Discussion why do i keep pushing people away

[trav]

honestly ever since college started i’ve had a lot going on, i’ve mentioned it before and tried to make more time for them, put in more effort n take initiative but it always ended up causing arguments
i haven’t seen my closest friend since may and at some point i genuinely started caring less, but we talked again in october and he suggested meeting up, i made time for it n agreed but this time he was busy, kinda feels like he did it out of “revenge” bc i’d turned him down before

maybe i don’t need anyone and i’m better off alone, but sometimes i still wonder if i’m actually the one at fault since i do hurt the people close to me sometimes

 

[xxx.tzyzz2.0]

its called growing up finding who you truly are and getting new experinces... did you genuinely think youd have your HS friends forever? lmao pulling the same thing not talking to no one from my hs after my senior year, nothing to talk about i got new better shi going on, push people away thats fine and use that extra time to improve

 

[typhon]

honestly ever since college started i’ve had a lot going on, i’ve mentioned it before and tried to make more time for them, put in more effort n take initiative but it always ended up causing arguments
i haven’t seen my closest friend since may and at some point i genuinely started caring less, but we talked again in october and he suggested meeting up, i made time for it n agreed but this time he was busy, kinda feels like he did it out of “revenge” bc i’d turned him down before

maybe i don’t need anyone and i’m better off alone, but sometimes i still wonder if i’m actually the one at fault since i do hurt the people close to me sometimes

You need people, its that you're insufferable to be with now.

Either you've been attractive, or met your friends when they were at a socially vulnerable time - and you've since maintained a domineering personality.

Just be a more likable, social person.

 

[trav]

its called growing up finding who you truly are and getting new experinces... did you genuinely think youd have your HS friends forever? lmao pulling the same thing not talking to no one from my hs after my senior year, nothing to talk about i got new better shi going on, push people away thats fine and use that extra time to improve

i cut off all contact with people from school in the first place. my close friends and i used to share common interests, but once i started college, a lot of things piled up and i couldn’t give them the attention they deserved
that’s what caused the conflicts and everything mentioned above. of course, i’ve gained a little more time for myself and my own things, but it’s still sad having to lose people who were once close to you

 

[trav]

You need people, its that you're insufferable to be with now.

Either you've been attractive, or met your friends when they were at a socially vulnerable time - and you've since maintained a domineering personality.

Just be a more likable, social person.

yeah, i’m definitely more pleasant to be around now than i used to be. i try to dedicate more time to the people close to me and the new people in my life
the problem is that i’m not particularly interested in these new people. we’re mostly brought together by circumstances rather than shared interests
but overall, i get your point

 

[xxx.tzyzz2.0]

i cut off all contact with people from school in the first place. my close friends and i used to share common interests, but once i started college, a lot of things piled up and i couldn’t give them the attention they deserved
that’s what caused the conflicts and everything mentioned above. of course, i’ve gained a little more time for myself and my own things, but it’s still sad having to lose people who were once close to you

i feel you theirs obv a emotional side to it you cant deny but the thing is you cant give it no mind and tend to deeply on it, "
we’re mostly brought together by circumstances rather than shared interests
but overall, i get your point" yeah same thing in hs yall were friends because yall were stuck in the same building, just relax a bit more to life than just friends, friends are just for pure entertainment, they really dont do much for you....but focus up on school hy

 

[trav]

i feel you theirs obv a emotional side to it you cant deny but the thing is you cant give it no mind and tend to deeply on it, "
we’re mostly brought together by circumstances rather than shared interests
but overall, i get your point" yeah same thing in hs yall were friends because yall were stuck in the same building, just relax a bit more to life than just friends, friends are just for pure entertainment, they really dont do much for you....but focus up on school hy

i’m not as hung up on friends/acquaintances anymore, so everything’s fine
every now and then, though, the thoughts i described above still cross my mind, which is why i got curious about what other people think about it

 

[iblamejordan1]

honestly ever since college started i’ve had a lot going on, i’ve mentioned it before and tried to make more time for them, put in more effort n take initiative but it always ended up causing arguments
i haven’t seen my closest friend since may and at some point i genuinely started caring less, but we talked again in october and he suggested meeting up, i made time for it n agreed but this time he was busy, kinda feels like he did it out of “revenge” bc i’d turned him down before

maybe i don’t need anyone and i’m better off alone, but sometimes i still wonder if i’m actually the one at fault since i do hurt the people close to me sometimes

Cuz you are too good for them