
aryy said:
even with friends i cant show affection,
even with my bestfriend i cant
i cant hang out with people too much, i always end up going quiet i like being alone.
i just feel like im doomed to be like forever, and i wouldnt even mind it but its not normal i think
i also feel like because this no one should actually like me in the sense they see a future with me,
id probably be horrible
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well there has to be a reason why you have friends? thru being affectionate or not people still like you. it's good to be alone but when you do it too much you start isolating yourself from everyone.

don't say you "cant" give it a try and see how it goes 🥺
sometimes you have to force yourself to do it, easier said then done but still
 
nomi said:
well there has to be a reason why you have friends? thru being affectionate or not people still like you. it's good to be alone but when you do it too much you start isolating yourself from everyone.

don't say you "cant" give it a try and see how it goes 🥺
sometimes you have to force yourself to do it, easier said then done but still
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yeah im kinda isolating myself right now,
well im not bad at friendships atleast even if i dont show affection we still have fun
i just think in terms of relationships im doomed
 
aryy said:
yeah im kinda isolating myself right now,
well im not bad at friendships atleast even if i dont show affection we still have fun
i just think in terms of relationships im doomed
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oh okayy, aye you're still having fun tho imo you don't rlly need to focus on getting a boyfriend cus everytime you decide to get with someone (okay I'm not trying to sound rude I'm sorry) but unfortunately ppl get turned off by partners who aren't affectionate. they're gonna get hurt and you're also going to get hurt cus you'll constantly question why you can't show that type of emotion
 
aryy said:
i simply cant,
its like something idk i only like someone if i think they like me but its not sure
but if its sure they like me i dont like them (for long)
i wonder why
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Women are wired backwards 101
 
nomi said:
oh okayy, aye you're still having fun tho imo you don't rlly need to focus on getting a boyfriend cus everytime you decide to get with someone (okay I'm not trying to sound rude I'm sorry) but unfortunately ppl get turned off by partners who aren't affectionate. they're gonna get hurt and you're also going to get hurt cus you'll constantly question why you can't show that type of emotion
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yeah exactly,
even if im obsessed over someone i will hide it but im only obsessed if they dont like me for sure only like a hint if they do
so its over either way lol
if someone likes me romantically clearly it turns me off after a while
 
aryy said:
even with friends i cant show affection,
even with my bestfriend i cant
i cant hang out with people too much, i always end up going quiet i like being alone.
i just feel like im doomed to be like forever, and i wouldnt even mind it but its not normal i think
i also feel like because this no one should actually like me in the sense they see a future with me,
id probably be horrible
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Damn, i also feel the same for some reason

I somehow like can't stick too long with someone/with a group without feeling like the odd one out and kind of watching from the sidelines while everyone talks with eachother

Do you have self-esteem problems? Do you bring yourself down often? Sorry if the questions are too personal
 
Mafia bob said:
Damn, i also feel the same for some reason

I somehow like can't stick too long with someone/with a group without feeling like the odd one out and kind of watching from the sidelines while everyone talks with eachother

Do you have self-esteem problems? Do you bring yourself down often? Sorry if the questions are too personal
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i always feel odd in groups simply because i dont speak, i just prefer to watch
i dont know if i have self-esteem problems, i dont think i have them
i like myself i think
do u
but well, i think i wont speak much if im not sure if the other person likes me
probably why im so shy
 
aryy said:
i always feel odd in groups simply because i dont speak, i just prefer to watch
i dont know if i have self-esteem problems, i dont think i have them
i like myself i think
do u
but well, i think i wont speak much if im not sure if the other person likes me
probably why im so shy
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Then the problem is just so minimal like

If you are not sure if the other person likes you, try to ask yourself why you are with him/her/the group in the first place? By the impression you give here you seem a cool person, just get that off your mind and just talk like hes your best friend yk
 
Mafia bob said:
Then the problem is just so minimal like

If you are not sure if the other person likes you, try to ask yourself why you are with him/her/the group in the first place? By the impression you give here you seem a cool person, just get that off your mind and just talk like hes your best friend yk
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well i know my friends like me
its also that im too lazy to pay attention in groups sometimes if it doesnt interest me
so i know theres a chance people will stop liking me because of it
thats why i try to hide what i feel i think
 
I had a g**k gf, she liked me a lot but I found her disgusting
 
aryy said:
well i know my friends like me
its also that im too lazy to pay attention in groups sometimes if it doesnt interest me
so i know theres a chance people will stop liking me because of it
thats why i try to hide what i feel i think
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If the discussion just doesn't interest you that's fine

And why would people just start hating you for being quieter? I assure you this almost never happens, and if it does they're probably not even worth it for you to consider them
 
Mafia bob said:
If the discussion just doesn't interest you that's fine

And why would people just start hating you for being quieter? I assure you this almost never happens, and if it does they're probably not even worth it for you to consider them
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that has happened before,
when i was a child some girls tried talking to me but i really wasnt interested
what i hate is i cant fake interest or lie properly
so they hated me because of it,
 
aryy said:
that has happened before,
when i was a child some girls tried talking to me but i really wasnt interested
what i hate is i cant fake interest or lie properly
so they hated me because of it,
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Childhood is a whole other context, if the person you have near you has a bit of maturity eould even find your trait quirky or special

Just leave that behind man
 
Mafia bob said:
Childhood is a whole other context, if the person you have near you has a bit of maturity eould even find your trait quirky or special

Just leave that behind man
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happened in early high school too
i used to sit with a girl, idk i dint like her humour i just used to smile
slowly she started hating me and stuff
i think people just dont like quiet people
 
aryy said:
happened in early high school too
i used to sit with a girl, idk i dint like her humour i just used to smile
slowly she started hating me and stuff
i think people just dont like quiet people
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Who cares about a random girl anyway?
 
aryy said:
yeah but i think its a general thing
im too lazy or shy to talk in a way if im not interested
just makes me doomed in a way
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It doesn't

It's not like you have no life

I just suggest you to not overthink it
 
aryy said:
i mean,
it just has always impacted me and all my relationships
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How much? And has it REALLY impacted your relationships by a margin abitually? If it did, it's most likely their problem. You can't just change your persona like that just for them, if they seemed really affected by it may them just fuck off you know
 
Mafia bob said:
How much? And has it REALLY impacted your relationships by a margin abitually? If it did, it's most likely their problem. You can't just change your persona like that just for them, if they seemed really affected by it may them just fuck off you know
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has always affected it ngl,
i mean my friends are used to it but if i meet a new person they really arent
i can talk alot if well, we are close i like them etc
but with most of my irls i really dont care personally so it affects it yk
 
i remember liking a girl for about 2 years and when she finally showed some interest i lost feelings
 
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