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My Discomfort/“Fear” for Women is making my “Job” Awkward

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I recently picked up a student aide period for my schools main office and it’s pretty awkward rn

Firstly, the entire staff is entirely women which is perfectly fine, it’s nice to see women-ran authorities. The other student aide is also a woman (there’s a male aide but he’s frequently absent). So essentially, I’m a complete minority in this office

I believe most of the women there see me as weird as I avoid possible small talk to a great extent and just do what I’m asked to then read my boox. I don’t even look at them in the eyes when they talk to me 😂

It’s gets really awkward when I notice them trying to make attempts to get to know me. For instance, I’ve noticed the student aide making attempts to get to talk to her, and she’s tried moving her chair closer to me. I also catch her staring at me, maybe bc she thinks i’m creepy lmao. But I don’t pay mind to it and continue to read. She’s a lighter-skinned girl with a nice fashion sense and voice. Can’t rate her bc I never looked at her face lol

It makes it worse that the other male aide is chatty with the women in the office and is great at small talk/communicating with women.

This may be delusion, but I don’t think so. I pay close attention to their body language and the offices mood. I would quit if I didn’t need it badly.
 
I recently picked up a student aide period for my schools main office and it’s pretty awkward rn

Firstly, the entire staff is entirely women which is perfectly fine, it’s nice to see women-ran authorities. The other student aide is also a woman (there’s a male aide but he’s frequently absent). So essentially, I’m a complete minority in this office

I believe most of the women there see me as weird as I avoid possible small talk to a great extent and just do what I’m asked to then read my boox. I don’t even look at them in the eyes when they talk to me 😂

It’s gets really awkward when I notice them trying to make attempts to get to know me. For instance, I’ve noticed the student aide making attempts to get to talk to her, and she’s tried moving her chair closer to me. I also catch her staring at me, maybe bc she thinks i’m creepy lmao. But I don’t pay mind to it and continue to read. She’s a lighter-skinned girl with a nice fashion sense and voice. Can’t rate her bc I never looked at her face lol

It makes it worse that the other male aide is chatty with the women in the office and is great at small talk/communicating with women.

This may be delusion, but I don’t think so. I pay close attention to their body language and the offices mood. I would quit if I didn’t need it badly.
Chad ramblings dnr
 
I’d rather not lol; rather keep it awkward
Just talk about how bum the work is, it’ll probably be relatable
 
Just talk about how bum the work is, it’ll probably be relatable
I thought about that but there’s a problem: I’ve never a person complain about it shit to others—always seem pointless and weak to me
 
I thought about that but there’s a problem: I’ve never a person complain about it shit to others—always seem pointless and weak to me
Ok well ur probably gonna look autistic to them then. U could also jestermax but only works with guys and unsustainable if ur not creative
 
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U could also jestermax but only works with guys and unsustainable if ur not creative
Suicide would be a better option than doing that BS
 
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Yeah I think i’ll quit and try to be librarian aide or tech aide
 
Dead serious

I’m not of fan of eye contact so i’ll look somewhere else off into the distance or something else
Are u diagnosed with something?
 
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I’ve never been diagnosed with anything. i’m perfectly normal
ur social skills are literal dog tier tbh
 
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ur social skills are literal dog tier tbh
I swear they aren’t, I’m a pretty extroverted and charismatic guy

Just not when I’m forced to have direct conversationwith women
 
I swear they aren’t, I’m a pretty extroverted and charismatic guy

Just not when I’m forced to have direct conversationwith women
but why?
 
Lots of women are judgy, best to not interact or say anything to them than doing/saying the wrong thing

Nothing to talk to them about either—but this is for all people
 
Lots of women are judgy, best to not interact or say anything to them than doing/saying the wrong thing

Nothing to talk to them about either—but this is for all people
Doesn't seem like a good enough reason tbh, if ur truly extroverted and charismatic.. then you would just talk to ppl regardless of their gender. To me it seems like ur just a little shy or something. But u put on a proud face and say you just choose to not talk to them.
 
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Doesn't seem like a good enough reason tbh, if ur truly extroverted and charismatic.. then you would just talk to ppl regardless of their gender. To me it seems like ur just a little shy or something. But u put on a proud face and say you just choose to not talk to them.
you’re probably right lol

let me replace extroverted with “will talk to people if needed”
 
I recently picked up a student aide period for my schools main office and it’s pretty awkward rn

Firstly, the entire staff is entirely women which is perfectly fine, it’s nice to see women-ran authorities. The other student aide is also a woman (there’s a male aide but he’s frequently absent). So essentially, I’m a complete minority in this office

I believe most of the women there see me as weird as I avoid possible small talk to a great extent and just do what I’m asked to then read my boox. I don’t even look at them in the eyes when they talk to me 😂

It’s gets really awkward when I notice them trying to make attempts to get to know me. For instance, I’ve noticed the student aide making attempts to get to talk to her, and she’s tried moving her chair closer to me. I also catch her staring at me, maybe bc she thinks i’m creepy lmao. But I don’t pay mind to it and continue to read. She’s a lighter-skinned girl with a nice fashion sense and voice. Can’t rate her bc I never looked at her face lol

It makes it worse that the other male aide is chatty with the women in the office and is great at small talk/communicating with women.

This may be delusion, but I don’t think so. I pay close attention to their body language and the offices mood. I would quit if I didn’t need it badly.
Hmm.
 
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what’s the hmm’ing about
Choose.
1. Feel more comfortable around women
2. Have more confidence around women or in yourself
3. Feel comfortable in general
4. Other (pm me for this one)
 
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Choose.
1. Feel more comfortable around women
2. Have more confidence around women or in yourself
3. Feel comfortable in general
4. Other (pm me for this one)
what about 4 needs to be privately discussed, i’m interested now

i’ve already tried the first 3
 

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