Lowk need help but cant afford therapy

[ImJsAGreycel]

Title, Im socially and otherwise retarded, im really looking to be able to talk to others well and have them get drawn in. How do you talk to people fluently in a way that has them intrigued and amused?

 

[The Dark Passenger]

I went to therapy once,is pretty shit.

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

I went to therapy once,is pretty shit.

when i did go it didnt really help so im hoping some genius monk is lurking and can bestow some advice

 

[#sensitiveyoungwoman]

Talking to someone you trust or feel safe around, sometimes therapy not worth it

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

Talking to someone you trust or feel safe around, sometimes therapy not worth it

tbh i dont really have close friends anymore, my old ones made fun of me or werent great to me so i stopped talking to them

 

[#sensitiveyoungwoman]

tbh i dont really have close friends anymore, my old ones made fun of me or werent great to me so i stopped talking to them

It’s good that you stopped talking to them

You should find a way, you can’t hold on to your pain forever

I can talk to you

 

[giga.mia]

People like to talk about themselves
You have to ask them about themselves and add on all these questions

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

People like to talk about themselves
You have to ask them about themselves and add on all these questions

i know the rule of letting them talk about themselves, and i do try but i sometimes realize im not being authentic and kinda lock in and get quiet and its awkward for them

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

It’s good that you stopped talking to them

You should find a way, you can’t hold on to your pain forever

I can talk to you

i do sometimes try but i funnily enough have avoidant attachment style and feel like an unempathetic chud around others. thank you for the offer i really appreciate it

 

[kerpetenozel]

Title, Im socially and otherwise retarded, im really looking to be able to talk to others well and have them get drawn in. How do you talk to people fluently in a way that has them intrigued and amused?

yea go to therapy and listen to some white collar pen clicking neurotypical three season woman talk bout sum "just be confident bro" it will help trust me

 

[kerpetenozel]

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Title, Im socially and otherwise retarded, im really looking to be able to talk to others well and have them get drawn in. How do you talk to people fluently in a way that has them intrigued and amused?

to answer your question though, that is not something in your control. of course you can definitely develop your social skills, but there is no way but maturing for that. so my best tips and tricks are:

do socialize and try to talk to people, and when you do talk to them as if you already know them, like they were a relative or a close friend. be level headed, speak clearly, don't rush and give yourself the moment you need to think about your next words

if they do reply and keep a conversation, then try to find the 'stepping stones' of the conversation. for example, if, let's say, you are talking about real madrid and they mention a player while expressing their thoughts, ask about that player, and when they're talking about that player try to spot the other things you can ask and/or talk about

if you do all that and the other person is still not contributing to the conversation, just stop chasing after them and go back to whatever you were doing, even if you think they're a close friend or whatever

and most importantly, try not to swear until you've at least discovered some parts of their personality (whether they get offended by it or not), don't curse out anybody's mother and/or anybody that's not THEM for 2 reasons: 1) there is usually little to no justification for it (except for cases where they swear at you first), 2) you can at least apologize if you keep the argument small-scale, but if you include others' reputation and name, then the fight snowballs into something that will take more to make up for

 

[sinning]

Title, Im socially and otherwise retarded, im really looking to be able to talk to others well and have them get drawn in. How do you talk to people fluently in a way that has them intrigued and amused?

I’m pretty extroverted so I might sound like a jerk, but just think of embarrassment being a social construct made to stop u from doing things and do what u want. You probably aren’t going to see or remember these people in 20 yrs, do what u wanna do

 

[Nenestar]

before you say anything, ask yourself this: "what would ayanokoji do?"

 

[Vastu07]

Title, Im socially and otherwise retarded, im really looking to be able to talk to others well and have them get drawn in. How do you talk to people fluently in a way that has them intrigued and amused?

Text me.
I take feet pics every week as my fees btw

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

I’m pretty extroverted so I might sound like a jerk, but just think of embarrassment being a social construct made to stop u from doing things and do what u want. You probably aren’t going to see or remember these people in 20 yrs, do what u wanna do

i force myself to talk to people all the time and im just horrible at it, im just gonna give up tbh

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

before you say anything, ask yourself this: "what would ayanokoji do?"

isolate and rope in a cold sigma manner

 

[sinning]

i force myself to talk to people all the time and im just horrible at it, im just gonna give up tbh

Do u have a nice smile

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

Text me.
I take feet pics every week as my fees btw

i have actually a few

 

[pickledonions]

therapy is shit

PM me for coaching I can teach you how to become your own father

 

[Vastu07]

i have actually a few

Them slide into my pms my dearest caterpillar

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

Do u have a nice smile

Im hideous bro

 

[ImJsAGreycel]

Them slide into my pms my dearest caterpillar

Alr man