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A fundamentally missed part of looksmaxxing

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Girls can determine attractiveness in ~100ms, however study’s show in the following 5 minutes there initial findings are still flexible.

This idea can make someone below the looks threshold of a person be perceived in a romantic/sexual way even when they fall below the threshold.

So how?
I hypothesize now that we understand step 1 really well (face) we understand step 2 (flirting)

To detect it is hard but I think I have a “general proof” on how to do it and using it we can understand how it’s hard to 100% spot

1. Intent is there. You actually mean it romantically or sexually. No intent and it’s just behavior someone read into.
2. It’s not just friendliness. It carries a charge a platonic version of the same line wouldn’t.
3. It stays deniable. If called on it, you could plausibly walk it back. The moment you can’t, it’s not flirting anymore.
4. It’s aimed at a specific person. Not broadcast. Directed.
5. It leaves room to be read as interest. There has to be a door for them to walk through.

Miss intent and it’s nothing. Miss deniability and it’s a confession. Miss the charge and it’s friendship.

Now that we know how to do it… why can’t it we spot it?
BECAUSE ITS BY DESIGN
In order for it to be flirting it needs deniability
You can’t KNOW intent or even KNOW what they actually mean (because there is 2 ways to interpret it)

TLDR (flirting is solvable?)
 
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i don’t know if it’s solvable cuz it’s not a one sized fits all kinda thing, but i think it can be improved tbh through practice and repetition
 
i don’t know if it’s solvable cuz it’s not a one sized fits all kinda thing, but i think it can be improved tbh through practice and repetition
But if we know the rules and the patterns and intent… we should know how to actually play “thee game” and understand it yk
 
Girls can determine attractiveness in ~100ms, however study’s show in the following 5 minutes there initial findings are still flexible.

This idea can make someone below the looks threshold of a person be perceived in a romantic/sexual way even when they fall below the threshold.

So how?
I hypothesize now that we understand step 1 really well (face) we understand step 2 (flirting)

To detect it is hard but I think I have a “general proof” on how to do it and using it we can understand how it’s hard to 100% spot

1. Intent is there. You actually mean it romantically or sexually. No intent and it’s just behavior someone read into.
2. It’s not just friendliness. It carries a charge a platonic version of the same line wouldn’t.
3. It stays deniable. If called on it, you could plausibly walk it back. The moment you can’t, it’s not flirting anymore.
4. It’s aimed at a specific person. Not broadcast. Directed.
5. It leaves room to be read as interest. There has to be a door for them to walk through.

Miss intent and it’s nothing. Miss deniability and it’s a confession. Miss the charge and it’s friendship.

Now that we know how to do it… why can’t it we spot it?
BECAUSE ITS BY DESIGN
In order for it to be flirting it needs deniability
You can’t KNOW intent or even KNOW what they actually mean (because there is 2 ways to interpret it)

TLDR (flirting is solvable?)
i think the general formula there is right but its mainly a skill that needs to be worked on
 
so what would you propose for a generic deniable approach
It needs to be subjective but a back handed compliment seems to be the easiest way to check off all 4 requirements
 
Girls can determine attractiveness in ~100ms, however study’s show in the following 5 minutes there initial findings are still flexible.

This idea can make someone below the looks threshold of a person be perceived in a romantic/sexual way even when they fall below the threshold.

So how?
I hypothesize now that we understand step 1 really well (face) we understand step 2 (flirting)

To detect it is hard but I think I have a “general proof” on how to do it and using it we can understand how it’s hard to 100% spot

1. Intent is there. You actually mean it romantically or sexually. No intent and it’s just behavior someone read into.
2. It’s not just friendliness. It carries a charge a platonic version of the same line wouldn’t.
3. It stays deniable. If called on it, you could plausibly walk it back. The moment you can’t, it’s not flirting anymore.
4. It’s aimed at a specific person. Not broadcast. Directed.
5. It leaves room to be read as interest. There has to be a door for them to walk through.

Miss intent and it’s nothing. Miss deniability and it’s a confession. Miss the charge and it’s friendship.

Now that we know how to do it… why can’t it we spot it?
BECAUSE ITS BY DESIGN
In order for it to be flirting it needs deniability
You can’t KNOW intent or even KNOW what they actually mean (because there is 2 ways to interpret it)

TLDR (flirting is solvable?)
Do u have the sources for the studies? And good thread im sure it would be useful for some
 
i think the general formula there is right but its mainly a skill that needs to be worked on
Yes but HOW do we work on a skill if we don’t know the rules… we must know the game we are playing to play it or we are just guessing and checking
 
Yes but HOW do we work on a skill if we don’t know the rules… we must know the game we are playing to play it or we are just guessing and checking
nah u lwk got to figure out what works for you .Think about cooking most ppl dont learn through jst following recipes,or even humour u dont learn a guide for it.You have to do and be shit but repeat till u good
 
What about tease? Or is that too blatant
The problem with that is the line it’s playing is fundamentally different
The back handed compliment had 3 potential meanings (nice guy) (jerk) (flirt)

it’s easy to see the options and have your non flirtatious option to fall back to nice guy as your deniability BUT the insult of the tease has only (jerk) and (flirt) much harder dynamic to fall back on because now your a jerk
 
nah u lwk got to figure out what works for you .Think about cooking most ppl dont learn through jst following recipes,or even humour u dont learn a guide for it.You have to do and be shit but repeat till u good
You don’t learn how to emulsify randomly or learn what oils to use and when… experimenting is needed after understanding not before
 
Girls can determine attractiveness in ~100ms, however study’s show in the following 5 minutes there initial findings are still flexible.

This idea can make someone below the looks threshold of a person be perceived in a romantic/sexual way even when they fall below the threshold.

So how?
I hypothesize now that we understand step 1 really well (face) we understand step 2 (flirting)

To detect it is hard but I think I have a “general proof” on how to do it and using it we can understand how it’s hard to 100% spot

1. Intent is there. You actually mean it romantically or sexually. No intent and it’s just behavior someone read into.
2. It’s not just friendliness. It carries a charge a platonic version of the same line wouldn’t.
3. It stays deniable. If called on it, you could plausibly walk it back. The moment you can’t, it’s not flirting anymore.
4. It’s aimed at a specific person. Not broadcast. Directed.
5. It leaves room to be read as interest. There has to be a door for them to walk through.

Miss intent and it’s nothing. Miss deniability and it’s a confession. Miss the charge and it’s friendship.

Now that we know how to do it… why can’t it we spot it?
BECAUSE ITS BY DESIGN
In order for it to be flirting it needs deniability
You can’t KNOW intent or even KNOW what they actually mean (because there is 2 ways to interpret it)

TLDR (flirting is solvable?)
Flirting is testing interest and avoiding rejection in the first place, makes it easier to tell beforehand
 
Flirting is testing interest and avoiding rejection in the first place, makes it easier to tell beforehand
Yes but the point is … how do you do it? And more importantly how to spot it?
 
Flirting is testing interest and avoiding rejection in the first place, makes it easier to tell beforehand
yea easier said than done tho

it can be difficult for high inhib cucks like me to tell the difference between flirting and joking/being nice
 
yea easier said than done tho

it can be difficult for high inhib cucks like me to tell the difference between flirting and joking/being nice
Well… if you read the thing I kinda made a how to guide on it. I’ll figure out more and make a full polished version if you want it
 
Well… if you read the thing I kinda made a how to guide on it. I’ll figure out more and make a full polished version if you want it
i would love tips in recognizing interest in a full fleshed guide tbh

a girl has to straight up tell me she wants me for me to make any kind of a move i need to be more forward, would be easier if i could easily recognize attraction
 
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i would love tips in recognizing interest in a full fleshed guide tbh

a girl has to straight up tell me she wants me for me to make any kind of a move i need to be more forward, would be easier if i could easily recognize attraction
n***a I hate to be rude but don’t DNR the thread it literally has a checklist and explains the difficulties of spotting it
 
n***a I hate to be rude but don’t DNR the thread it literally has a checklist and explains the difficulties of spotting it
i know u did, and i appreciate it. I was under the impression u were offering to make a full fleshed guide and i was expressing my interest and i think the thread would do well
 
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i know u did, and i appreciate it. I was under the impression u were offering to make a full fleshed guide and i was expressing my interest and i think the thread would do well
I Lwk am thinking about just make like 30 guilds one for each hair type face shape and going through all of must reads and just condensing all the information… I got summer break so I Lwk could just be a looksmaxxing historian
 
I Lwk am thinking about just make like 30 guilds one for each hair type face shape and going through all of must reads and just condensing all the information… I got summer break so I Lwk could just be a looksmaxxing historian
would be legendary just don't forget abt me
 
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would be legendary just don't forget abt me
I would be moderately popular on .com

… I’m not like Gina suddenly become clav
 
Girls can determine attractiveness in ~100ms, however study’s show in the following 5 minutes there initial findings are still flexible.

This idea can make someone below the looks threshold of a person be perceived in a romantic/sexual way even when they fall below the threshold.

So how?
I hypothesize now that we understand step 1 really well (face) we understand step 2 (flirting)

To detect it is hard but I think I have a “general proof” on how to do it and using it we can understand how it’s hard to 100% spot

1. Intent is there. You actually mean it romantically or sexually. No intent and it’s just behavior someone read into.
2. It’s not just friendliness. It carries a charge a platonic version of the same line wouldn’t.
3. It stays deniable. If called on it, you could plausibly walk it back. The moment you can’t, it’s not flirting anymore.
4. It’s aimed at a specific person. Not broadcast. Directed.
5. It leaves room to be read as interest. There has to be a door for them to walk through.

Miss intent and it’s nothing. Miss deniability and it’s a confession. Miss the charge and it’s friendship.

Now that we know how to do it… why can’t it we spot it?
BECAUSE ITS BY DESIGN
In order for it to be flirting it needs deniability
You can’t KNOW intent or even KNOW what they actually mean (because there is 2 ways to interpret it)

TLDR (flirting is solvable?)
Have you test your theory on yourself
 

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